Greetings beautiful people. Are you alight?
Do you have to forgive someone for all the fucked up things that they have done? Do you forgive them once, twice, or a thousand times? They say that forgiveness is for you and not the other person, but what if you just don't want to. What if you are able to move on without forgiveness and leave it all to the heavens? There are so many elements that play in deception and lies. The people who are on the right, are really from the left. They take us by surprise, but we should surprise them too by moving on without a single word.
Who says that forgiveness is the gateway to honoring yourself as a better human being? The people that wrong us, must sleep well at night right? They rise to see another day and still exist, so there seems to be not much punishment. Or are they suffering each night wondering how they made such a foolish mistake and how can they rectify the situation? How they can tell the truth? I don't know. How many of us are losing sleep over someone we haven't forgiven? Why should we forgive them and allow them to gain access to our beautiful way of being? Why should we forgive them for giving us something we didn't even deserve? Does that mean that we have to still be friends or lovers? I think not.
I have forgiven a lot of people for all they've done. I also understand that ignorance is bliss. Once I forgive you, I move on and usually do not look back. Once I have forgiven you, it does not mean that you will gain access into my life on a personal basis. It means that our experience has changed me so much, that I do not need to have you in my life at all. I will wish you, all the best in your endeavors, but this endeavor has expired. Do you know what happens when we forgive and hold on to people who we should have let go of years ago? We delay our own happiness. People can be blocks to where you want to really go and when you hold on, you will never get to what you truly deserve because they are not supposed to share it with you, no matter how much we want them to.
Imagine all the people that have forgiven people and it did not change the situation or their behavior. If you would just said, Nah, not this time and kept it moving, you would have saved yourself some serious time on what you already knew. I mean you forgive over and over and what is that for really? Who is benefitting from your forgiveness over and over again? A person with changed behavior is someone who may be sincere in their admitting their wrong and asking for forgiveness, but what if it does not change and resort back to their old ways? Was that forgiveness still for you?
I believe in honoring the people in your lives. This life is so short and we hardly get to enjoy all that it is and all that it can be. There are a lot of unhealed people and that is what it is. But consider this the next time you want to rush and forgive someone because "they" want to remain in your life. People who love us, do not take foolish risks. People who love themselves, do not take foolish risks. Take your time with who you forgive and watch for changed behavior.
Peace & Love
Lavidus
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