This is an age old subject for me and I have been asked on several occasions why am I single. I am educated, intelligent, attractive and have so many other positive qualities why haven't someone snatched me up?
There are several reasons, but I must answer a few just so that you can get a better idea of where I am coming from.
Besides being very complex and easily bored,I am pretty laid back And easy going. I enjoy hanging with friends and being a mom to my teenage daughter. Up until the death of her father I pretty much had the best of both worlds. Although we decided we are better as friends and parents as opposed to lovers, we still spent time together and talked to each other on a regular basis, I grew to value our friendship. We were inseparable. So when it came to dating, I really never took anyone that serious, I was too busy comparing and mostly wanting someone who could also just be a friend, but in the midst of all of that, there was good sex and some good times,and that was probably all that person would become to me. I believe that some men believe that if you make a woman cum then you are more than half way to her heart, I must admit for some that is true if you associate "good sex" with love. But if you are a woman like me, you can enjoy the sex and keep it movin'. If a man throws it out there I just might catch it, but don't expect me to fall head over heels with you. I mean an orgasm only last a few minutes, what good are you after that?
I am also what some men call a "nice" girl and some men try to take that for granted. I can spot an impostor from a mile away, my X taught me that. There is no way you can hide your true intentions with me. The best avenue to take is to be honest, and see what happens. If the timing is right, I just may want an sexual relationship or I might be cool with you having other women, just know that you will not be my only source of energy, I too, may indulge in the options that await. One thing I do not indulge in are married men, single husbands are the worse. You're talking to a woman who the only time that she has been dumped was because the guy thought I was using him for sex. (huh?) I have been engaged twice, but just could not do it, I had to be honest. I have no hang-ups when it comes to men, I love them, I enjoy them, and I admire many from a far. Yes,I have heard all the lines, ran across dudes who I have no idea why they would even think that we should hook up. I had men come up and open their wallets as opposed to their mind, but nothing compares to the real thang!
When it comes to the real stuff that make great relationships there are qualities that tend to attract me that stand out when it comes to the man. His level of attractiveness. I smile when I say that because being attractive to me is all in his swag, his confidence, his stroll, there is nothing like looking at a man from afar and noticing how amazing he is. Timing. Timing is so important. Intelligence, laughter and a sense of purpose. Accountable for his life and not blame his misfortunes on anything or anyone. A father to his children (because family is so important to me), a pleasant person to be around and most of all, a man who knows when he has meet a "woman" ENUFF SAID!
Some people think that I require a lot in the material area , although taking care of yourself is essential and being able to take care of woman is necessary, you do not have to have a fortune, you will attain that once I am by your side.:)
So to answer that question, why am I single? It just has not been the right time for me, and I am a patient girl. I do not rush anything, even though at times it feels so good, I want it all at once, I am taking my time and enjoying the ride along the way. Holla!
