Your New Suit

 

Do you really know the people you think you know?  Has anyone in your life changed so drastically that they are unrecognizable? Have you changed?  Do you have the same people in your life for the last twenty years? Do you still trust them?  Do they trust you?  Every day, everything around you changes.  The seasons change, the trees change, and the animals in their natural habitat change.  Are you changing?  Have your mind and emotions caught up to your natural age, or are you still stuck in 1996?

One of the problems with having long-term friendships and long-term relationships is the rate at which someone changes.  You can never determine when those changes will take place, they just do.  Events, circumstances, and the desire to change are some of the things that can ignite that pivotal moment at any moment.  Either those changes extend the relationship or situation or it ends it completely.  There are no wrong answers, just paths to choose. Paths that lead to a better you.  There are some people who will never change and that is their choice.  You have to be brave.  You have to love and accept what you see in the mirror and a lot of people are not ready for that.  Never looking up, never looking down, they are just following the yellow brick road.   When you do change, when you do let go and allow, the need to resist or figure it all out goes away.  The come-up is no longer appealing.

I have changed a lot.   I had to remove and be willing to let go of all the relationships that served no real good purpose in my life. I had to remove titles and judge people by their actions.  I had to take a good look at the part I was playing in my own demise and remove myself and gravitate to those who match my vibe and speak my language.   Some would like you to believe that you are not who you say you are, or that you are naive, or that you are not worthy of anything but what they provide.  Well, those who have been through the fire and are still here, know that that is not true.  If anything you learned how to enjoy your own company.  You learned to study yourself and master yourself and see through people.  When you master yourself, you get to see the old self in those old people.  You get to see why they were in your life and why they come back. How many of you have run across an old X or someone from your past and thought, how the hell was this person ever in my life? I actually had sex with that?  You get to see why those people are in your past and why they must remain there.

When you upgrade your mind and your vision of the world and the people in it changes, you can no longer entertain what was.  If they are not growing with you, I guarantee they are growing against you.  You can only wish them well on their journey and thank them for the experience.   You can't put on a new suit and go sit in the gutter.  You can either go back to who you used to be and keep on that gutter suit or you can keep your new suit clean and be around other people who are wearing new suits and who can appreciate your new suit glow.  They know what it took to get there, and they can applaud you and your new suit because they earned one too.

Peace Within

Lavidus

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"Relationships"

Does your relationship suck? Are you happy?  Are you satisfied or are you just going through the motions?   What kind of relationship are you in right now? Here we are, we have chosen to co-exist in his conflict of personalities, although we have the approval of our friends and society, we are miserable. Or here we are and we have made it so far, there is no one I'd rather be with than you. What is your reality?

There are several different types of relationships, some work and some do not.  Most relationships are based on the agreement of two people to be faithful,  to just have sex with each other, and to hold hands in public.  Others are more conspicuous, they never show public affection, and are insanely jealous but are in an open relationship.  Whatever works, right?  Who defines your relationship? Is it better to hold on to comfort because it's familiar or is it too costly to take a risk on what you really want?

Relationships fall into one of three categories, or maybe all three.  If there are other categories, please chime in, I would love to know your status.  

1. We have been together so long that we are no longer lovers, just friends.  The love is there, but not really.  At this point, it will be too hard to start over and no one puts up with my shit better than you. Although the kids are grown and we are still together this relationship has been over for a very long time and I am just waiting on you to get hit by a bus, Love you.

2.  I love you, but my feelings have changed. I would tell you but the divorce will be too costly and the image we have created together will crumble.  So we will continue to pretend as if we are happy, just like our friends. How embarrassing it would be for our marriage to not last longer than theirs?  I will just have a small affair every now and again and pretend I don't know about your shenanigans and we'll come together on special occasions, and holidays, ok? 

3. It's always new.  You look at each other and you are able to bring out that same fire from day one.  You have had your bad days and you have had your good days, but you have always had each other, so the storms have never been lonely.  People can feel the love between the two of you and it makes them happy.   You give, you serve and you love each other and it shows.

Relationships are always what you make them.  You choose the person, and the time you spend.  Love is whatever you say it is, that definition is up to you.   Relationships help to define us, change us, and to make us better.  Hopefully, you are in a relationship that brings out the best in you even when you are not feeling your best.  Hopefully, you are in a relationship that makes you feel like the greatest, even when you do feel great.  If you are not in a fulfilling relationship, hopefully, you have the courage to change it.  Be with someone who you can completely be naked with, with your clothes on.  Find that love, be that love and you cannot go wrong.

Peace & Love

Teena Marie- Square Biz  💚💚💋Happy Friday!!

Lavidus

When It's Good to You, But Not Good for You

Greetings Beautiful People....💋💜💛💚

Owwww have you ever had something that was so good to you but not good for you?  Why is it that the hardest people and things to let go of are the things that provide us with the greatest high, but just simply is not good?  Things that we have to sneak to get it or that are tempting just feel better when we get them, right?  Whether it's people, places, or things,  re we really addicted, is that forbidden fruit that appealing? Or is it just something that we need to experience in order to get to where we need to be?

