Don't Affirm, Accept.

We all have these fantastic journeys that we are traveling.  These journeys we call life, we don't always have all the answers, nor do we always have it all figured out.  Some of us are able to ride the wave and manage this thing called life and others not so much.  When you resist, life gets complicated.  In order to cope and to make ourselves feel better, one of the ways we confirm our existence is through

 affirmations.  We affirm what we want, we affirm who we are, and we affirm who we aspire to be.  I am worthy.  I am strong.  I am somebody, but are you really?   During this episode, I explore the idea of accepting ourselves where we are first before we affirm who we want to be. 

I am on my own journey of self-love and self-discovery and it has not always been easy or nice.  I am not perfect by any means, but I always seek what I believe to be right and just.  Earlier in my life, some of my decisions were made based on my lack of confidence and on what was safe. I wasn't aware of the safety net that I had created for myself which also stunting my growth.  I was not always allowing myself to flow.  I was affirming "I am open to receive..blah blah blah..all that is divinely mine blah, blah, blah.  Affirming, but not willing to take the risk.  Believing, but not really ready to step out of faith.  I had to check myself and align myself with the words that were coming out of my mouth.  I had to enjoy, relax and accept myself at the stage I was at and then confirm with conviction who I was becoming.

Before you start affirming to what you want next or what you want to become, accept where you are right now.  Accept not being exactly where you want to be or who you want to be.   Accept your imperfections and what you don't like, and be open to making changes for your highest good.  This love thing is not about getting to a point where you have reached all these goals or made this much money, it's about accepting and knowing who you are before you get there.   You are who you are and your path is designed for you and you only.   Don't start looking in the mirror when you get a new outfit, or when you get those nails done, look at yourself right now.  Appreciate who you are and how far you've come at this very moment.  Once you do, whatever you want next is on the way.

Peace & Love

Lavidus

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Today's positive affirmation from the Make Today Magical Positive Affirmation Card Set is "I create the life I dream of". We are always co-creating with the universe.  God, source, whatever you believe in or do not believe in, you are the creator of your life, and with the right thoughts, intentions and focus your dream life can and will appear once you are aligned with those desires.  For those of you who do not know, focusing on someone else only takes away from you and whatever you attain by focusing on someone else will definitely be temporary.  Put your money where your thoughts are.  Are you not worthy of your own thoughts? Do you not believe in your creative abilities?

Creator.  What is a creator?  According to Oxford's dictionary, a creator is a person or thing that brings something into existence.  A creator can also be referred to as God.  Are you a creator? Do you have the ability to bring things into existence?  Can you turn negative energy into positive energy? Are you an alchemist?  We all have the ability, but I am not sure many of us have the belief in ourselves to use it.  To nurture it. To find it.  Instead, some may want to use someone else's intellectual property, which just makes you a copycat.

When you believe that you are a creator and understand the power that it holds then you are able to use your own unique gifts to your advantage.  Have you given up so much of yourself that you are now being managed like a puppet?  The creation begins in the mind and what you believe.  Your imagination can take you places and make you feel things before they come in to fruition.  How are you using that power?  Up until this point what kind of life have you created for yourself?  Does it look as good on the inside as it does on the outside?  

It can be a struggle to have dreams that no one believes in.  That's when you leave those 'No one's" behind and let them focus on you.   Believe in your creation.  Dream it.  Live it. Smell it and taste it.  No one has to, but you, because you are the creator.   I found my greatest strength and discovery of self, by being alone and creating.  There has been so much of myself that was undiscovered by me because I was trying to fit into a character that was not me.  Having a typical life has never been for me and once I accepted that, things began to move in the direction that I needed to go in.  I want to share with you today that, let the typical play their typical roles, what else can they do?  Do not let someone else's shame be your problem.  Do not absorb someone else thoughts and creations, be your own creator, and manage your own thoughts. Especially, the thoughts about yourself.  You have been given this gift of life, what are you going to do with it?  

Create the life you dream of.  Of course, you would like to have others to love it, but no one has to love it but you.  This timeline is yours to play with.  Be willing to let go and be guided to paradise.  Paradise is here, turn right and it is sitting there on the corner, but if you do not see the signs you just might miss it.    Imagine what a perfect life for you would be like.  No clocking in.  Raising with the sun, and sleeping with the stars.  Create the life you want.  Laying by the ocean, while your feet are deep in the sand. Create the life you want, touring the world sharing, learning, and teaching.  You are not far from whatever you imagine.  Keep that feeling of gratitude and get out there and make it a great day, it is all yours.

