Your New Suit

 

Do you really know the people you think you know?  Has anyone in your life changed so drastically that they are unrecognizable? Have you changed?  Do you have the same people in your life for the last twenty years? Do you still trust them?  Do they trust you?  Every day, everything around you changes.  The seasons change, the trees change, and the animals in their natural habitat change.  Are you changing?  Have your mind and emotions caught up to your natural age, or are you still stuck in 1996?

One of the problems with having long-term friendships and long-term relationships is the rate at which someone changes.  You can never determine when those changes will take place, they just do.  Events, circumstances, and the desire to change are some of the things that can ignite that pivotal moment at any moment.  Either those changes extend the relationship or situation or it ends it completely.  There are no wrong answers, just paths to choose. Paths that lead to a better you.  There are some people who will never change and that is their choice.  You have to be brave.  You have to love and accept what you see in the mirror and a lot of people are not ready for that.  Never looking up, never looking down, they are just following the yellow brick road.   When you do change, when you do let go and allow, the need to resist or figure it all out goes away.  The come-up is no longer appealing.

I have changed a lot.   I had to remove and be willing to let go of all the relationships that served no real good purpose in my life. I had to remove titles and judge people by their actions.  I had to take a good look at the part I was playing in my own demise and remove myself and gravitate to those who match my vibe and speak my language.   Some would like you to believe that you are not who you say you are, or that you are naive, or that you are not worthy of anything but what they provide.  Well, those who have been through the fire and are still here, know that that is not true.  If anything you learned how to enjoy your own company.  You learned to study yourself and master yourself and see through people.  When you master yourself, you get to see the old self in those old people.  You get to see why they were in your life and why they come back. How many of you have run across an old X or someone from your past and thought, how the hell was this person ever in my life? I actually had sex with that?  You get to see why those people are in your past and why they must remain there.

When you upgrade your mind and your vision of the world and the people in it changes, you can no longer entertain what was.  If they are not growing with you, I guarantee they are growing against you.  You can only wish them well on their journey and thank them for the experience.   You can't put on a new suit and go sit in the gutter.  You can either go back to who you used to be and keep on that gutter suit or you can keep your new suit clean and be around other people who are wearing new suits and who can appreciate your new suit glow.  They know what it took to get there, and they can applaud you and your new suit because they earned one too.

Peace Within

Lavidus

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What Are You Ready For?

What are you ready for?

Are you ready to forget to remember?

Are you ready to strip your personality down to the root 

So you can fiend and find your truth?

You're not foolin' anyone, but yourself

So, don't you want to be free or someone else?

Will you forever feast on the illusion of your egotistical desires?

Or will you taste freedom and rise higher?

What are you ready for?

Are you ready to walk away to save yourself?

Are you ready to love yourself deeply and unapologetically?

Are you ready to ride alone, become strong and then ride again?

What are you ready for?

Are you friends with the things you summon in the night?

Are you ready to receive what you dished out times thrice?

What are you ready for?

Are you ready to remove the roof off yo' brains?

(A closed mind won't get you far, you'll go insane!)

What are you ready for?

Are you ready to receive from all your hard work?

Are you ready to celebrate and step into this new chapter filled with all that you asked for?

All that you dreamed about?

Are you ready to be all that you are?

Are you ready to accept all that you are not?

Are you ready to handle yourself properly with tenderness, compassion, and forgiveness?

What are you ready for honey? Because it definitely coming, swiftly.

Can you handle all that's coming your way?

Or will you falter, remain lost, and shifty?

Are you ready to fly and be extraterrestrial?

And watch everything you touch turn into gold?

Are you ready to spread real love and walk in the light?

And accept the dark because you know balance soothes the soul and compels the heart

Whatever you are ready for, that is what you'll see

So dream big, challenge yourself and watch your company

Peace & Love

Lavidus

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Claim Your State

I feel amazing!  I feel good and nothing will interfere with how I am feeling.  How I choose to feel today has nothing to do with you, so I hope you don't get offended by my natural high. I am incredible, I can do the impossible, and go farther than the sky.  That is how you must greet each and every day, claim the state you want to be in, and be it.  That is how you beat defeat and manage disappointments, by claiming your state. When the storms of life are washing you all over the place, find a location where you can quiet your mind, and embrace yourself.   You can affirm, "I am Powerful" in order to change your mood, or "I am Love" or you can just say "Fuck It" and have an even better day.  Whatever you claim, whatever you state let that be what rules your day.  