I used to love this man.  At least I thought I loved him,  I loved what he did with his magic wand.  I loved how he could maneuver around my body.  I loved how he could conquer and revive, ya know what I mean?  Had me completely blind to the facts.  But silly me, those were moments that I thought it was love.  He knew exactly what it really was because that's how he operated.  I thought well damn, it can't be this good with everybody?   Turns out it wasn't but he didn't find that out until he left and tried to come back.  Anyway... It didn't matter how good or bad it was, he was serving it up like hotcakes during Sunday Brunch. He was spreading it around like almond butter with all the nuts.   I could have easily chosen to continue to be blind, but what it was and what it wasn't became even more and more obvious and neither of us could not ignore the facts. .  He belonged over there and I belonged up there. We were on different shelves of life and I didn't have time for him to catch up. And besides, just because he looks the part, does not mean he knows the part.   

One more donut is good to you but may not be good for you.

One more night might be good to you, but may not be good for you.

Telling that lie might sound good to you, but in the long run, may not be good for you.

I know we all have experienced something that was so so bad but felt so so good, temporarily.  But for the love of ourselves, in order to keep our sanity and self-respect, we must let go of those relationships that only provide moments of happiness and years of despair. Let go of that job that seems to just drains you and keeps you from what you really want.  Letting go of that one-sided love, letting go of living an unfulfilled life.  I know that toxic shit can feel so good, temporarily.  But once you fully let go, you'll realize it wasn't the toxic shit that felt good, it was what you imagined it to be, you kept being disappointed by what you hoped it to be.  You created your own disappointment by believing something that you knew wasn't true.   There is strength in our lessons so don't be afraid of making mistakes, it's your chance to change and be honest with who you really are.   Learn to love yourself enough to know when something is good to you, but not good for you. 

Chocolate Love- Sanura & Raheem DeVaughn

Peace & Love

Lavidus

Don't Affirm, Accept.

We all have these fantastic journeys that we are traveling.  These journeys we call life, we don't always have all the answers, nor do we always have it all figured out.  Some of us are able to ride the wave and manage this thing called life and others not so much.  When you resist, life gets complicated.  In order to cope and to make ourselves feel better, one of the ways we confirm our existence is through

 affirmations.  We affirm what we want, we affirm who we are, and we affirm who we aspire to be.  I am worthy.  I am strong.  I am somebody, but are you really?   During this episode, I explore the idea of accepting ourselves where we are first before we affirm who we want to be. 

I am on my own journey of self-love and self-discovery and it has not always been easy or nice.  I am not perfect by any means, but I always seek what I believe to be right and just.  Earlier in my life, some of my decisions were made based on my lack of confidence and on what was safe. I wasn't aware of the safety net that I had created for myself which also stunting my growth.  I was not always allowing myself to flow.  I was affirming "I am open to receive..blah blah blah..all that is divinely mine blah, blah, blah.  Affirming, but not willing to take the risk.  Believing, but not really ready to step out of faith.  I had to check myself and align myself with the words that were coming out of my mouth.  I had to enjoy, relax and accept myself at the stage I was at and then confirm with conviction who I was becoming.

Before you start affirming to what you want next or what you want to become, accept where you are right now.  Accept not being exactly where you want to be or who you want to be.   Accept your imperfections and what you don't like, and be open to making changes for your highest good.  This love thing is not about getting to a point where you have reached all these goals or made this much money, it's about accepting and knowing who you are before you get there.   You are who you are and your path is designed for you and you only.   Don't start looking in the mirror when you get a new outfit, or when you get those nails done, look at yourself right now.  Appreciate who you are and how far you've come at this very moment.  Once you do, whatever you want next is on the way.

Peace & Love

Lavidus

Please Don't Date Me-100 More Reasons Why (AudioBook)

Woman!

They seem to be creating these fictitious power struggles between the two when none of us really exist.   All of a sudden, you have forgotten the power that women possess, maybe you do know, that's why all this confusion has been created.  Some of you would not even have a subject to talk about if you didn't talk about women. Some of you would not have a business if you didn’t talk about women.  You want to benefit from us, but not stand up for us.  You need a woman in your business in order for it to be a success.  Period.

Are we replaceable? Can a woman be replaced by something better or equal to?   I think not.  You’ll look like a fool, trying to put those big feet in those small shoes.  Are you trying to redefine what a woman is to include people who are clearly not women?  I am asking for clarification and understanding because I don't want to assume anything.  Women have fought too long in this world, all over the world for simple rights, now you want me to fight for this too? It would be easy if you didn't have to ask what is a woman.  It's obvious you have a clue.  All of a sudden you are unclear about what I am and when you are unclear you have a tendency to not acknowledge what is true.  I am a woman.  I have given birth to two children and at one point in my life, I was faced with the decision to have an abortion.  Have you ever been faced with those decisions?  Have you ever been faced with the challenge and the risk of choosing to carry a child for nine months or more? One in six women will experience sexual assault in their lifetime, how will you prepare your daughters for what they may experience?

