Take Your Time

Take your time, why are we in such a rush to get somewhere?  Why are we in such a rush to be or to do the next thing?   We are moving so fast that we no longer have time for time.  Are we in such a rush to be the next or the "New You" that we've left the unhealed part of ourselves behind?  We tuck the hurt, only to have reality rear its ugly head around Spring time when you thought that he or she was the one. Or after you have folded on that gym membership for the third year in a row, baby, just take your time.  There is no rush to improve perfection, every day leads to the new you, so what's the rush?

We bombard ourselves with the impression and the good intentions of becoming these new versions of ourselves.  Although that is possible, we must also be realistic and to not sell ourselves the same bargain of change that the world is offering us. Can we really change from December 31st to January 1st?  Can we really forget our old selves and forge ahead with this new identity and instantly forget the past?  No, I think not.  Well, maybe temporarily.  We all know that long-term change takes time, commitment, and determination and most of us give up by January 13th.  Each year we set ourselves up for another whirlwind relationship that begins with the promise of an unmet resolution.  I am suggesting that you take your time and give yourself a break before implementing changes that mentally you may not be ready for, be gentle with yourself.  

I mentioned earlier on a post on my Twitter (@LLWriter) that January should be the transition month.  If it takes 21 days to officially implement and make a change, then it should take just as long before we make a full commitment to these hopeful resolutions.  We should just spend 21 days thinking about what we want before we actually move towards it.  We can make resolutions every single day.  We can also take baby steps every single day. What we often do instead, is set expectations so high that we intentionally set ourselves up for failure. How many times have you had to start over?   Although there is nothing wrong with having to start over, in order to believe in the impossible, you must do what's possible first, so take your time with these necessary changes. 

In 2019, I was almost 200 pounds.  I was uncomfortable and I wanted to lose weight quickly, so I was starting and stopping all these different methods.  I failed at so many diets that I just stopped trying.  My body then started to reject the things I no longer needed, like energy drinks and sugar.  I no longer wanted to drink alcohol and I stopped eating certain foods.  My body naturally craved more vegetables and home-cooked meals, so that's what I gave it.  I made that change and although I had no idea what was happening, I went with what my body was saying and I lost forty pounds before I knew it. I became my ideal weight without even thinking about it.  Once I removed the desire, the solution came to me.   

Sometimes we have to pull away from the things we want the most, just to release the desire and allow the flow.  We don't always have to chase the things we want, if we truly deserve them they will come to us and it will be effortlessly.  So, take your time.

As this new year moves along, go with the flow.  Keep your intentions in mind, and in heart, but allow room for flow and take all the time you need to get to where you are going.  I am not saying that you rest on your laurels or let procrastination be your guide, all I am saying is there is no rush.  What's yours will always be yours and the destination will always be there.  Enjoy the journey and this experience while witnessing the miracles in your life.

Peace & Love💓💓

Lavidus

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