Lavidus

Woman!

They seem to be creating these fictitious power struggles between the two when none of us really exist.   All of a sudden, you have forgotten the power that women possess, maybe you do know, that's why all this confusion has been created.  Some of you would not even have a subject to talk about if you didn't talk about women. Some of you would not have a business if you didn’t talk about women.  You want to benefit from us, but not stand up for us.  You need a woman in your business in order for it to be a success.  Period.

Are we replaceable? Can a woman be replaced by something better or equal to?   I think not.  You’ll look like a fool, trying to put those big feet in those small shoes.  Are you trying to redefine what a woman is to include people who are clearly not women?  I am asking for clarification and understanding because I don't want to assume anything.  Women have fought too long in this world, all over the world for simple rights, now you want me to fight for this too? It would be easy if you didn't have to ask what is a woman.  It's obvious you have a clue.  All of a sudden you are unclear about what I am and when you are unclear you have a tendency to not acknowledge what is true.  I am a woman.  I have given birth to two children and at one point in my life, I was faced with the decision to have an abortion.  Have you ever been faced with those decisions?  Have you ever been faced with the challenge and the risk of choosing to carry a child for nine months or more? One in six women will experience sexual assault in their lifetime, how will you prepare your daughters for what they may experience?

A woman is why you, you, you, and you are here.  And if you were lucky you actually came through the canal and were breastfed with the best milk ever.  That's what a woman can do if that is what a woman chooses.  Has anyone ever told you what to do with your penis? It's almost insulting the extent that people will go to delay the inevitable.   Woman, do not take offense, keep your peace and follow your heart. Your intuition should be in overdrive, always trust it. You should be feeling something right now, you should be feeling a need to change the things that you have the power to change. 

What is a woman they say?

Umm yeah let me count the ways

Do you mean after all this time, a woman has never crossed yo' mind?

That is all that is on their mind, all day, every day, Woman.  What if today we decide, we don't want to carry your children.  We don't want to be your wife.  We don't want to be your equal.  We are not opposites or equals.  I don't need your rights, I have my own.  I don’t need your hair laws.  Do you really have to be told to respect someone’s hair?  You should be insulted that you are not mature enough to govern yourselves properly among people who are different than you.  You are different too and would expect the same.  I don't need your job. I don't need your approval.  I don't need your commitment, because I want to be free.  What if today, I decide to just do me.  

I supported your cause and forgot about mine

Raised five kids and nearly lost my mind

Handled the up and downs and your cheating ways

A woman is what I am, every single day!

I don't overuse my makeup

I don't need the glittery stuff

I work hard and play harder too

So give me my credit when the baby's due

What is a woman they may ask

A whole a lot of attitude and maybe some sass

She will climb the highest mountain, just to take a break

Turn it on in the bedroom and bake you a cake  

She can multiply and then divide just to make a point

Consider it done, on repeat, and then smoke a joint

Fight for this country, run this country all done by noon

The tides are turning, disruption is coming, so make her happy or you will see gloom.

It is time to stand up for what you believe in.  Stand up in any way that you feel is right.  We are all sharing this experience together and although we are all experiencing it through different lenses, we can all feel what is happening right now.  Do not get lost in fighting smoke.  It will dissolve and return as something else.  Take off the shades and see things clearly, before you invest your feelings.  Sun gaze new ways because the messages are on tap. Have you felt this before or is this something new? This wave into the future is all up to you.

Peace & Love

Lavidus

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You Need to Heal

This is a very abundant time. Despite all the things that are going on around us.  Despite all the unexpected changes that are taking place, this is a time when your thoughts will determine how far you go.  Your previous actions will determine how abundant this time will be.   It is a time of getting what you deserve.  It does not matter what side of the coin you are on, you definitely will be getting all you deserve.