A woman is why you, you, you, and you are here.  And if you were lucky you actually came through the canal and were breastfed with the best milk ever.  That's what a woman can do if that is what a woman chooses.  Has anyone ever told you what to do with your penis? It's almost insulting the extent that people will go to delay the inevitable.   Woman, do not take offense, keep your peace and follow your heart. Your intuition should be in overdrive, always trust it. You should be feeling something right now, you should be feeling a need to change the things that you have the power to change. 

What is a woman they say?

Umm yeah let me count the ways

Do you mean after all this time, a woman has never crossed yo' mind?

That is all that is on their mind, all day, every day, Woman.  What if today we decide, we don't want to carry your children.  We don't want to be your wife.  We don't want to be your equal.  We are not opposites or equals.  I don't need your rights, I have my own.  I don’t need your hair laws.  Do you really have to be told to respect someone’s hair?  You should be insulted that you are not mature enough to govern yourselves properly among people who are different than you.  You are different too and would expect the same.  I don't need your job. I don't need your approval.  I don't need your commitment, because I want to be free.  What if today, I decide to just do me.  

I supported your cause and forgot about mine

Raised five kids and nearly lost my mind

Handled the up and downs and your cheating ways

A woman is what I am, every single day!

I don't overuse my makeup

I don't need the glittery stuff

I work hard and play harder too

So give me my credit when the baby's due

What is a woman they may ask

A whole a lot of attitude and maybe some sass

She will climb the highest mountain, just to take a break

Turn it on in the bedroom and bake you a cake  

She can multiply and then divide just to make a point

Consider it done, on repeat, and then smoke a joint

Fight for this country, run this country all done by noon

The tides are turning, disruption is coming, so make her happy or you will see gloom.

It is time to stand up for what you believe in.  Stand up in any way that you feel is right.  We are all sharing this experience together and although we are all experiencing it through different lenses, we can all feel what is happening right now.  Do not get lost in fighting smoke.  It will dissolve and return as something else.  Take off the shades and see things clearly, before you invest your feelings.  Sun gaze new ways because the messages are on tap. Have you felt this before or is this something new? This wave into the future is all up to you.

Peace & Love

Lavidus

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You Need to Heal

This is a very abundant time. Despite all the things that are going on around us.  Despite all the unexpected changes that are taking place, this is a time when your thoughts will determine how far you go.  Your previous actions will determine how abundant this time will be.   It is a time of getting what you deserve.  It does not matter what side of the coin you are on, you definitely will be getting all you deserve.

It's also a time to focus on healing yourself, changing your ways, and making amends.  If you are not able to do that, then you will experience more of the same and it will progressively get worse.  If you are a hurt person,  stop hurting and start healing, because the karma you receive will be a heavy price to pay.  And some of you know damn well you can't take half the shit you dished out.  Focus on yourself.  Focus on ways on how you can improve and the things you need to change in order to flourish and not just exist.  Only you will know how honest you will be with yourself.   Some of you just have fucked up personalities and that's just the way that you are, and you exist in that space, not really knowing anything else.  That is your path and the people who are around you are on that same journey. It is what it is.

 For those people who have been counted out, disrespected, and underestimated, but kept going anyway, you are about to make people eat their words.  Your breakthrough is right now! The people who spoke ill words on your name, laugh at your dreams, they will experience (some may be already experiencing it) a starvation of the soul, one like they have never known. They will experience this for a very long time.  (All you had to do, was do what was right. But your jealousy and envy, became your friend and now that friend has made you the enemy.)  Do not worry about your fans/haters/frenemies, stay committed to your purpose, and play dumb when necessary. (wink, wink)

Control your emotions, control your thoughts.  Do not go so far outside yourself that you lose all control of what you want your world to be.  Remember, this world is still ours.  You have to be sure about yourself, have confidence, and believe in yourself.  This new world requires you to accept and love yourself just as you are.  We don't have to wear masks anymore, so why do you still have yours on?  Heal that inner child, honey, everything is going to be alright.   Once you start to make that shift, a lot has to fall away and when it does, accept it because I guarantee there is something better on the way.  

Peace & Love

Lavidus

Let It Happen

SHAME Love, Lies & Lust by L.L. Walton

                   

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Today I am reintroducing SHAME Love, Lies & Lust  It is the first book that I wrote with characters.  Each chapter has a section of love stories, lie stores, and lust stories.   It is a short book filled with short stories about the trials, and tribulations of being in love, sacrifice, and the consequences of your decisions.   Thank you all for your love and support.💓

I often reflect on my relationships and the state of mind I was in when I made the decision to allow certain people in my life.  When I reflect it is also a time to acknowledge how much I've grown.  I am thankful for those experiences and how they have helped me grow.  This life is all about the journey.  Wherever you are, wherever you are trying to go, do not underestimate the power of appreciating where you are right now.  Change always comes on time and is constantly happening.  You can try to delay it, you can even ignore it, and it happens whether you are ready for it or not.  Wouldn't it just be easier to accept life as it comes, let go of all control and relax into it?  All you have to do is manage your own thoughts and stay focused on your desired outcome.  Mind the business that feeds you and distractions do not exist. Most of you should know, that writers are excellent liars, give me an audience and I’ll tell you what to feed them. 

