Excerpt VI "SugarBelle" Intro to Damien

Damien

Click the Relationship Talk podcast link to listen to an excerpt from the book "SugarBelle". I am currently writing the ending and these characters have taken me on a trip and back again.  If you want to read about the beginning of SugarBelle's and Damien's toxic love affair, Click the link to the right and order SHAME- Love, Lies, and Lust.

Thank you for sharing this journey with me, one day these stories will be on the big screen, or on a stage, and go beyond what I can ever imagine.😊

Peace & Love

Lavidus 

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Your New Suit

 

Do you really know the people you think you know?  Has anyone in your life changed so drastically that they are unrecognizable? Have you changed?  Do you have the same people in your life for the last twenty years? Do you still trust them?  Do they trust you?  Every day, everything around you changes.  The seasons change, the trees change, and the animals in their natural habitat change.  Are you changing?  Have your mind and emotions caught up to your natural age, or are you still stuck in 1996?

One of the problems with having long-term friendships and long-term relationships is the rate at which someone changes.  You can never determine when those changes will take place, they just do.  Events, circumstances, and the desire to change are some of the things that can ignite that pivotal moment at any moment.  Either those changes extend the relationship or situation or it ends it completely.  There are no wrong answers, just paths to choose. Paths that lead to a better you.  There are some people who will never change and that is their choice.  You have to be brave.  You have to love and accept what you see in the mirror and a lot of people are not ready for that.  Never looking up, never looking down, they are just following the yellow brick road.   When you do change, when you do let go and allow, the need to resist or figure it all out goes away.  The come-up is no longer appealing.

I have changed a lot.   I had to remove and be willing to let go of all the relationships that served no real good purpose in my life. I had to remove titles and judge people by their actions.  I had to take a good look at the part I was playing in my own demise and remove myself and gravitate to those who match my vibe and speak my language.   Some would like you to believe that you are not who you say you are, or that you are naive, or that you are not worthy of anything but what they provide.  Well, those who have been through the fire and are still here, know that that is not true.  If anything you learned how to enjoy your own company.  You learned to study yourself and master yourself and see through people.  When you master yourself, you get to see the old self in those old people.  You get to see why they were in your life and why they come back. How many of you have run across an old X or someone from your past and thought, how the hell was this person ever in my life? I actually had sex with that?  You get to see why those people are in your past and why they must remain there.

When you upgrade your mind and your vision of the world and the people in it changes, you can no longer entertain what was.  If they are not growing with you, I guarantee they are growing against you.  You can only wish them well on their journey and thank them for the experience.   You can't put on a new suit and go sit in the gutter.  You can either go back to who you used to be and keep on that gutter suit or you can keep your new suit clean and be around other people who are wearing new suits and who can appreciate your new suit glow.  They know what it took to get there, and they can applaud you and your new suit because they earned one too.

Peace Within

Lavidus

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Ride the Wave

Just Checking In......

Life happens in waves and if you can navigate those waves, life gets easier and you have a clearer understanding of why it all had to happen.  You learn to go on with a new attitude and leave those things that no longer serve you behind.   It gets easier to leave those things behind and move towards those things that feel good.  Those things that actually add to your happiness, are the only things that really matter.

When you get to a certain stage in life, everyone can't go with you. There are doors and chapters that will be closed forever.  Everyone will not be happy for you and everyone will not have a place in your future.   Some roads you must travel alone in order to get the full view of what this road may have just for you.  Everyone may not understand your path in the first place, so it is not up to them to determine your worth.  This is your life.  This is your gift, what are you going to do with it?

There is power in knowing who you are.  Power in knowing about the abilities that exist in us all.  We won't all have the same lessons to learn, and we won't all have the same experiences, but we all can come together and move mountains.   Imagine competing and comparing yourself to someone who does not even have the same purpose as you.  What a waste.  When you are able to dive into who you are and expose those parts of yourself that you won't even look at, there's a level of freedom that becomes a part of your existence when you can fully accept yourself. You may even wonder what took you so long to get to this place or wonder why it had to be you or wonder why your life is this way.  Well, none of that really matters.  What matters is that you are able to find yourself at every stage of your life, get lost, find yourself, get lost again and discover yourself. Get lost and love every part of it.  

