When It's Good to You, But Not Good for You

Greetings Beautiful People....💋💜💛💚

Owwww have you ever had something that was so good to you but not good for you?  Why is it that the hardest people and things to let go of are the things that provide us with the greatest high, but just simply is not good?  Things that we have to sneak to get it or that are tempting just feel better when we get them, right?  Whether it's people, places, or things,  re we really addicted, is that forbidden fruit that appealing? Or is it just something that we need to experience in order to get to where we need to be?

I used to love this man.  At least I thought I loved him,  I loved what he did with his magic wand.  I loved how he could maneuver around my body.  I loved how he could conquer and revive, ya know what I mean?  Had me completely blind to the facts.  But silly me, those were moments that I thought it was love.  He knew exactly what it really was because that's how he operated.  I thought well damn, it can't be this good with everybody?   Turns out it wasn't but he didn't find that out until he left and tried to come back.  Anyway... It didn't matter how good or bad it was, he was serving it up like hotcakes during Sunday Brunch. He was spreading it around like almond butter with all the nuts.   I could have easily chosen to continue to be blind, but what it was and what it wasn't became even more and more obvious and neither of us could not ignore the facts. .  He belonged over there and I belonged up there. We were on different shelves of life and I didn't have time for him to catch up. And besides, just because he looks the part, does not mean he knows the part.   

One more donut is good to you but may not be good for you.

One more night might be good to you, but may not be good for you.

Telling that lie might sound good to you, but in the long run, may not be good for you.

I know we all have experienced something that was so so bad but felt so so good, temporarily.  But for the love of ourselves, in order to keep our sanity and self-respect, we must let go of those relationships that only provide moments of happiness and years of despair. Let go of that job that seems to just drains you and keeps you from what you really want.  Letting go of that one-sided love, letting go of living an unfulfilled life.  I know that toxic shit can feel so good, temporarily.  But once you fully let go, you'll realize it wasn't the toxic shit that felt good, it was what you imagined it to be, you kept being disappointed by what you hoped it to be.  You created your own disappointment by believing something that you knew wasn't true.   There is strength in our lessons so don't be afraid of making mistakes, it's your chance to change and be honest with who you really are.   Learn to love yourself enough to know when something is good to you, but not good for you. 

Chocolate Love- Sanura & Raheem DeVaughn

Peace & Love

Lavidus

Don't Affirm, Accept.

We all have these fantastic journeys that we are traveling.  These journeys we call life, we don't always have all the answers, nor do we always have it all figured out.  Some of us are able to ride the wave and manage this thing called life and others not so much.  When you resist, life gets complicated.  In order to cope and to make ourselves feel better, one of the ways we confirm our existence is through

 affirmations.  We affirm what we want, we affirm who we are, and we affirm who we aspire to be.  I am worthy.  I am strong.  I am somebody, but are you really?   During this episode, I explore the idea of accepting ourselves where we are first before we affirm who we want to be. 

I am on my own journey of self-love and self-discovery and it has not always been easy or nice.  I am not perfect by any means, but I always seek what I believe to be right and just.  Earlier in my life, some of my decisions were made based on my lack of confidence and on what was safe. I wasn't aware of the safety net that I had created for myself which also stunting my growth.  I was not always allowing myself to flow.  I was affirming "I am open to receive..blah blah blah..all that is divinely mine blah, blah, blah.  Affirming, but not willing to take the risk.  Believing, but not really ready to step out of faith.  I had to check myself and align myself with the words that were coming out of my mouth.  I had to enjoy, relax and accept myself at the stage I was at and then confirm with conviction who I was becoming.

Before you start affirming to what you want next or what you want to become, accept where you are right now.  Accept not being exactly where you want to be or who you want to be.   Accept your imperfections and what you don't like, and be open to making changes for your highest good.  This love thing is not about getting to a point where you have reached all these goals or made this much money, it's about accepting and knowing who you are before you get there.   You are who you are and your path is designed for you and you only.   Don't start looking in the mirror when you get a new outfit, or when you get those nails done, look at yourself right now.  Appreciate who you are and how far you've come at this very moment.  Once you do, whatever you want next is on the way.

Peace & Love

Lavidus

Please Don't Date Me-100 More Reasons Why (AudioBook)

Bad Vibes

You got bad vibes baby and I can’t be bothered

I ride high and with very low tolerance

I wake up on the right side of life

I am in his dreams, it's where we spend our nights

You got bad vibes baby and I can't be bothered

Told me you were competing and I almost hollered

Stuck in your own pain passing it on to the next name

You like playing those kid games, baby, are you finally insane?

I’ve been through a lot. Experienced a lot and would do it all again to become the person I am today. Life didn’t break me, what makes you think you can?   There are people who can be so bent on making you miserable, trying to either feed off your sweetness or try to make you uncomfortable. I laugh at adversity and I’ve never been a coward.  There are people who are unhappy with their lives and decisions because now the consequences are showing up, and the error of their ways is making an appearance. You can not hide from yourself, no matter how much you make YOU someone else’s problem. Your reality is your creation, so if you’re unhappy, change those old clothes and put on some new ones. 

You got bad vibes baby, but I see right through you

Send me bad vibes and it will get returned back to you

Tried to intercept my gifts and feel my energy

Tried to put on my clothes but there was no synergy

Now your  bad memory wants a taste

Forgot about the power of this golden race

You will go no further than this earth

So take those bad vibes with you, or forever be cursed

Everyone knows that person when you see them coming, you go the other way.  They talk so much and know everyone's business, but their own. Do you know anyone like that?  Are you that person?    Everyone knows that person who tries to follow the clout.  Riding on someone else's coattail, just makes you look like a cheerleader. You can smell the cologne before you see him.   He got more games than the game itself.  Everything about you is a dis Ease.  Finding comfort in the unknown will be your new home and you will be forced to eventually be alone. You will lose if you cannot adjust to the upcoming reality on earth.  Some of you have already failed the first test.  The wheels are turning and nothing will be the same.  Instead of hate, spread love to ease your pain.    

You got bad vibes baby, and I can't be bothered.

Lavidus