Everything in life is not always positive, some people are perpetual assholes and like to claim that state. Some people are so far from their own reality that another persons life seems like home. The live for disruption and chaos, because that is where they feel alive. You have to learn to not take another persons life path personally, and recognize them when you see them. All those who go against the many laws of life are often faced with the creation of their own reality and that is not your problem. 

Have you ever been having a bad day and someone calls you and says, I love you? How did that make you feel?  Those words at that moment changed your mood and became the words that you didn't know you needed to hear.   Your words can not only change your mood but the mood of others.  Although it is impossible to remain positive all day every day, you can become aware of your thoughts and the energy that you spread, and the energy that you receive.  When I am not feeling my best, I really don't want to be around anyone.  I play music and I'll have my own concert, with Janet Jackson as one of my backup dancers.  I look at myself in the mirror and I remind myself of who I am and what I am capable of.  I am human, I make mistakes, and I experience pain.  I take those moments and make them beneficial for me and allow them to be the foundation of my strength.  I do not dwell on it. I feel it, and I let it pass. I store those moments for future use because none of what happens in our life is in vain.  If we pay attention, we always get what we deserve, and what we deserve is always based on our actions and decisions. 

It is a small world that we live in, full of connections, redirections, distractions, and people trying to find their plot, copy what you got, and steal your claim to  fame.  The originals will rise and the fake will melt because no one else has your name.   Don't lose sight of who you are.  No matter what is going on outside of you, and around you, do not lose what's inside of you.  Do not let the world convince you that you need to be anything else except what you are comfortable with being.   Everyone wants to be able to exude that priceless energy, or at least get close to it, so be selective, because everyone is not worthy.  You have more influence than you think, for those who don't think. So, take this moment and make it yours and claim your state.

Peace & Love

Lavidus

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Take Your Time

Take your time, why are we in such a rush to get somewhere?  Why are we in such a rush to be or to do the next thing?   We are moving so fast that we no longer have time for time.  Are we in such a rush to be the next or the "New You" that we've left the unhealed part of ourselves behind?  We tuck the hurt, only to have reality rear its ugly head around Spring time when you thought that he or she was the one. Or after you have folded on that gym membership for the third year in a row, baby, just take your time.  There is no rush to improve perfection, every day leads to the new you, so what's the rush?

We bombard ourselves with the impression and the good intentions of becoming these new versions of ourselves.  Although that is possible, we must also be realistic and to not sell ourselves the same bargain of change that the world is offering us. Can we really change from December 31st to January 1st?  Can we really forget our old selves and forge ahead with this new identity and instantly forget the past?  No, I think not.  Well, maybe temporarily.  We all know that long-term change takes time, commitment, and determination and most of us give up by January 13th.  Each year we set ourselves up for another whirlwind relationship that begins with the promise of an unmet resolution.  I am suggesting that you take your time and give yourself a break before implementing changes that mentally you may not be ready for, be gentle with yourself.  

I mentioned earlier on a post on my Twitter (@LLWriter) that January should be the transition month.  If it takes 21 days to officially implement and make a change, then it should take just as long before we make a full commitment to these hopeful resolutions.  We should just spend 21 days thinking about what we want before we actually move towards it.  We can make resolutions every single day.  We can also take baby steps every single day. What we often do instead, is set expectations so high that we intentionally set ourselves up for failure. How many times have you had to start over?   Although there is nothing wrong with having to start over, in order to believe in the impossible, you must do what's possible first, so take your time with these necessary changes. 

In 2019, I was almost 200 pounds.  I was uncomfortable and I wanted to lose weight quickly, so I was starting and stopping all these different methods.  I failed at so many diets that I just stopped trying.  My body then started to reject the things I no longer needed, like energy drinks and sugar.  I no longer wanted to drink alcohol and I stopped eating certain foods.  My body naturally craved more vegetables and home-cooked meals, so that's what I gave it.  I made that change and although I had no idea what was happening, I went with what my body was saying and I lost forty pounds before I knew it. I became my ideal weight without even thinking about it.  Once I removed the desire, the solution came to me.   

Sometimes we have to pull away from the things we want the most, just to release the desire and allow the flow.  We don't always have to chase the things we want, if we truly deserve them they will come to us and it will be effortlessly.  So, take your time.

As this new year moves along, go with the flow.  Keep your intentions in mind, and in heart, but allow room for flow and take all the time you need to get to where you are going.  I am not saying that you rest on your laurels or let procrastination be your guide, all I am saying is there is no rush.  What's yours will always be yours and the destination will always be there.  Enjoy the journey and this experience while witnessing the miracles in your life.

Peace & Love💓💓

Lavidus

Why 80% of Resolutions Fail

Happy New Year!