One of the most unfortunate things in life is not being able to live in your truth.  Some of us, some of them, some of U’s are living but not really having the ability to live.  Loving without really having the ability to be loved.  Existing but not really feeling anything.   It all becomes empty emotions on repeat because those fictitious feelings become real and you hold on to the parts that you thought you needed.  Learn to release and let it all go.  Life is but a dream, so just learn to step back and ride the wave. 

Lavidus

"A person who doesn’t live in their truth can never make you happy.” LLW

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"Relationships"

Does your relationship suck? Are you happy?  Are you satisfied or are you just going through the motions?   What kind of relationship are you in right now? Here we are, we have chosen to co-exist in his conflict of personalities, although we have the approval of our friends and society, we are miserable. Or here we are and we have made it so far, there is no one I'd rather be with than you. What is your reality?

There are several different types of relationships, some work and some do not.  Most relationships are based on the agreement of two people to be faithful,  to just have sex with each other, and to hold hands in public.  Others are more conspicuous, they never show public affection, and are insanely jealous but are in an open relationship.  Whatever works, right?  Who defines your relationship? Is it better to hold on to comfort because it's familiar or is it too costly to take a risk on what you really want?

Relationships fall into one of three categories, or maybe all three.  If there are other categories, please chime in, I would love to know your status.  

1. We have been together so long that we are no longer lovers, just friends.  The love is there, but not really.  At this point, it will be too hard to start over and no one puts up with my shit better than you. Although the kids are grown and we are still together this relationship has been over for a very long time and I am just waiting on you to get hit by a bus, Love you.

2.  I love you, but my feelings have changed. I would tell you but the divorce will be too costly and the image we have created together will crumble.  So we will continue to pretend as if we are happy, just like our friends. How embarrassing it would be for our marriage to not last longer than theirs?  I will just have a small affair every now and again and pretend I don't know about your shenanigans and we'll come together on special occasions, and holidays, ok? 

3. It's always new.  You look at each other and you are able to bring out that same fire from day one.  You have had your bad days and you have had your good days, but you have always had each other, so the storms have never been lonely.  People can feel the love between the two of you and it makes them happy.   You give, you serve and you love each other and it shows.

Relationships are always what you make them.  You choose the person, and the time you spend.  Love is whatever you say it is, that definition is up to you.   Relationships help to define us, change us, and to make us better.  Hopefully, you are in a relationship that brings out the best in you even when you are not feeling your best.  Hopefully, you are in a relationship that makes you feel like the greatest, even when you do feel great.  If you are not in a fulfilling relationship, hopefully, you have the courage to change it.  Be with someone who you can completely be naked with, with your clothes on.  Find that love, be that love and you cannot go wrong.

Peace & Love

Teena Marie- Square Biz  💚💚💋Happy Friday!!

Lavidus

Intentional Living

Are you living your life with intention or are you on auto-pilot?  Are you doing the same thing every day, with no variation to the program?  Does your environment support your health?  Why do we live so vicariously through people who are living fake lives instead of honoring and recognizing those who are innovators, the rebellious, the thinkers, and the doers?  The creators, the people who are truly in touch with themselves and unattached to outcomes.  How intentionally are you living?

Every day I wake up, I am grateful, but often I have no real plan and I don't have it all figured out.  I only hope to check off a few things from my to-do list and enjoy my day.  I used to give myself a lot to people, situations, jobs and often found myself with little to give myself.   Once I decided to change that, I began to see the true nature of those people who benefited from my kindness.  It made me even more aware of how much I gave of myself with little in return.  One thing I know about givers is they never really expect anything, they find joy in someone else's joy, but they also can get exhausted and resentful if given to the wrong people or situations.  I decided to go inside and find the core of what I am about and why a lot of things just had to be.  I had to be betrayed to find my strength.  I had to make a few bad decisions to find a better way.  

