Your New Suit

 

Do you really know the people you think you know?  Has anyone in your life changed so drastically that they are unrecognizable? Have you changed?  Do you have the same people in your life for the last twenty years? Do you still trust them?  Do they trust you?  Every day, everything around you changes.  The seasons change, the trees change, and the animals in their natural habitat change.  Are you changing?  Have your mind and emotions caught up to your natural age, or are you still stuck in 1996?

One of the problems with having long-term friendships and long-term relationships is the rate at which someone changes.  You can never determine when those changes will take place, they just do.  Events, circumstances, and the desire to change are some of the things that can ignite that pivotal moment at any moment.  Either those changes extend the relationship or situation or it ends it completely.  There are no wrong answers, just paths to choose. Paths that lead to a better you.  There are some people who will never change and that is their choice.  You have to be brave.  You have to love and accept what you see in the mirror and a lot of people are not ready for that.  Never looking up, never looking down, they are just following the yellow brick road.   When you do change, when you do let go and allow, the need to resist or figure it all out goes away.  The come-up is no longer appealing.

I have changed a lot.   I had to remove and be willing to let go of all the relationships that served no real good purpose in my life. I had to remove titles and judge people by their actions.  I had to take a good look at the part I was playing in my own demise and remove myself and gravitate to those who match my vibe and speak my language.   Some would like you to believe that you are not who you say you are, or that you are naive, or that you are not worthy of anything but what they provide.  Well, those who have been through the fire and are still here, know that that is not true.  If anything you learned how to enjoy your own company.  You learned to study yourself and master yourself and see through people.  When you master yourself, you get to see the old self in those old people.  You get to see why they were in your life and why they come back. How many of you have run across an old X or someone from your past and thought, how the hell was this person ever in my life? I actually had sex with that?  You get to see why those people are in your past and why they must remain there.

When you upgrade your mind and your vision of the world and the people in it changes, you can no longer entertain what was.  If they are not growing with you, I guarantee they are growing against you.  You can only wish them well on their journey and thank them for the experience.   You can't put on a new suit and go sit in the gutter.  You can either go back to who you used to be and keep on that gutter suit or you can keep your new suit clean and be around other people who are wearing new suits and who can appreciate your new suit glow.  They know what it took to get there, and they can applaud you and your new suit because they earned one too.

Peace Within

Lavidus

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Claim Your State

I feel amazing!  I feel good and nothing will interfere with how I am feeling.  How I choose to feel today has nothing to do with you, so I hope you don't get offended by my natural high. I am incredible, I can do the impossible, and go farther than the sky.  That is how you must greet each and every day, claim the state you want to be in, and be it.  That is how you beat defeat and manage disappointments, by claiming your state. When the storms of life are washing you all over the place, find a location where you can quiet your mind, and embrace yourself.   You can affirm, "I am Powerful" in order to change your mood, or "I am Love" or you can just say "Fuck It" and have an even better day.  Whatever you claim, whatever you state let that be what rules your day.  

Everything in life is not always positive, some people are perpetual assholes and like to claim that state. Some people are so far from their own reality that another persons life seems like home. The live for disruption and chaos, because that is where they feel alive. You have to learn to not take another persons life path personally, and recognize them when you see them. All those who go against the many laws of life are often faced with the creation of their own reality and that is not your problem. 

Have you ever been having a bad day and someone calls you and says, I love you? How did that make you feel?  Those words at that moment changed your mood and became the words that you didn't know you needed to hear.   Your words can not only change your mood but the mood of others.  Although it is impossible to remain positive all day every day, you can become aware of your thoughts and the energy that you spread, and the energy that you receive.  When I am not feeling my best, I really don't want to be around anyone.  I play music and I'll have my own concert, with Janet Jackson as one of my backup dancers.  I look at myself in the mirror and I remind myself of who I am and what I am capable of.  I am human, I make mistakes, and I experience pain.  I take those moments and make them beneficial for me and allow them to be the foundation of my strength.  I do not dwell on it. I feel it, and I let it pass. I store those moments for future use because none of what happens in our life is in vain.  If we pay attention, we always get what we deserve, and what we deserve is always based on our actions and decisions. 

It is a small world that we live in, full of connections, redirections, distractions, and people trying to find their plot, copy what you got, and steal your claim to  fame.  The originals will rise and the fake will melt because no one else has your name.   Don't lose sight of who you are.  No matter what is going on outside of you, and around you, do not lose what's inside of you.  Do not let the world convince you that you need to be anything else except what you are comfortable with being.   Everyone wants to be able to exude that priceless energy, or at least get close to it, so be selective, because everyone is not worthy.  You have more influence than you think, for those who don't think. So, take this moment and make it yours and claim your state.

Peace & Love

Lavidus

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Take Your Time

Take your time, why are we in such a rush to get somewhere?  Why are we in such a rush to be or to do the next thing?   We are moving so fast that we no longer have time for time.  Are we in such a rush to be the next or the "New You" that we've left the unhealed part of ourselves behind?  We tuck the hurt, only to have reality rear its ugly head around Spring time when you thought that he or she was the one. Or after you have folded on that gym membership for the third year in a row, baby, just take your time.  There is no rush to improve perfection, every day leads to the new you, so what's the rush?

We bombard ourselves with the impression and the good intentions of becoming these new versions of ourselves.  Although that is possible, we must also be realistic and to not sell ourselves the same bargain of change that the world is offering us. Can we really change from December 31st to January 1st?  Can we really forget our old selves and forge ahead with this new identity and instantly forget the past?  No, I think not.  Well, maybe temporarily.  We all know that long-term change takes time, commitment, and determination and most of us give up by January 13th.  Each year we set ourselves up for another whirlwind relationship that begins with the promise of an unmet resolution.  I am suggesting that you take your time and give yourself a break before implementing changes that mentally you may not be ready for, be gentle with yourself.  

I mentioned earlier on a post on my Twitter (@LLWriter) that January should be the transition month.  If it takes 21 days to officially implement and make a change, then it should take just as long before we make a full commitment to these hopeful resolutions.  We should just spend 21 days thinking about what we want before we actually move towards it.  We can make resolutions every single day.  We can also take baby steps every single day. What we often do instead, is set expectations so high that we intentionally set ourselves up for failure. How many times have you had to start over?   Although there is nothing wrong with having to start over, in order to believe in the impossible, you must do what's possible first, so take your time with these necessary changes. 

In 2019, I was almost 200 pounds.  I was uncomfortable and I wanted to lose weight quickly, so I was starting and stopping all these different methods.  I failed at so many diets that I just stopped trying.  My body then started to reject the things I no longer needed, like energy drinks and sugar.  I no longer wanted to drink alcohol and I stopped eating certain foods.  My body naturally craved more vegetables and home-cooked meals, so that's what I gave it.  I made that change and although I had no idea what was happening, I went with what my body was saying and I lost forty pounds before I knew it. I became my ideal weight without even thinking about it.  Once I removed the desire, the solution came to me.   

Sometimes we have to pull away from the things we want the most, just to release the desire and allow the flow.  We don't always have to chase the things we want, if we truly deserve them they will come to us and it will be effortlessly.  So, take your time.

As this new year moves along, go with the flow.  Keep your intentions in mind, and in heart, but allow room for flow and take all the time you need to get to where you are going.  I am not saying that you rest on your laurels or let procrastination be your guide, all I am saying is there is no rush.  What's yours will always be yours and the destination will always be there.  Enjoy the journey and this experience while witnessing the miracles in your life.

Peace & Love💓💓

Lavidus

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