When It's Good to You, But Not Good for You

Greetings Beautiful People....💋💜💛💚

Owwww have you ever had something that was so good to you but not good for you?  Why is it that the hardest people and things to let go of are the things that provide us with the greatest high, but just simply is not good?  Things that we have to sneak to get it or that are tempting just feel better when we get them, right?  Whether it's people, places, or things,  re we really addicted, is that forbidden fruit that appealing? Or is it just something that we need to experience in order to get to where we need to be?

I used to love this man.  At least I thought I loved him,  I loved what he did with his magic wand.  I loved how he could maneuver around my body.  I loved how he could conquer and revive, ya know what I mean?  Had me completely blind to the facts.  But silly me, those were moments that I thought it was love.  He knew exactly what it really was because that's how he operated.  I thought well damn, it can't be this good with everybody?   Turns out it wasn't but he didn't find that out until he left and tried to come back.  Anyway... It didn't matter how good or bad it was, he was serving it up like hotcakes during Sunday Brunch. He was spreading it around like almond butter with all the nuts.   I could have easily chosen to continue to be blind, but what it was and what it wasn't became even more and more obvious and neither of us could not ignore the facts. .  He belonged over there and I belonged up there. We were on different shelves of life and I didn't have time for him to catch up. And besides, just because he looks the part, does not mean he knows the part.   

One more donut is good to you but may not be good for you.

One more night might be good to you, but may not be good for you.

Telling that lie might sound good to you, but in the long run, may not be good for you.

I know we all have experienced something that was so so bad but felt so so good, temporarily.  But for the love of ourselves, in order to keep our sanity and self-respect, we must let go of those relationships that only provide moments of happiness and years of despair. Let go of that job that seems to just drains you and keeps you from what you really want.  Letting go of that one-sided love, letting go of living an unfulfilled life.  I know that toxic shit can feel so good, temporarily.  But once you fully let go, you'll realize it wasn't the toxic shit that felt good, it was what you imagined it to be, you kept being disappointed by what you hoped it to be.  You created your own disappointment by believing something that you knew wasn't true.   There is strength in our lessons so don't be afraid of making mistakes, it's your chance to change and be honest with who you really are.   Learn to love yourself enough to know when something is good to you, but not good for you. 

Chocolate Love- Sanura & Raheem DeVaughn

Peace & Love

Lavidus

You Need to Heal

This is a very abundant time. Despite all the things that are going on around us.  Despite all the unexpected changes that are taking place, this is a time when your thoughts will determine how far you go.  Your previous actions will determine how abundant this time will be.   It is a time of getting what you deserve.  It does not matter what side of the coin you are on, you definitely will be getting all you deserve.

It's also a time to focus on healing yourself, changing your ways, and making amends.  If you are not able to do that, then you will experience more of the same and it will progressively get worse.  If you are a hurt person,  stop hurting and start healing, because the karma you receive will be a heavy price to pay.  And some of you know damn well you can't take half the shit you dished out.  Focus on yourself.  Focus on ways on how you can improve and the things you need to change in order to flourish and not just exist.  Only you will know how honest you will be with yourself.   Some of you just have fucked up personalities and that's just the way that you are, and you exist in that space, not really knowing anything else.  That is your path and the people who are around you are on that same journey. It is what it is.

 For those people who have been counted out, disrespected, and underestimated, but kept going anyway, you are about to make people eat their words.  Your breakthrough is right now! The people who spoke ill words on your name, laugh at your dreams, they will experience (some may be already experiencing it) a starvation of the soul, one like they have never known. They will experience this for a very long time.  (All you had to do, was do what was right. But your jealousy and envy, became your friend and now that friend has made you the enemy.)  Do not worry about your fans/haters/frenemies, stay committed to your purpose, and play dumb when necessary. (wink, wink)

Control your emotions, control your thoughts.  Do not go so far outside yourself that you lose all control of what you want your world to be.  Remember, this world is still ours.  You have to be sure about yourself, have confidence, and believe in yourself.  This new world requires you to accept and love yourself just as you are.  We don't have to wear masks anymore, so why do you still have yours on?  Heal that inner child, honey, everything is going to be alright.   Once you start to make that shift, a lot has to fall away and when it does, accept it because I guarantee there is something better on the way.  

Peace & Love

Lavidus

Energy Vampires

Everyone knows that energy vampires are people who are unable to sustain their own energy of life force so they feed off other people who are able to vibrate at a higher energetic level.  We all know that the most popular form of energy that these vampires come in is narcissism.  Social media is over-saturated with talking about the people that carry this energy.  The more you talk about it the more they manifest. So today I am changing the subject and discussing why we invite them into our lives.  We often discuss what to look for and how to get out of a relationship with a narcissist, but I want to discuss how you attract this energy in the first place. 

We all want to be loved,  needed, and taken care of at some point. Even if we are seeing and interacting with someone in the most shallow of situations, human contact is still what keeps the relationship going, no matter how toxic it is.  An energy vampire solicits that emotional need. We learn the most about ourselves through the relationships we have with other people.  We become a different version of ourselves with each person we interact with.   So why has the narcissist chosen you? Or better yet, why did you allow good sex and empty promises cloud your judgment? For me, it was the empty promises followed up by some mind-blowing sex.  It was so good that I forgot about all the promises.  It took me a while to break away from this particular person because I was dickmatized.  I thought I loved him, but I realized this man had no emotional depth, and the only thing I was feeling deeply was that extension he carried so well.  We only had a few moments of happiness and because I was so caught up in looking forward to those moments, I didn't even realize that that was all it was and it was not about getting any better than this. Then that's when you have to make a decision.  You see it for what it is, now what?  You have to start thinking about what you really deserve and when those wheels start turning and that confidence starts to build up and you start to look in the mirror and start falling in love with yourself, then you realize that vampire energy has to go.  That particular energy is no longer fitting the version of yourself that you are becoming.  So Au revoir! Adios! Arrivederci! and Bye-bye! Leave them and it all behind.

Those empty unfulfilling relationships will get easier to recognize and let go.  You will no longer feel the need to argue with a fool because it is all above you now.  You no longer need to justify or validate your decisions, because you trust your intuition.  Those are some of the things you may learn, and since some of you are slow learners, take as long as you need to learn those lessons because they will keep coming.  The universe does not have a shortage of lessons, so learn them because the universe also does not have a shortage of abundance.  

Maybe you need to learn how to love yourself, so life will break your heart a few times before you know your worth. Maybe you need to learn how to put up boundaries, so life will allow you to be used until you protect yourself.   If you are doing, being, or existing anywhere that you do not want to be, the universe will send some tests and situations to see if you really want to change or if you are just playing around with moments of sovereignty.  Will you settle for this?  Or will you settle for that? Are you willing to walk away and heal yourself and prepare yourself for what you truly deserve?  What are you really ready for? Because these energy vampires will test all of that.  

You can not complain about something and still have them in your life while trying to create a blessing with someone else.  It does not work like that.  You can not settle for a life you do not deserve and hate on those who waited and got everything that they deserve.  No, you can't get past true intentions and your thoughts.  So if you find yourself in the presence of those that suck your energy and leave you feeling drained and hopeless, think about the lesson you need to learn and why you continue to allow it to happen.  What part of you needs to heal?  There is something greater waiting for you but first, you will need to prepare yourself.   You know what you need to do, so trust yourself and get it done.

 

That's all I have for today, stay tuned for Friday's Question of the day.  If you have any relationship questions or any subjects you would like me to discuss, please submit them to relationshiptalkpodcast@gmail.com.  Get out there and make it a great day, it is all yours.

Lavidus

Dickmatized

reference:WomanLit