When you go on that journey of self-discovery you find out a little about who you are each day.  Each day you build on that and become stronger in who you are and in what you believe.  Knowing yourself is essential to healthy living, essential to those necessary boundaries, and essential to how you decide to proceed through life. Each day we decide if it will be a  continuation of the previous day or a whole new day to do something different.  It is always our decision.  If there are any distractions, obstacles, or unexpected things that come up throughout the day, take a moment to think about how you will handle them.  

 

How much time are you spending doing exactly what you want to do?  How often are you in the presence of people who uplift, accept, and love you just as you are?  You do not have to be anyone else but yourself to receive love,  have success, and anything else you want in this world.  But first, accept who you are.  Accept the shitty parts of yourself, as well as the great.  

Self-acceptance is very powerful because it takes away the judgment of others and it forces them to accept what's different and it forces you to stand in that power.  Oftentimes, it also forces those who oppose you to either look at themselves and their actions and accept who they are or fall deeper into the abyss of self-denial. Again, you choose.  

 Life becomes a simple place to exist when you are intentional with your thoughts and actions.  Not only are you aware of what you are doing, but you are also creating your desired outcome. When you are taking care of yourself, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually you are also helping taking care of others. When you spend an exorbitant about of time thinking about what someone else is doing, stalking, gossiping, and complaining, you are taking away from yourself and voluntarily giving up your power to people who barely even think of you.

Aaliyah- At Your Best ( You Are Love)💝💝💖

Peace & Love

Lavidus

Celebrity Knews!

If you listen to my podcast you will know that I rarely talk about current events.  I rarely talk about celebrities or politicians or comment on too many fluff stories.  Some are just characters playing their part in the world, designed for a specific purpose and some are not.  I have noticed a slight trend that will soon affect you and me.   How important is it to be able to say what you want to say?  What if your opinion is offensive to a group of people or a religion, should you not be able to have or share that opinion?  What if you wore your opinion on a t-shirt?  When practicing your free speech, should you be banned and shut down or honored and respected?  

A few recent events have piqued my interest in the celebrity world.  Let’s begin with Andrew Tate, (who oooozzeess confidence among other things) who has been banned from all social media outlets because of his opinion on women or was he speaking facts?   Are these the same social media outlets that will only show my videos if I show some ass, or expose some cleavage or do some really dumb shit, you mean all of a sudden care about women?  Do you mean to tell me the social media outlets that shadowban, and that has a debilitated algorithm really care about women?   Oh ok. 

Let's move on to Kanye "Genius" West, who apparently said something anti-semitic, and was banned from all social media outlets. He must have said something that was true because if it was a lie, why protect it so much?    These news outlets speak lies all day every day and no one has shut them down.  Why?    I am not one to force-feed you information, and hold your hand and lead you to the promised land, we have several other people for that. However, I do believe Kanye has planted a seed, what are you going to do with it?  

Are we slowly approaching the dismantling of our free speech?  Your opinion does not matter unless it supports the current agenda.    Everybody is offended and wants to cry about a long gone past when we should be focused on the here and now.  "The future is not promised, but it is there for the taking."   When people can be shut down for speaking an opinion in the form of truth, then you just may be next.   To those who are offended about everything, you need some healing.   You shouldn't be allowing a person's words to control how you feel about yourself. This particular paradigm is made to keep you in a low vibrational state.  It's designed to keep you experiencing things that make you feel, sad, lonely, and hopeless and it is currently clashing with the higher frequency that is already here.  So the truth has to be told. The truth has to rise to the surface and if you are on the right side of truth, you will too. 

Andrew Tate and Kanye West are just a few examples of people getting shut down for speaking what they know to be the truth.  Are these social media outlets really protecting us, or preventing us from knowing the truth?  They have given us this drug and now since we are addicted and can use it to our advantage, you want to take it away or control how we use it.  That's not what drug dealers do.  Well, maybe we should just get off the drug, start detoxing right now and put social media on a skinny diet because we are the people that hold the power of their existence, not the other way around.

