When It's Good to You, But Not Good for You

Greetings Beautiful People....💋💜💛💚

Owwww have you ever had something that was so good to you but not good for you?  Why is it that the hardest people and things to let go of are the things that provide us with the greatest high, but just simply is not good?  Things that we have to sneak to get it or that are tempting just feel better when we get them, right?  Whether it's people, places, or things,  re we really addicted, is that forbidden fruit that appealing? Or is it just something that we need to experience in order to get to where we need to be?

I used to love this man.  At least I thought I loved him,  I loved what he did with his magic wand.  I loved how he could maneuver around my body.  I loved how he could conquer and revive, ya know what I mean?  Had me completely blind to the facts.  But silly me, those were moments that I thought it was love.  He knew exactly what it really was because that's how he operated.  I thought well damn, it can't be this good with everybody?   Turns out it wasn't but he didn't find that out until he left and tried to come back.  Anyway... It didn't matter how good or bad it was, he was serving it up like hotcakes during Sunday Brunch. He was spreading it around like almond butter with all the nuts.   I could have easily chosen to continue to be blind, but what it was and what it wasn't became even more and more obvious and neither of us could not ignore the facts. .  He belonged over there and I belonged up there. We were on different shelves of life and I didn't have time for him to catch up. And besides, just because he looks the part, does not mean he knows the part.   

One more donut is good to you but may not be good for you.

One more night might be good to you, but may not be good for you.

Telling that lie might sound good to you, but in the long run, may not be good for you.

I know we all have experienced something that was so so bad but felt so so good, temporarily.  But for the love of ourselves, in order to keep our sanity and self-respect, we must let go of those relationships that only provide moments of happiness and years of despair. Let go of that job that seems to just drains you and keeps you from what you really want.  Letting go of that one-sided love, letting go of living an unfulfilled life.  I know that toxic shit can feel so good, temporarily.  But once you fully let go, you'll realize it wasn't the toxic shit that felt good, it was what you imagined it to be, you kept being disappointed by what you hoped it to be.  You created your own disappointment by believing something that you knew wasn't true.   There is strength in our lessons so don't be afraid of making mistakes, it's your chance to change and be honest with who you really are.   Learn to love yourself enough to know when something is good to you, but not good for you. 

Chocolate Love- Sanura & Raheem DeVaughn

Peace & Love

Lavidus

You Need to Heal

This is a very abundant time. Despite all the things that are going on around us.  Despite all the unexpected changes that are taking place, this is a time when your thoughts will determine how far you go.  Your previous actions will determine how abundant this time will be.   It is a time of getting what you deserve.  It does not matter what side of the coin you are on, you definitely will be getting all you deserve.

It's also a time to focus on healing yourself, changing your ways, and making amends.  If you are not able to do that, then you will experience more of the same and it will progressively get worse.  If you are a hurt person,  stop hurting and start healing, because the karma you receive will be a heavy price to pay.  And some of you know damn well you can't take half the shit you dished out.  Focus on yourself.  Focus on ways on how you can improve and the things you need to change in order to flourish and not just exist.  Only you will know how honest you will be with yourself.   Some of you just have fucked up personalities and that's just the way that you are, and you exist in that space, not really knowing anything else.  That is your path and the people who are around you are on that same journey. It is what it is.

 For those people who have been counted out, disrespected, and underestimated, but kept going anyway, you are about to make people eat their words.  Your breakthrough is right now! The people who spoke ill words on your name, laugh at your dreams, they will experience (some may be already experiencing it) a starvation of the soul, one like they have never known. They will experience this for a very long time.  (All you had to do, was do what was right. But your jealousy and envy, became your friend and now that friend has made you the enemy.)  Do not worry about your fans/haters/frenemies, stay committed to your purpose, and play dumb when necessary. (wink, wink)

Control your emotions, control your thoughts.  Do not go so far outside yourself that you lose all control of what you want your world to be.  Remember, this world is still ours.  You have to be sure about yourself, have confidence, and believe in yourself.  This new world requires you to accept and love yourself just as you are.  We don't have to wear masks anymore, so why do you still have yours on?  Heal that inner child, honey, everything is going to be alright.   Once you start to make that shift, a lot has to fall away and when it does, accept it because I guarantee there is something better on the way.  