It's also a time to focus on healing yourself, changing your ways, and making amends.  If you are not able to do that, then you will experience more of the same and it will progressively get worse.  If you are a hurt person,  stop hurting and start healing, because the karma you receive will be a heavy price to pay.  And some of you know damn well you can't take half the shit you dished out.  Focus on yourself.  Focus on ways on how you can improve and the things you need to change in order to flourish and not just exist.  Only you will know how honest you will be with yourself.   Some of you just have fucked up personalities and that's just the way that you are, and you exist in that space, not really knowing anything else.  That is your path and the people who are around you are on that same journey. It is what it is.

 For those people who have been counted out, disrespected, and underestimated, but kept going anyway, you are about to make people eat their words.  Your breakthrough is right now! The people who spoke ill words on your name, laugh at your dreams, they will experience (some may be already experiencing it) a starvation of the soul, one like they have never known. They will experience this for a very long time.  (All you had to do, was do what was right. But your jealousy and envy, became your friend and now that friend has made you the enemy.)  Do not worry about your fans/haters/frenemies, stay committed to your purpose, and play dumb when necessary. (wink, wink)

Control your emotions, control your thoughts.  Do not go so far outside yourself that you lose all control of what you want your world to be.  Remember, this world is still ours.  You have to be sure about yourself, have confidence, and believe in yourself.  This new world requires you to accept and love yourself just as you are.  We don't have to wear masks anymore, so why do you still have yours on?  Heal that inner child, honey, everything is going to be alright.   Once you start to make that shift, a lot has to fall away and when it does, accept it because I guarantee there is something better on the way.  

Peace & Love

Lavidus

Curse Words

 

I thought I would have a little fun and ask how the fuck are you today?

That was an example of using an expletive in a positive manner.  Although most of us do not use expletives in our daily language, using profanity sometimes can be used to release tension, make a point, or to further express how we feel.  Before I go into all of the most used curse words, I want to define what a curse word is.  Curse words are words that can be used when throwing a curse or evil spell and with the right intention, it can affect the person you are cursing on an emotional level, similar to a real curse.  I believe curses only work on people in low emotional states.  For example,  it is easier to curse a person with low self-esteem than it is for a person who loves themselves.  I am sure some of you spellcasters are finding that out.  

The first curse word was Fuck and it was used in the year 1310 by a Monk who wrote it on a manuscript.  The word fuck has a Germanic origin and the original meaning meant "to strike" but as time went on the usage changed.  If you are from the east coast, "Get the fuck outta here" may mean whatever story you are telling, it is so unbelievable you need to leave with that bullshit.  Or it could literally mean get the fuck out of here.  The word fuck is often the obscene word that is used to refer to sexual manners.  You may hear things like, "Can we fuck?"  "Do you want to fuck?" or "I just got fucked".  And depending on which end of the meaning you are on that could be the worse fuck of all.   If someone is talking too much, you may hear someone say "Shut the fuck up", or  "What the fuck are you talking about?  If a person wants to inform you about some shit you may not know about they may say something like,  "I don't fuck with you."   Or if it's a lost cause, fuck it!

The most used curse word is Shit.  Yes, I often use it when I am in a bind,  running out of time, or just referring to a piece of shit.  Although the word literally means to defecate or to have diarrhea, the urban usage of the word shit is often used positively.  You may hear it being used to refer to how you feel about yourself or someone else, " I am the shit" or "they are the shit".  Or if you want to express how you feel about a song that you vibe with, you'll say something like "that's my shit" or "that's the shit.".  When you put someone in their place or embarrass someone with your superior skills, you may have just "Shitted on them."

Last but not least, the most mighty and powerful curse word, Bitch!   Of course, we all know that this word usually is referring to the female gender and can be defined as a female dog.  The word bitch began to be used in the late 1300's and early 1400s.  In the 1930's, it was used in the male homosexual community, as a playful reference to a dog.  Today, it is also used in songs and in regular everyday language. You will often find when a woman rejects a man's offer or does not find him appealing, the first thing he may call her is a bitch.  The term has also been used to refer to the emotional state of a woman.  If she is bossy and in control, then she is a bitch. If she wines and complains, then she is bitchy, you get my point.    In conversation, you may use it as a term of surprise, Biiitch! Or as a warning, "Bitch, if you don't get out my face."  In the early 1960's the term "Bitchin'" would refer to something that is awesome, the best or is unusually unique.  If you are on your shit and you don't give a fuck, then someone may refer to you as  "That Bitch".  All you real Bitches stand up!  You can use the word as empowerment or embarrassment, it is up to you to define what it means to you.