I am often disappointed when I believe in the maturity of humanity. You would think that after all this progression, people would be more accepting of people who are opposed to what they are used to, but I always get the same result. However, I am still hopeful that society will get to the point where they do not feel so intimidated by things and people they do not understand.  You cannot pick apart another without picking apart yourself.  I am just a reflection, so you do not have to tell me what you don’t like about yourself, I already see it. 

Do not rush, just let it all happen.  Patience is the key. Time is going as fast or as slow as it is going to go.  You cannot change the happening, just like you cannot change the past.   Too many people let the past control their current state of mind and they are making comparisons to a future that does not exist. What's done is done.  It's either time to ask for forgiveness, or forgive yourself and move on.  There is no growth allowing the past to live in your head like old weeds.  Create the space for new things and for new beginnings to grow.  Be brave and walk alone when necessary.  You can never go wrong with true intentions.  True Intentions. You can never go wrong by moving forward in honesty, your truth  and love. 

Lavidus

Curse Words

 

I thought I would have a little fun and ask how the fuck are you today?

That was an example of using an expletive in a positive manner.  Although most of us do not use expletives in our daily language, using profanity sometimes can be used to release tension, make a point, or to further express how we feel.  Before I go into all of the most used curse words, I want to define what a curse word is.  Curse words are words that can be used when throwing a curse or evil spell and with the right intention, it can affect the person you are cursing on an emotional level, similar to a real curse.  I believe curses only work on people in low emotional states.  For example,  it is easier to curse a person with low self-esteem than it is for a person who loves themselves.  I am sure some of you spellcasters are finding that out.  

The first curse word was Fuck and it was used in the year 1310 by a Monk who wrote it on a manuscript.  The word fuck has a Germanic origin and the original meaning meant "to strike" but as time went on the usage changed.  If you are from the east coast, "Get the fuck outta here" may mean whatever story you are telling, it is so unbelievable you need to leave with that bullshit.  Or it could literally mean get the fuck out of here.  The word fuck is often the obscene word that is used to refer to sexual manners.  You may hear things like, "Can we fuck?"  "Do you want to fuck?" or "I just got fucked".  And depending on which end of the meaning you are on that could be the worse fuck of all.   If someone is talking too much, you may hear someone say "Shut the fuck up", or  "What the fuck are you talking about?  If a person wants to inform you about some shit you may not know about they may say something like,  "I don't fuck with you."   Or if it's a lost cause, fuck it!

The most used curse word is Shit.  Yes, I often use it when I am in a bind,  running out of time, or just referring to a piece of shit.  Although the word literally means to defecate or to have diarrhea, the urban usage of the word shit is often used positively.  You may hear it being used to refer to how you feel about yourself or someone else, " I am the shit" or "they are the shit".  Or if you want to express how you feel about a song that you vibe with, you'll say something like "that's my shit" or "that's the shit.".  When you put someone in their place or embarrass someone with your superior skills, you may have just "Shitted on them."

Last but not least, the most mighty and powerful curse word, Bitch!   Of course, we all know that this word usually is referring to the female gender and can be defined as a female dog.  The word bitch began to be used in the late 1300's and early 1400s.  In the 1930's, it was used in the male homosexual community, as a playful reference to a dog.  Today, it is also used in songs and in regular everyday language. You will often find when a woman rejects a man's offer or does not find him appealing, the first thing he may call her is a bitch.  The term has also been used to refer to the emotional state of a woman.  If she is bossy and in control, then she is a bitch. If she wines and complains, then she is bitchy, you get my point.    In conversation, you may use it as a term of surprise, Biiitch! Or as a warning, "Bitch, if you don't get out my face."  In the early 1960's the term "Bitchin'" would refer to something that is awesome, the best or is unusually unique.  If you are on your shit and you don't give a fuck, then someone may refer to you as  "That Bitch".  All you real Bitches stand up!  You can use the word as empowerment or embarrassment, it is up to you to define what it means to you.

The countries that curse the most are Russia and France, they will curse you out because they don't give a fuck about your feelings. The UK, Australia, and the US are tied in their usage of curse words, and in China, they barely use curse words at all.  If you want to go where they curse the most in America, you can travel to  Ohio,  Maryland, New Jersey, Louisiana, and California. I guess you also know where all the intelligent people are.  If you want to go where it is very nice and polite, you can travel to Washington, Maine, Arizona, and Texas, but who gives a fuck, right?  The curse words that are honorable mentions are motherfucker, got damn, son-of-a-bitch and asshole.