 In this modern world, you should be able to voice your opinion and your beliefs, without anyone getting offended because you can either agree or disagree.  Why should I hold my tongue because you are not mature enough to accept an opinion that is in contrast to yours?  Why should I not share what my experience is, because you have not experienced it?   If you want me to believe in your dubious stand for me, remind me of my resistance, strength, and the uniqueness of my DNA.  Constantly reminding me that my ancestors were slaves, or that we were victims of brutality, and treated unfairly is not empowering.  I can turn on the news for that.  Stop watching movies that do not reflect where you are going.  It's one thing to be entertained, but if you would notice, do you really need to be constantly reminded of the past?  The past is dead and gone.

 Is Andrew Tate really as misogynistic as they say he is, for being what he believes is a man?   Is Kanye West so wrong for saying who he believes are the real Jews?  He is not being any more offensive than the people who pretend they are black.  Pay attention.   Keep empowering yourselves with the truth, because it does set you free.  Continue to watch what is being said and who is saying it.  As things become more convoluted, even more things will become clear, because nothing is what it seems, including me.

Kanye West-Flashing Lights   

Peace & Love

Lavidus

When It's Good to You, But Not Good for You

Greetings Beautiful People....💋💜💛💚

Owwww have you ever had something that was so good to you but not good for you?  Why is it that the hardest people and things to let go of are the things that provide us with the greatest high, but just simply is not good?  Things that we have to sneak to get it or that are tempting just feel better when we get them, right?  Whether it's people, places, or things,  re we really addicted, is that forbidden fruit that appealing? Or is it just something that we need to experience in order to get to where we need to be?

I used to love this man.  At least I thought I loved him,  I loved what he did with his magic wand.  I loved how he could maneuver around my body.  I loved how he could conquer and revive, ya know what I mean?  Had me completely blind to the facts.  But silly me, those were moments that I thought it was love.  He knew exactly what it really was because that's how he operated.  I thought well damn, it can't be this good with everybody?   Turns out it wasn't but he didn't find that out until he left and tried to come back.  Anyway... It didn't matter how good or bad it was, he was serving it up like hotcakes during Sunday Brunch. He was spreading it around like almond butter with all the nuts.   I could have easily chosen to continue to be blind, but what it was and what it wasn't became even more and more obvious and neither of us could not ignore the facts. .  He belonged over there and I belonged up there. We were on different shelves of life and I didn't have time for him to catch up. And besides, just because he looks the part, does not mean he knows the part.   

One more donut is good to you but may not be good for you.

One more night might be good to you, but may not be good for you.

Telling that lie might sound good to you, but in the long run, may not be good for you.

I know we all have experienced something that was so so bad but felt so so good, temporarily.  But for the love of ourselves, in order to keep our sanity and self-respect, we must let go of those relationships that only provide moments of happiness and years of despair. Let go of that job that seems to just drains you and keeps you from what you really want.  Letting go of that one-sided love, letting go of living an unfulfilled life.  I know that toxic shit can feel so good, temporarily.  But once you fully let go, you'll realize it wasn't the toxic shit that felt good, it was what you imagined it to be, you kept being disappointed by what you hoped it to be.  You created your own disappointment by believing something that you knew wasn't true.   There is strength in our lessons so don't be afraid of making mistakes, it's your chance to change and be honest with who you really are.   Learn to love yourself enough to know when something is good to you, but not good for you. 

Chocolate Love- Sanura & Raheem DeVaughn

Peace & Love

Lavidus

Cre-A-Tor

Today's positive affirmation from the Make Today Magical Positive Affirmation Card Set is "I create the life I dream of". We are always co-creating with the universe.  God, source, whatever you believe in or do not believe in, you are the creator of your life, and with the right thoughts, intentions and focus your dream life can and will appear once you are aligned with those desires.  For those of you who do not know, focusing on someone else only takes away from you and whatever you attain by focusing on someone else will definitely be temporary.  Put your money where your thoughts are.  Are you not worthy of your own thoughts? Do you not believe in your creative abilities?

Creator.  What is a creator?  According to Oxford's dictionary, a creator is a person or thing that brings something into existence.  A creator can also be referred to as God.  Are you a creator? Do you have the ability to bring things into existence?  Can you turn negative energy into positive energy? Are you an alchemist?  We all have the ability, but I am not sure many of us have the belief in ourselves to use it.  To nurture it. To find it.  Instead, some may want to use someone else's intellectual property, which just makes you a copycat.