Peace & Love

Lavidus

Let It Happen

SHAME Love, Lies & Lust by L.L. Walton

                   

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Today I am reintroducing SHAME Love, Lies & Lust  It is the first book that I wrote with characters.  Each chapter has a section of love stories, lie stores, and lust stories.   It is a short book filled with short stories about the trials, and tribulations of being in love, sacrifice, and the consequences of your decisions.   Thank you all for your love and support.💓

I often reflect on my relationships and the state of mind I was in when I made the decision to allow certain people in my life.  When I reflect it is also a time to acknowledge how much I've grown.  I am thankful for those experiences and how they have helped me grow.  This life is all about the journey.  Wherever you are, wherever you are trying to go, do not underestimate the power of appreciating where you are right now.  Change always comes on time and is constantly happening.  You can try to delay it, you can even ignore it, and it happens whether you are ready for it or not.  Wouldn't it just be easier to accept life as it comes, let go of all control and relax into it?  All you have to do is manage your own thoughts and stay focused on your desired outcome.  Mind the business that feeds you and distractions do not exist. Most of you should know, that writers are excellent liars, give me an audience and I’ll tell you what to feed them. 

I am often disappointed when I believe in the maturity of humanity. You would think that after all this progression, people would be more accepting of people who are opposed to what they are used to, but I always get the same result. However, I am still hopeful that society will get to the point where they do not feel so intimidated by things and people they do not understand.  You cannot pick apart another without picking apart yourself.  I am just a reflection, so you do not have to tell me what you don’t like about yourself, I already see it. 

Do not rush, just let it all happen.  Patience is the key. Time is going as fast or as slow as it is going to go.  You cannot change the happening, just like you cannot change the past.   Too many people let the past control their current state of mind and they are making comparisons to a future that does not exist. What's done is done.  It's either time to ask for forgiveness, or forgive yourself and move on.  There is no growth allowing the past to live in your head like old weeds.  Create the space for new things and for new beginnings to grow.  Be brave and walk alone when necessary.  You can never go wrong with true intentions.  True Intentions. You can never go wrong by moving forward in honesty, your truth  and love. 

Lavidus

You Are Valuable

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To get your week started, I want to share a positive affirmation card I pulled from the Make Today Magical Positive Affirmation Card Set. I actually received this as a gift for my birthday, or was it for Christmas?  It's a 24-card set and each card has a positive affirmation.  On the back of each card, you can fill in the blank of something that you are proud of or something that you believe you are capable of.  I believe if you write it down then it is true. I often refer to these cards when I am unsure, I need a pick me up, or when just want to change my mood and increase my belief system.  

Today's card says  "You Are Valuable". Yes, you are. No matter where you are, no matter who you are, you are valuable.  This message is for those who do not feel like their life has no longer any meaning. You feel as if you can not go on or that you are worthless.  The fact that you wake up every day gives you another chance to give it meaning.  Your mind has to be stronger than your circumstances.  You have to train your mind to be and do what you want it to do. Even when you come across obstacles, those are only opportunities to increase and expand.   Our bodies are one big electromagnetic field. We feed our brains all kinds of things and thoughts and beliefs throughout the day, attracting what's necessary.  Although it's not always what we want, it is always for our highest good. The one thing that we are constantly streaming is how we feel about ourselves.  How we feel about ourselves plays a huge part in who and what we value. 

Let the belief in yourself be stronger than anyone's opinion.  Do not allow anyone to determine your value, only you can do that.  Take a moment to think about the things that people value.  They may value their home, car, their job, family, or money.  They may even value the time they spend or value who they spend it with.   Do you feel valued in your relationships?  Do you feel valued on your job? You are valuable enough to change and do better if you want to.   You are valuable enough to take responsibility for your actions.  You are valuable enough to stand and speak your truth.  You are valuable enough to be loved and accepted. You are valuable enough to be forgiven.  You are valuable enough to exceed expectations.  You are valuable enough for a second chance. 