Thank you for joining me today, I am going to go fuck around.  Tune in on Friday, maybe I'll have a freaky tale or something like that.   Be safe, stay loved up, and get out there and make it a great day, it is all yours.

Lavidus

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Your Voice

 

To get your week started on a good foot, today's positive affirmation from the Make Today Magical Positive Affirmation Card Set is "I have a voice that matters". There is nothing more powerful than what you say and how you say it.  If you can articulate what you feel and believe in, then you are already ahead of the game.  And if you can habla ortro idioma, that's even better.

Your voice and words are a frequency and have the potential to put people in a trance.  Not only does the voice enter and activate several areas of the brain, but the vibration itself can be healing.  When you are saying affirmations over and over, it is creating a vibration.  That vibration is sent out to the universe and the universe always responds.  

Have you ever heard the term, "words are mightier than the sword?  Words can cut because of the vibration that each word sends.  Have you ever heard the term "the truth hurts"?  The truth hurts because the vibration of the words of truth cuts through all illusions of what you thought you believed and what you thought was true and knowing the truth can sometimes hurt.   You should always watch your words.  Manifestations are happening faster and faster, so be careful what you say about people and what you say about yourself because you are always being heard, and that internal guide is always listening.   Especially, if you are speaking about people in an unjustifiable manner.   The untrue words you may spew about someone else will become your truth. So be careful, you don't want to cause damage to your own life while trying to cause damage to someone else's.  

Use your voice to be the catalyst for change.  Everything is happening all at once, confusion, lies, debauchery, crime, and love.  So choose the world you want to be in.  Every battle is not yours to fight, so make sure you are not using your voice for empty matters. 

If I say, "I love you", can you feel it?  If I tell you, "You are the best I've ever had, do you believe me?  We all like to hear words that sound good, from music to speaking to singing voices.  That is the power of a frequency that we all have the power to tap into and use to our advantage.  We can change our voice to fit our mood or to change someone else's.  I learned on YouTube that Michael Jackson really had a deep voice, but he talked in that falsetto tone all the time to train his voice to be that way.  It opened the gateway for him to become the greatest entertainer in the world.  There isn't a song that Michael sang that did not move you in some kind of way. Would you like me better if I sound like this, or would you like it if I sound like this?  

I used to get laryngitis every year for about five or six years in a row,  and it would always happen in the month of  October.  For those of you who do not know what laryngitis is, it is an inflammation of the voice box.  It can happen when you get a cold, overuse your voice or some kind of irritation.  I would lose my voice for about a week, then it would recover.  Since I started using ginger, honey, and lemons,  I have not had laryngitis for a very long time.  I understand the power of the voice and it can be used in various ways, so I always take care of it.

No matter who you are, you have a voice and that voice is yours to use.  Use it for change and to empower yourself.  There is no need to go about talking jibberish, leave that to the politicians and the people who are professional delusionary speakers.  I often find it hard to indulge in small talk, because it doesn't require much thinking.  Yes, it is a skill to draw people in to listen, and before you know it you've spent half an hour or more listening to something that you do not understand.  Your energy has fueled an unbelievable truth.  You will take that unbelievable truth and spread it.  Remember, people will say things that are not the truth and it doesn't have to be, it just has to be believable, and once you believe it you make it true, whether it's really true or not.

Your voice is your voice.  Speak the life you want into existence.  And if your mama didn't tell you, I will.  If you don't have anything nice to say, be quiet, shut up, go to your room. 

That's all I have for today, tune in on Wednesday, my favorite day of the week to see what I discuss because right now I have no idea.  I am not prepared and I am winging it this week just to see what flies.  Tune in, I really appreciate all of you who listen to my podcast.  Get out there and make it a great day, it is all yours.

Lavidus

You Are Valuable

Before I get started just a couple of announcements, On Fridays, I will be answering the Question of the Day.  If you would like for me to answer any of your relationship questions, please send them to relationshiptalkpodcast@gmail.com.

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To get your week started, I want to share a positive affirmation card I pulled from the Make Today Magical Positive Affirmation Card Set. I actually received this as a gift for my birthday, or was it for Christmas?  It's a 24-card set and each card has a positive affirmation.  On the back of each card, you can fill in the blank of something that you are proud of or something that you believe you are capable of.  I believe if you write it down then it is true. I often refer to these cards when I am unsure, I need a pick me up, or when just want to change my mood and increase my belief system.  

Today's card says  "You Are Valuable". Yes, you are. No matter where you are, no matter who you are, you are valuable.  This message is for those who do not feel like their life has no longer any meaning. You feel as if you can not go on or that you are worthless.  The fact that you wake up every day gives you another chance to give it meaning.  Your mind has to be stronger than your circumstances.  You have to train your mind to be and do what you want it to do. Even when you come across obstacles, those are only opportunities to increase and expand.   Our bodies are one big electromagnetic field. We feed our brains all kinds of things and thoughts and beliefs throughout the day, attracting what's necessary.  Although it's not always what we want, it is always for our highest good. The one thing that we are constantly streaming is how we feel about ourselves.  How we feel about ourselves plays a huge part in who and what we value. 