When you believe that you are a creator and understand the power that it holds then you are able to use your own unique gifts to your advantage.  Have you given up so much of yourself that you are now being managed like a puppet?  The creation begins in the mind and what you believe.  Your imagination can take you places and make you feel things before they come in to fruition.  How are you using that power?  Up until this point what kind of life have you created for yourself?  Does it look as good on the inside as it does on the outside?  

It can be a struggle to have dreams that no one believes in.  That's when you leave those 'No one's" behind and let them focus on you.   Believe in your creation.  Dream it.  Live it. Smell it and taste it.  No one has to, but you, because you are the creator.   I found my greatest strength and discovery of self, by being alone and creating.  There has been so much of myself that was undiscovered by me because I was trying to fit into a character that was not me.  Having a typical life has never been for me and once I accepted that, things began to move in the direction that I needed to go in.  I want to share with you today that, let the typical play their typical roles, what else can they do?  Do not let someone else's shame be your problem.  Do not absorb someone else thoughts and creations, be your own creator, and manage your own thoughts. Especially, the thoughts about yourself.  You have been given this gift of life, what are you going to do with it?  

Create the life you dream of.  Of course, you would like to have others to love it, but no one has to love it but you.  This timeline is yours to play with.  Be willing to let go and be guided to paradise.  Paradise is here, turn right and it is sitting there on the corner, but if you do not see the signs you just might miss it.    Imagine what a perfect life for you would be like.  No clocking in.  Raising with the sun, and sleeping with the stars.  Create the life you want.  Laying by the ocean, while your feet are deep in the sand. Create the life you want, touring the world sharing, learning, and teaching.  You are not far from whatever you imagine.  Keep that feeling of gratitude and get out there and make it a great day, it is all yours.

Lavidus

Woman!

They seem to be creating these fictitious power struggles between the two when none of us really exist.   All of a sudden, you have forgotten the power that women possess, maybe you do know, that's why all this confusion has been created.  Some of you would not even have a subject to talk about if you didn't talk about women. Some of you would not have a business if you didn’t talk about women.  You want to benefit from us, but not stand up for us.  You need a woman in your business in order for it to be a success.  Period.

Are we replaceable? Can a woman be replaced by something better or equal to?   I think not.  You’ll look like a fool, trying to put those big feet in those small shoes.  Are you trying to redefine what a woman is to include people who are clearly not women?  I am asking for clarification and understanding because I don't want to assume anything.  Women have fought too long in this world, all over the world for simple rights, now you want me to fight for this too? It would be easy if you didn't have to ask what is a woman.  It's obvious you have a clue.  All of a sudden you are unclear about what I am and when you are unclear you have a tendency to not acknowledge what is true.  I am a woman.  I have given birth to two children and at one point in my life, I was faced with the decision to have an abortion.  Have you ever been faced with those decisions?  Have you ever been faced with the challenge and the risk of choosing to carry a child for nine months or more? One in six women will experience sexual assault in their lifetime, how will you prepare your daughters for what they may experience?

A woman is why you, you, you, and you are here.  And if you were lucky you actually came through the canal and were breastfed with the best milk ever.  That's what a woman can do if that is what a woman chooses.  Has anyone ever told you what to do with your penis? It's almost insulting the extent that people will go to delay the inevitable.   Woman, do not take offense, keep your peace and follow your heart. Your intuition should be in overdrive, always trust it. You should be feeling something right now, you should be feeling a need to change the things that you have the power to change. 

What is a woman they say?

Umm yeah let me count the ways

Do you mean after all this time, a woman has never crossed yo' mind?

That is all that is on their mind, all day, every day, Woman.  What if today we decide, we don't want to carry your children.  We don't want to be your wife.  We don't want to be your equal.  We are not opposites or equals.  I don't need your rights, I have my own.  I don’t need your hair laws.  Do you really have to be told to respect someone’s hair?  You should be insulted that you are not mature enough to govern yourselves properly among people who are different than you.  You are different too and would expect the same.  I don't need your job. I don't need your approval.  I don't need your commitment, because I want to be free.  What if today, I decide to just do me.  