We spend a lot of time in relationships hoping people see who we are, but do you know your value?  Do the people around you represent your value?   How valuable is your life?  Take the time to practice being ok with being ok with yourself.  Because, through all the stages and mistakes, you are still valuable.

That's all I have for today, tune on on Wednesday, hump day, my favorite day of the week for three ways to recognize an energy vampire.  They have a tendency to butter you up before they suck you dry.   Until then, get out there and make it a great day, it's all yours.💓

Lavidus

Your Thoughts Matter

So what do you think about yourself?  We all have opinions, but what is your opinion of yourself? I am not going to tell you to love yourself and give you some great affirmations to help you stir your soul and keep you motivated. No, time out for that.  Today you will take the first step towards becoming accountable for your life. We all know how to go on youtube and find anything we want.  We can find information on how to do almost anything.  But who put all that information for you to find on that phone, laptop, or computer?  It must have been something greater than the computer itself, right?  It had to be something that can anticipate the needs of humans.  Before any of that can took place, it was a thought.  Someone's thoughts created the huge information highway that we all use today. I believe it was Charles Babbage, in the 1800s, but he was before his time and when you are before your time, they let time pass and then reintroduce you at a later time.

I want you to get an idea of how powerful your thoughts are.  I want you to understand that everything that is around you has been created by your thoughts.  It was by your design. At some point, throughout the day someone has had the same thoughts and ideas as you.  The better idea or the stronger thought will be fueled by belief, persistence, and creativity. I mean that is why you create vision boards and say affirmations, right?  You are confirming what you want or what you want to create and you are creating it first in your mind.  Your thoughts have a vibration and the more you focus on something the more you send out that request, eventually what you are focusing on will come to you if you are able to maintain that thought or vibration.  Some of you want things but get discouraged because it took too long.  Some of you had someone in your ear sending you messages and creating actions of derailment to take you off course,  and for some of you, it worked.  If you are wondering why nothing is working out for you, it may just not be for you.  Some of you are going after things that you will never be aligned with, but you just don't know it yet. 

So let's get back to you being accountable for your thoughts.   You are the creator of all that is in your life.  Unless you are running around and someone else has your remote, then this life is all on you.  No one can make us do anything that we don't agree with. Voluntarily or involuntarily, we give in.  Nothing really happens to us, it happens for us and even on our worst of days, you still have the power to change it.   When you are blaming other people for your misfortunes, blaming other people for your lack, blaming other people for whatever you didn't do, it is because you have taken a backseat in your own life and someone else is running it, how does that feel?   It also means you have yet to take the proper inventory of your life and see things for what they are and who you are.  I cannot tell you all the things people have done to impede my progress, to create roadblocks only to be sent back to the drawing board.  I have plenty of knives in my back, but they are in my back, so I keep moving forward while gaining momentum in the process.  Alchemy.

People. family and friends come into our lives as tests, and we are all playing Mario trying to beat the gorilla in order to get to the next level.  When we run into roadblocks, make bad investments, and do not think things through it means our thoughts are not aligned with what we are supposed to do.  We lose all foresight and have no idea what's next because we're too caught up in the past.  When you are so bent on watching and hurting people and stepping on them, you'll soon be reminded of how small your thoughts are.  There has got to be some other pressing issue that needs your attention than focusing on people who are minding their business. If it's not, then it's about to be.

There's freedom in your thoughts.  There's love, there's the creation and your mind, body, and soul have to be aligned for greater things to happen.   There is nothing that can trap you more than your mind.  Your mind can be a friend or a foe.  It plays games and confirms our comfort because the truth will always make us uncomfortable.  We must reprogram ourselves to accept ourselves just as we are and handle the shit we don't like, without making it someone else's problem. We have the power to be anything.  How bad do you want it?   If you need approval from others, you may not make it.  If you let fear dictate your life, then you are not built for this.  Your thoughts should fascinate you and make and take you places, not create obsessions and help you lose all grips on reality.  I am waiting to see what you create. I am waiting to see how you use the power of your mind because your thoughts are the only thing that matters.

Peace & Love

Lavidus