The countries that curse the most are Russia and France, they will curse you out because they don't give a fuck about your feelings. The UK, Australia, and the US are tied in their usage of curse words, and in China, they barely use curse words at all.  If you want to go where they curse the most in America, you can travel to  Ohio,  Maryland, New Jersey, Louisiana, and California. I guess you also know where all the intelligent people are.  If you want to go where it is very nice and polite, you can travel to Washington, Maine, Arizona, and Texas, but who gives a fuck, right?  The curse words that are honorable mentions are motherfucker, got damn, son-of-a-bitch and asshole.

Thank you for joining me today, I am going to go fuck around.  Tune in on Friday, maybe I'll have a freaky tale or something like that.   Be safe, stay loved up, and get out there and make it a great day, it is all yours.

Lavidus

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Your Voice

 

To get your week started on a good foot, today's positive affirmation from the Make Today Magical Positive Affirmation Card Set is "I have a voice that matters". There is nothing more powerful than what you say and how you say it.  If you can articulate what you feel and believe in, then you are already ahead of the game.  And if you can habla ortro idioma, that's even better.

Your voice and words are a frequency and have the potential to put people in a trance.  Not only does the voice enter and activate several areas of the brain, but the vibration itself can be healing.  When you are saying affirmations over and over, it is creating a vibration.  That vibration is sent out to the universe and the universe always responds.  

Have you ever heard the term, "words are mightier than the sword?  Words can cut because of the vibration that each word sends.  Have you ever heard the term "the truth hurts"?  The truth hurts because the vibration of the words of truth cuts through all illusions of what you thought you believed and what you thought was true and knowing the truth can sometimes hurt.   You should always watch your words.  Manifestations are happening faster and faster, so be careful what you say about people and what you say about yourself because you are always being heard, and that internal guide is always listening.   Especially, if you are speaking about people in an unjustifiable manner.   The untrue words you may spew about someone else will become your truth. So be careful, you don't want to cause damage to your own life while trying to cause damage to someone else's.  

Use your voice to be the catalyst for change.  Everything is happening all at once, confusion, lies, debauchery, crime, and love.  So choose the world you want to be in.  Every battle is not yours to fight, so make sure you are not using your voice for empty matters. 

If I say, "I love you", can you feel it?  If I tell you, "You are the best I've ever had, do you believe me?  We all like to hear words that sound good, from music to speaking to singing voices.  That is the power of a frequency that we all have the power to tap into and use to our advantage.  We can change our voice to fit our mood or to change someone else's.  I learned on YouTube that Michael Jackson really had a deep voice, but he talked in that falsetto tone all the time to train his voice to be that way.  It opened the gateway for him to become the greatest entertainer in the world.  There isn't a song that Michael sang that did not move you in some kind of way. Would you like me better if I sound like this, or would you like it if I sound like this?  

I used to get laryngitis every year for about five or six years in a row,  and it would always happen in the month of  October.  For those of you who do not know what laryngitis is, it is an inflammation of the voice box.  It can happen when you get a cold, overuse your voice or some kind of irritation.  I would lose my voice for about a week, then it would recover.  Since I started using ginger, honey, and lemons,  I have not had laryngitis for a very long time.  I understand the power of the voice and it can be used in various ways, so I always take care of it.

No matter who you are, you have a voice and that voice is yours to use.  Use it for change and to empower yourself.  There is no need to go about talking jibberish, leave that to the politicians and the people who are professional delusionary speakers.  I often find it hard to indulge in small talk, because it doesn't require much thinking.  Yes, it is a skill to draw people in to listen, and before you know it you've spent half an hour or more listening to something that you do not understand.  Your energy has fueled an unbelievable truth.  You will take that unbelievable truth and spread it.  Remember, people will say things that are not the truth and it doesn't have to be, it just has to be believable, and once you believe it you make it true, whether it's really true or not.

Your voice is your voice.  Speak the life you want into existence.  And if your mama didn't tell you, I will.  If you don't have anything nice to say, be quiet, shut up, go to your room. 

That's all I have for today, tune in on Wednesday, my favorite day of the week to see what I discuss because right now I have no idea.  I am not prepared and I am winging it this week just to see what flies.  Tune in, I really appreciate all of you who listen to my podcast.  Get out there and make it a great day, it is all yours.

Lavidus