I supported your cause and forgot about mine

Raised five kids and nearly lost my mind

Handled the up and downs and your cheating ways

A woman is what I am, every single day!

I don't overuse my makeup

I don't need the glittery stuff

I work hard and play harder too

So give me my credit when the baby's due

What is a woman they may ask

A whole a lot of attitude and maybe some sass

She will climb the highest mountain, just to take a break

Turn it on in the bedroom and bake you a cake  

She can multiply and then divide just to make a point

Consider it done, on repeat, and then smoke a joint

Fight for this country, run this country all done by noon

The tides are turning, disruption is coming, so make her happy or you will see gloom.

It is time to stand up for what you believe in.  Stand up in any way that you feel is right.  We are all sharing this experience together and although we are all experiencing it through different lenses, we can all feel what is happening right now.  Do not get lost in fighting smoke.  It will dissolve and return as something else.  Take off the shades and see things clearly, before you invest your feelings.  Sun gaze new ways because the messages are on tap. Have you felt this before or is this something new? This wave into the future is all up to you.

Peace & Love

Lavidus

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SHAME Love, Lies & Lust by L.L. Walton

                   

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Today I am reintroducing SHAME Love, Lies & Lust  It is the first book that I wrote with characters.  Each chapter has a section of love stories, lie stores, and lust stories.   It is a short book filled with short stories about the trials, and tribulations of being in love, sacrifice, and the consequences of your decisions.   Thank you all for your love and support.💓

I often reflect on my relationships and the state of mind I was in when I made the decision to allow certain people in my life.  When I reflect it is also a time to acknowledge how much I've grown.  I am thankful for those experiences and how they have helped me grow.  This life is all about the journey.  Wherever you are, wherever you are trying to go, do not underestimate the power of appreciating where you are right now.  Change always comes on time and is constantly happening.  You can try to delay it, you can even ignore it, and it happens whether you are ready for it or not.  Wouldn't it just be easier to accept life as it comes, let go of all control and relax into it?  All you have to do is manage your own thoughts and stay focused on your desired outcome.  Mind the business that feeds you and distractions do not exist. Most of you should know, that writers are excellent liars, give me an audience and I’ll tell you what to feed them. 

I am often disappointed when I believe in the maturity of humanity. You would think that after all this progression, people would be more accepting of people who are opposed to what they are used to, but I always get the same result. However, I am still hopeful that society will get to the point where they do not feel so intimidated by things and people they do not understand.  You cannot pick apart another without picking apart yourself.  I am just a reflection, so you do not have to tell me what you don’t like about yourself, I already see it. 

Do not rush, just let it all happen.  Patience is the key. Time is going as fast or as slow as it is going to go.  You cannot change the happening, just like you cannot change the past.   Too many people let the past control their current state of mind and they are making comparisons to a future that does not exist. What's done is done.  It's either time to ask for forgiveness, or forgive yourself and move on.  There is no growth allowing the past to live in your head like old weeds.  Create the space for new things and for new beginnings to grow.  Be brave and walk alone when necessary.  You can never go wrong with true intentions.  True Intentions. You can never go wrong by moving forward in honesty, your truth  and love. 

Lavidus

Curse Words

 

I thought I would have a little fun and ask how the fuck are you today?

That was an example of using an expletive in a positive manner.  Although most of us do not use expletives in our daily language, using profanity sometimes can be used to release tension, make a point, or to further express how we feel.  Before I go into all of the most used curse words, I want to define what a curse word is.  Curse words are words that can be used when throwing a curse or evil spell and with the right intention, it can affect the person you are cursing on an emotional level, similar to a real curse.  I believe curses only work on people in low emotional states.  For example,  it is easier to curse a person with low self-esteem than it is for a person who loves themselves.  I am sure some of you spellcasters are finding that out.  