Happy New Year Everyone!! January 1st has arrived and at this time of the year, I like to reflect on what has passed, the lessons I've learned, and the experience I've gained.  This year was more about discovering who I am, finding out who is around me, and trusting what I feel.  Maybe you have allowed yourself to let go of false beliefs, let go of unauthorized perceptions, and let go of people, places, and things that do not serve you, support you, or love you.  If you have let go of those things, then Congratulations!  You are ready for the next level of this experience called Life.  

It gets easier to recognize who belongs and who doesn't.  It gets easier to let go and cling to those things and people that actually leave you feeling good.  Change is good, and growth is even better.  You owe it to yourself to allow yourself to experience life through more than one stagnated lens.  Free Yourself.

One of the most beneficial things I did in 2022 was to have boundaries.  You can not control how people view you, you cannot control what they say and you cannot control what they think.  But you can control how you respond, you can control if you continue to be in their space and you can control if they are allowed to be in yours.  Having boundaries has been the most loving thing I did for myself.  It helps you to determine rather quickly who can be in that area of your life and who cannot.  Gauge how you feel after people leave your space.  Do you feel, "Wow, I can't wait to see them again!" Or is it more like, "Wow, where the fuck did my energy go?" Do you feel energized, or are you left feeling depressed and drained?   Spend time with people who can reciprocate real love and not just say the words.   Learn what it feels like to be accepted and loved so that an imposter won't stand a chance.   Gain the experience of knowing when there is an even exchange or atleast a similarity in the level of energy you are experiencing so that all of your sweetness will be returned and not just taken.

 

I've learned and I've closed doors and chapters. I've accepted people for who they are and moved around them accordingly.   Everything feels new and unchartered.   The world is changing and it seems like we are in the midst of whatever this new world has for all of us.  I experienced so much last year and it definitely has changed me, in a good way.  Sadly,  it became more apparent how much people are not satisfied with their own lives.  I understand how making another person a distraction can make you temporarily feel good, but it does not change the facts.  I hope for all of you as this new season rolls around that you will find more time to focus on yourself and love the parts of yourself that you have yet to discover.

Peace & Love 💓💓

Lavidus

"Thank you all for your love and support.  It gets greater later, so keep going." LLW

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"Capricorn Season"

There was a time when everything seemed so simple

The lines were real fine, blind, with no wrinkles

 

All eyes on me, but you still can't see your image

Prayer, spells, and wishing you well will not repair the damage

You took a chance on a zero cause

Sealed your fate, put you on a permanent pause

All because your ego had you in a Kung-Fu grip

Couldn't see past your own thoughts

You let the wrong words pass your lips

Now what the Moon concealed the Sun will shine bright

All things done in the dark will finally see the light.

Enjoy the Season!  Thank you all for your continuous love and support!💖💖💋

Lavidus

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Ride the Wave

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Life happens in waves and if you can navigate those waves, life gets easier and you have a clearer understanding of why it all had to happen.  You learn to go on with a new attitude and leave those things that no longer serve you behind.   It gets easier to leave those things behind and move towards those things that feel good.  Those things that actually add to your happiness, are the only things that really matter.

When you get to a certain stage in life, everyone can't go with you. There are doors and chapters that will be closed forever.  Everyone will not be happy for you and everyone will not have a place in your future.   Some roads you must travel alone in order to get the full view of what this road may have just for you.  Everyone may not understand your path in the first place, so it is not up to them to determine your worth.  This is your life.  This is your gift, what are you going to do with it?

There is power in knowing who you are.  Power in knowing about the abilities that exist in us all.  We won't all have the same lessons to learn, and we won't all have the same experiences, but we all can come together and move mountains.   Imagine competing and comparing yourself to someone who does not even have the same purpose as you.  What a waste.  When you are able to dive into who you are and expose those parts of yourself that you won't even look at, there's a level of freedom that becomes a part of your existence when you can fully accept yourself. You may even wonder what took you so long to get to this place or wonder why it had to be you or wonder why your life is this way.  Well, none of that really matters.  What matters is that you are able to find yourself at every stage of your life, get lost, find yourself, get lost again and discover yourself. Get lost and love every part of it.  

One of the most unfortunate things in life is not being able to live in your truth.  Some of us, some of them, some of U’s are living but not really having the ability to live.  Loving without really having the ability to be loved.  Existing but not really feeling anything.   It all becomes empty emotions on repeat because those fictitious feelings become real and you hold on to the parts that you thought you needed.  Learn to release and let it all go.  Life is but a dream, so just learn to step back and ride the wave. 

Lavidus

"A person who doesn’t live in their truth can never make you happy.” LLW

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