Let the belief in yourself be stronger than anyone's opinion.  Do not allow anyone to determine your value, only you can do that.  Take a moment to think about the things that people value.  They may value their home, car, their job, family, or money.  They may even value the time they spend or value who they spend it with.   Do you feel valued in your relationships?  Do you feel valued on your job? You are valuable enough to change and do better if you want to.   You are valuable enough to take responsibility for your actions.  You are valuable enough to stand and speak your truth.  You are valuable enough to be loved and accepted. You are valuable enough to be forgiven.  You are valuable enough to exceed expectations.  You are valuable enough for a second chance. 

We spend a lot of time in relationships hoping people see who we are, but do you know your value?  Do the people around you represent your value?   How valuable is your life?  Take the time to practice being ok with being ok with yourself.  Because, through all the stages and mistakes, you are still valuable.

That's all I have for today, tune on on Wednesday, hump day, my favorite day of the week for three ways to recognize an energy vampire.  They have a tendency to butter you up before they suck you dry.   Until then, get out there and make it a great day, it's all yours.💓

Lavidus

Trust Yourself

Have you ever felt an inkling about something?  Have you ever had a gut feeling?  Have you ever had a thought that came from nowhere and you acted upon it without any logical reason? That is your inner guide.  Some make call it your higher self or intuition. I like to call it your inner-navigation system.  It always tells you what's right and when you ignore it, you get lost. You must develop that amazing extra sense that you have.  One day, it will be all you need.  You can barely trust the things that people are telling you these days.  People will literally look you in the eye and straight-up tell you a lie and feel no qualms about it.  But the one thing that a liar can not do is hide the truth.  

So you might ask, how does one learn to trust their gut?   You learn by trusting it and never doubting it.  You learn by asking questions and when the answer comes, don't be surprised because you already felt it was true.  Sometimes all this amazing navigation system does is confirm what we already know.   You knew she was cheating.  You knew he had a woman.  You know damn well she is not going to take you back.  You knew you didn't deserve her, but you tried anyway. These are the things that you tell yourself because you already know.  Unles, you are allowing fear to dictate your future in a negative way.  That's another episode because you can manifest your fears and that's different than trusting your intuition.

I remember once when I was dating a guy who paid for me to take a flight from California to Atlanta to make up to me for his cheating. Yeah, you know they go all out when they have screwed up.  I loved this man, but the actual catching him cheating was the end for me.  I had a feeling that once I got to Atlanta, it was not going to be a good trip.  My heart had already been broken so I was not going to go all the way to Atlanta to tell him, No, again. That would have been another argument, and considering where I was going I would not have been able to just leave.  But, I still wanted to visit Atlanta.  I was packed and ready to go, but when the time came, my body literally became heavy and I had to sit down.  I sat there and I felt like I should not go.  The feeling was so strong that I would have been crazy to try and make it to the airport.  I missed the flight.  I missed the driver, with the limo and the flowers, but his friend made sure he told me exactly how he felt about it.  I knew at that point I had made the right decision.

The only way to have a great relationship with your higher self or intuition is to trust it.  Like any relationship, trust is a key component.  Learn to trust yourself, your decisions, and your way of living. Do not depend on outside sources to be your decision-maker, trust how you feel and go from there.   Do not let too many times go by that you have to say, "I knew It!"  It will save you a lot of headaches if you allow yourself to be guided and make decisions on how you instinctively feel.   Do not try to control so much of what you think you may know.  If you are feeling unsure, then give it time. If you ever get the feeling that you should not do something, trust it, and don't do it.  If you ever get the feeling that this is something that you can do, then take the risk, it might turn out better than you think.  

Peace & Love

Lavidus

 

Your Thoughts Matter

So what do you think about yourself?  We all have opinions, but what is your opinion of yourself? I am not going to tell you to love yourself and give you some great affirmations to help you stir your soul and keep you motivated. No, time out for that.  Today you will take the first step towards becoming accountable for your life. We all know how to go on youtube and find anything we want.  We can find information on how to do almost anything.  But who put all that information for you to find on that phone, laptop, or computer?  It must have been something greater than the computer itself, right?  It had to be something that can anticipate the needs of humans.  Before any of that can took place, it was a thought.  Someone's thoughts created the huge information highway that we all use today. I believe it was Charles Babbage, in the 1800s, but he was before his time and when you are before your time, they let time pass and then reintroduce you at a later time.