The first curse word was Fuck and it was used in the year 1310 by a Monk who wrote it on a manuscript.  The word fuck has a Germanic origin and the original meaning meant "to strike" but as time went on the usage changed.  If you are from the east coast, "Get the fuck outta here" may mean whatever story you are telling, it is so unbelievable you need to leave with that bullshit.  Or it could literally mean get the fuck out of here.  The word fuck is often the obscene word that is used to refer to sexual manners.  You may hear things like, "Can we fuck?"  "Do you want to fuck?" or "I just got fucked".  And depending on which end of the meaning you are on that could be the worse fuck of all.   If someone is talking too much, you may hear someone say "Shut the fuck up", or  "What the fuck are you talking about?  If a person wants to inform you about some shit you may not know about they may say something like,  "I don't fuck with you."   Or if it's a lost cause, fuck it!

The most used curse word is Shit.  Yes, I often use it when I am in a bind,  running out of time, or just referring to a piece of shit.  Although the word literally means to defecate or to have diarrhea, the urban usage of the word shit is often used positively.  You may hear it being used to refer to how you feel about yourself or someone else, " I am the shit" or "they are the shit".  Or if you want to express how you feel about a song that you vibe with, you'll say something like "that's my shit" or "that's the shit.".  When you put someone in their place or embarrass someone with your superior skills, you may have just "Shitted on them."

Last but not least, the most mighty and powerful curse word, Bitch!   Of course, we all know that this word usually is referring to the female gender and can be defined as a female dog.  The word bitch began to be used in the late 1300's and early 1400s.  In the 1930's, it was used in the male homosexual community, as a playful reference to a dog.  Today, it is also used in songs and in regular everyday language. You will often find when a woman rejects a man's offer or does not find him appealing, the first thing he may call her is a bitch.  The term has also been used to refer to the emotional state of a woman.  If she is bossy and in control, then she is a bitch. If she wines and complains, then she is bitchy, you get my point.    In conversation, you may use it as a term of surprise, Biiitch! Or as a warning, "Bitch, if you don't get out my face."  In the early 1960's the term "Bitchin'" would refer to something that is awesome, the best or is unusually unique.  If you are on your shit and you don't give a fuck, then someone may refer to you as  "That Bitch".  All you real Bitches stand up!  You can use the word as empowerment or embarrassment, it is up to you to define what it means to you.

The countries that curse the most are Russia and France, they will curse you out because they don't give a fuck about your feelings. The UK, Australia, and the US are tied in their usage of curse words, and in China, they barely use curse words at all.  If you want to go where they curse the most in America, you can travel to  Ohio,  Maryland, New Jersey, Louisiana, and California. I guess you also know where all the intelligent people are.  If you want to go where it is very nice and polite, you can travel to Washington, Maine, Arizona, and Texas, but who gives a fuck, right?  The curse words that are honorable mentions are motherfucker, got damn, son-of-a-bitch and asshole.

Thank you for joining me today, I am going to go fuck around.  Tune in on Friday, maybe I'll have a freaky tale or something like that.   Be safe, stay loved up, and get out there and make it a great day, it is all yours.

Lavidus

reference(s):  www.etymonline.com

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Bad Vibes

You got bad vibes baby and I can’t be bothered

I ride high and with very low tolerance

I wake up on the right side of life

I am in his dreams, it's where we spend our nights

You got bad vibes baby and I can't be bothered

Told me you were competing and I almost hollered

Stuck in your own pain passing it on to the next name

You like playing those kid games, baby, are you finally insane?

I’ve been through a lot. Experienced a lot and would do it all again to become the person I am today. Life didn’t break me, what makes you think you can?   There are people who can be so bent on making you miserable, trying to either feed off your sweetness or try to make you uncomfortable. I laugh at adversity and I’ve never been a coward.  There are people who are unhappy with their lives and decisions because now the consequences are showing up, and the error of their ways is making an appearance. You can not hide from yourself, no matter how much you make YOU someone else’s problem. Your reality is your creation, so if you’re unhappy, change those old clothes and put on some new ones. 

