Do you really know the people you think you know? Has anyone in your life changed so drastically that they are unrecognizable? Have you changed? Do you have the same people in your life for the last twenty years? Do you still trust them? Do they trust you? Every day, everything around you changes. The seasons change, the trees change, and the animals in their natural habitat change. Are you changing? Have your mind and emotions caught up to your natural age, or are you still stuck in 1996?
One of the problems with having long-term friendships and long-term relationships is the rate at which someone changes. You can never determine when those changes will take place, they just do. Events, circumstances, and the desire to change are some of the things that can ignite that pivotal moment at any moment. Either those changes extend the relationship or situation or it ends it completely. There are no wrong answers, just paths to choose. Paths that lead to a better you. There are some people who will never change and that is their choice. You have to be brave. You have to love and accept what you see in the mirror and a lot of people are not ready for that. Never looking up, never looking down, they are just following the yellow brick road. When you do change, when you do let go and allow, the need to resist or figure it all out goes away. The come-up is no longer appealing.
I have changed a lot. I had to remove and be willing to let go of all the relationships that served no real good purpose in my life. I had to remove titles and judge people by their actions. I had to take a good look at the part I was playing in my own demise and remove myself and gravitate to those who match my vibe and speak my language. Some would like you to believe that you are not who you say you are, or that you are naive, or that you are not worthy of anything but what they provide. Well, those who have been through the fire and are still here, know that that is not true. If anything you learned how to enjoy your own company. You learned to study yourself and master yourself and see through people. When you master yourself, you get to see the old self in those old people. You get to see why they were in your life and why they come back. How many of you have run across an old X or someone from your past and thought, how the hell was this person ever in my life? I actually had sex with that? You get to see why those people are in your past and why they must remain there.
When you upgrade your mind and your vision of the world and the people in it changes, you can no longer entertain what was. If they are not growing with you, I guarantee they are growing against you. You can only wish them well on their journey and thank them for the experience. You can't put on a new suit and go sit in the gutter. You can either go back to who you used to be and keep on that gutter suit or you can keep your new suit clean and be around other people who are wearing new suits and who can appreciate your new suit glow. They know what it took to get there, and they can applaud you and your new suit because they earned one too.
Peace Within
Lavidus
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