I want you to get an idea of how powerful your thoughts are.  I want you to understand that everything that is around you has been created by your thoughts.  It was by your design. At some point, throughout the day someone has had the same thoughts and ideas as you.  The better idea or the stronger thought will be fueled by belief, persistence, and creativity. I mean that is why you create vision boards and say affirmations, right?  You are confirming what you want or what you want to create and you are creating it first in your mind.  Your thoughts have a vibration and the more you focus on something the more you send out that request, eventually what you are focusing on will come to you if you are able to maintain that thought or vibration.  Some of you want things but get discouraged because it took too long.  Some of you had someone in your ear sending you messages and creating actions of derailment to take you off course,  and for some of you, it worked.  If you are wondering why nothing is working out for you, it may just not be for you.  Some of you are going after things that you will never be aligned with, but you just don't know it yet. 

So let's get back to you being accountable for your thoughts.   You are the creator of all that is in your life.  Unless you are running around and someone else has your remote, then this life is all on you.  No one can make us do anything that we don't agree with. Voluntarily or involuntarily, we give in.  Nothing really happens to us, it happens for us and even on our worst of days, you still have the power to change it.   When you are blaming other people for your misfortunes, blaming other people for your lack, blaming other people for whatever you didn't do, it is because you have taken a backseat in your own life and someone else is running it, how does that feel?   It also means you have yet to take the proper inventory of your life and see things for what they are and who you are.  I cannot tell you all the things people have done to impede my progress, to create roadblocks only to be sent back to the drawing board.  I have plenty of knives in my back, but they are in my back, so I keep moving forward while gaining momentum in the process.  Alchemy.

People. family and friends come into our lives as tests, and we are all playing Mario trying to beat the gorilla in order to get to the next level.  When we run into roadblocks, make bad investments, and do not think things through it means our thoughts are not aligned with what we are supposed to do.  We lose all foresight and have no idea what's next because we're too caught up in the past.  When you are so bent on watching and hurting people and stepping on them, you'll soon be reminded of how small your thoughts are.  There has got to be some other pressing issue that needs your attention than focusing on people who are minding their business. If it's not, then it's about to be.

There's freedom in your thoughts.  There's love, there's the creation and your mind, body, and soul have to be aligned for greater things to happen.   There is nothing that can trap you more than your mind.  Your mind can be a friend or a foe.  It plays games and confirms our comfort because the truth will always make us uncomfortable.  We must reprogram ourselves to accept ourselves just as we are and handle the shit we don't like, without making it someone else's problem. We have the power to be anything.  How bad do you want it?   If you need approval from others, you may not make it.  If you let fear dictate your life, then you are not built for this.  Your thoughts should fascinate you and make and take you places, not create obsessions and help you lose all grips on reality.  I am waiting to see what you create. I am waiting to see how you use the power of your mind because your thoughts are the only thing that matters.

Peace & Love

Lavidus

Question of The Day!

Can you fake love someone for a long time or will you get caught?

Yes, and people do it all the time for selfish reasons.  They are either in the relationship for money, a place to stay, clout, or some other superficial reason that they may find beneficial.  It's all about what they are gaining by pretending they love you.

These people have some kind of disassociative personality disorder because even though they know what they are doing is wrong, they believe in their own facade, which creates a level of comfort so they also believe they'll never get caught. 

Do these people ever get caught?  Yes, they do.  I imagine being fake becomes exhausting and when that mask fall off and you can see their true face, it will require for them to do more work.  If they have been deceiving you for a long time, they are less likely to want to put in more work to continue the facade and that's when things will get real interesting.  If you're lucky they will just up and disappear.

If they have invested too much in the fakeness they may find it hard to let go of their idea of what's real. They will start to either try to make you look bad among people who adore you, create imaginary problems, so you'll need them to solve them and do all they can to make you seem unstable all because they know, their gig is up.  

Although you may feel like a fool for ignoring the signs and for not leaving or acting upon your intuition years ago, the opportunity will present itself and this time it cannot be ignored. This becomes a lesson for the both of you.  You will gain self-worth and learn to trust your intuition and they will hopefully see themselves for the hurt person they are and get some help.  Or they will move on to other people who are like them and remain in their toxic cycle unable to come to terms with their own self-destructive behavior.  

Lavidus

Several Ways to Please Him...

Today I will be sharing several ways to please him.  It is Springtime, the birds are singing, the trees are greener and the sun is shining bright.  There's a sweet smell in the air for those who can float that high.  The mood is requiring you to indulge in some pleasure.  The waves of desire are stronger and this time anything goes.  It's not for the frivolous. It's for those who can handle the power behind it and the consequences of giving in to what fuels your fire.  Transformative energy that will send you skyrocketing into outer space.   The kind that will send you to several places with each stroke.  The kind that changes your life because it was time someone gave it to you how you deserve.  Yes, baby come over, I have something for you, and I hope you like it.  Whew!!

Ok, I am back.  