You got bad vibes baby, but I see right through you

Send me bad vibes and it will get returned back to you

Tried to intercept my gifts and feel my energy

Tried to put on my clothes but there was no synergy

Now your  bad memory wants a taste

Forgot about the power of this golden race

You will go no further than this earth

So take those bad vibes with you, or forever be cursed

Everyone knows that person when you see them coming, you go the other way.  They talk so much and know everyone's business, but their own. Do you know anyone like that?  Are you that person?    Everyone knows that person who tries to follow the clout.  Riding on someone else's coattail, just makes you look like a cheerleader. You can smell the cologne before you see him.   He got more games than the game itself.  Everything about you is a dis Ease.  Finding comfort in the unknown will be your new home and you will be forced to eventually be alone. You will lose if you cannot adjust to the upcoming reality on earth.  Some of you have already failed the first test.  The wheels are turning and nothing will be the same.  Instead of hate, spread love to ease your pain.    

You got bad vibes baby, and I can't be bothered.

Lavidus

Energy Vampires

Everyone knows that energy vampires are people who are unable to sustain their own energy of life force so they feed off other people who are able to vibrate at a higher energetic level.  We all know that the most popular form of energy that these vampires come in is narcissism.  Social media is over-saturated with talking about the people that carry this energy.  The more you talk about it the more they manifest. So today I am changing the subject and discussing why we invite them into our lives.  We often discuss what to look for and how to get out of a relationship with a narcissist, but I want to discuss how you attract this energy in the first place. 

We all want to be loved,  needed, and taken care of at some point. Even if we are seeing and interacting with someone in the most shallow of situations, human contact is still what keeps the relationship going, no matter how toxic it is.  An energy vampire solicits that emotional need. We learn the most about ourselves through the relationships we have with other people.  We become a different version of ourselves with each person we interact with.   So why has the narcissist chosen you? Or better yet, why did you allow good sex and empty promises cloud your judgment? For me, it was the empty promises followed up by some mind-blowing sex.  It was so good that I forgot about all the promises.  It took me a while to break away from this particular person because I was dickmatized.  I thought I loved him, but I realized this man had no emotional depth, and the only thing I was feeling deeply was that extension he carried so well.  We only had a few moments of happiness and because I was so caught up in looking forward to those moments, I didn't even realize that that was all it was and it was not about getting any better than this. Then that's when you have to make a decision.  You see it for what it is, now what?  You have to start thinking about what you really deserve and when those wheels start turning and that confidence starts to build up and you start to look in the mirror and start falling in love with yourself, then you realize that vampire energy has to go.  That particular energy is no longer fitting the version of yourself that you are becoming.  So Au revoir! Adios! Arrivederci! and Bye-bye! Leave them and it all behind.

Those empty unfulfilling relationships will get easier to recognize and let go.  You will no longer feel the need to argue with a fool because it is all above you now.  You no longer need to justify or validate your decisions, because you trust your intuition.  Those are some of the things you may learn, and since some of you are slow learners, take as long as you need to learn those lessons because they will keep coming.  The universe does not have a shortage of lessons, so learn them because the universe also does not have a shortage of abundance.  

Maybe you need to learn how to love yourself, so life will break your heart a few times before you know your worth. Maybe you need to learn how to put up boundaries, so life will allow you to be used until you protect yourself.   If you are doing, being, or existing anywhere that you do not want to be, the universe will send some tests and situations to see if you really want to change or if you are just playing around with moments of sovereignty.  Will you settle for this?  Or will you settle for that? Are you willing to walk away and heal yourself and prepare yourself for what you truly deserve?  What are you really ready for? Because these energy vampires will test all of that.  

You can not complain about something and still have them in your life while trying to create a blessing with someone else.  It does not work like that.  You can not settle for a life you do not deserve and hate on those who waited and got everything that they deserve.  No, you can't get past true intentions and your thoughts.  So if you find yourself in the presence of those that suck your energy and leave you feeling drained and hopeless, think about the lesson you need to learn and why you continue to allow it to happen.  What part of you needs to heal?  There is something greater waiting for you but first, you will need to prepare yourself.   You know what you need to do, so trust yourself and get it done.

 

That's all I have for today, stay tuned for Friday's Question of the day.  If you have any relationship questions or any subjects you would like me to discuss, please submit them to relationshiptalkpodcast@gmail.com.  Get out there and make it a great day, it is all yours.

Lavidus

Dickmatized

reference:WomanLit