Yes, when it comes to pleasing a man there is something that you should know about his anatomy.  It is very sensitive.  Stroke him on the chest, his back, or neck, while having an intimate conversation and he will relax and fall deep.   A man is not only fueled by the vision that is in front of him but your ability to touch places before you actually touch places.    What you do before any of the physical takes place initiates the effort this man will put in when he does get that chance to put it in (pun intended).  Be a great listener, let him talk,  pay attention to how he leads, and you be an active follower.

Does your man trust you enough to go outside his comfort zone when it comes to his desires?  Or is he getting those needs met outside of your relationship?  Are you ready to fulfill them with no judgment? Your man must feel comfortable enough to not only discuss what he wants with you but also wants you to fulfill those needs.   I highly suggest if he is wanting you to do or perform anything outside of your comfort zone, please just do not do it.  Do not compromise your integrity for anyone.   

 A woman can offer several things to a man, but the one that makes him think and feel will outlast all others.  The one that can touch those unchartered territories. When it comes to pleasuring him, you should do it better than anyone else.   An unexpected kiss can turn any man on, well at least mine can.  Always flirt and keep it sexy for no reason, because remember he's visual and he loves to look at the meal before he eats.  When was the last time you winked at him, licked your lips, blew him a kiss, or whispered something nasty in his ear? Let's not lose sight of the small things, because they always lead to bigger things.  

This weekend try something new.  Close down for the weekend and be all into each other.  Get outside and let the sun ignite you.  Look into each other's eyes when you are talking, and pay attention to all of his needs spoken and unspoken.  Some of you know what I am talking about.  Before you meet or follow through with your plans, imagine how you want the day or night to be and make it happen.

Peace & Love

Lavidus

Eleven Penis's Later...

Click the link below to listen to my perspective regarding a woman who married eleven penis’s.

You can find this episode in my podcast archives.

"She can't even lie about the number of lovers she's had because eleven of them are on record."  Lavidus

Peace & Love

Lavidus

I can never be Offended

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I oftentimes find myself thinking about the way things are.  In my effort to understand this vast world that we live in, I know that I could never be offended by the thoughts of others.

I can never be offended by your ignorance, I see you wear it bright, so let it shine.

I can never be offended by your lack of intelligence or your ability to sum me up without knowing who I am. I don't know who you are either, so why bother?

I can never be offended by your desire to seek and destroy.  I can only hope that you discover yourself in the midst of your mental clouds that bind you to your unsavory thoughts.

I can never be offended by your limited opinion.  It's limited, so I will only expect you to understand me as well as you understand yourself.  The mirror is your friend until it becomes your enemy.  It's not me you see in your mirror, so address your real enemy.

I can never be offended by what you think you see.  Some of you are blind with your eyes open, and illusions are the cane that you lean on to guide you through life. Maybe if I attach myself to a capital letter to claim my existence they will finally see me.  The illusion seems so real until you wake up.

I can never be offended by people I've never met, people who think with their mouths open and ears closed.  People whose perception is as shallow as a puddle on the sidewalk.  A perception nonetheless, that holds existence only in your mind and has nothing to do with nothing.

I can never be offended because that would mean that I resonate with the offense.  It would mean that now I am on your level of the basement and the only way that you can relate to me is to have me beneath you.  Rise up to the occasion.  You see me because I am from the clouds.  I am the sky.  You know I cannot come down, so why even try?

Peace & Love

Lavidus.

New Beginings...

Each day we are granted a new beginning.  A chance to start again.  A do over, if you will.  But how many of us take advantage of the day?  How many of us let the stress of yesterday seep it's way into a new day?  How many of you have let a long term problem fester?   The time is now.  There is no more delaying the things that you must change, or let go because there is no time like the present.  

I recently had a conversation with a man who wasn't sure if he should let his "situation" go.  I called it a long term relationship.  His situation was he was with a woman with four children, none of them are his.  He wants to have children and she is done having children.  They both are feeling the strain of the relationship because he is taking care of four children that are not his and wants to be a father.  She has told him she would understand if he wanted to go on to another relationship that would provide him children.  Instead of being honest and having a honest conversation, he wants to cheat on her instead.  Once he cheats and she finds out, guess what?  The relationship will still be over.  Her suggesting that he can leave, was too easy.  He wanted to hurt her first, so he could validate her leaving him and relieve himself of the guilt of leaving her with four kids. An honest conversation would eliminate all of that.  How do you co-exist in a relationship with someone you can't be honest with?  Sometimes people hold on to you just to prevent you from being happy with someone else. My point is,  do not ever waste time in a situation that you know you should leave.  Honor that gut feeling, it's never wrong.

Starting over is not easy.  I have lost count of the many times I had to start over.  The numerous of times I lost things and started from nothing.  It seemed bleak at first, but once you look at it as an opportunity, then the ideas start to flow, the gates began to open and life becomes what you imagined.  Starting over is a great opportunity to do what you didn't do.  It is a chance to put into practice what you learned from the last mistake.  Let the change take place and grow from the lesson.  We are all here to experience life and share that experience.  There are no perfect methods to existing, so seize the day!  Become like water and flow.  

Peace & Love

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