It's All Your's

It's another day, and It's All Yours!

"Thank you all for listening to my podcast.  Thank you for all the love.  I appreciate and feel all that you give me.  We can all move forward together."  LLW

Peace & Love

Lavidus

The Woman Narcissist

 

A person with a narcissistic personality disorder has many characteristics that help you to see who they are.  They are usually self-centered and have a disoriented self-perspective.  They tend to be the best of manipulators and have no empathy and the majority of them are men.  However, about 25% of women carry this trait, and because they are women, it may not be as obvious. 

Women and men who develop this kind of personality are usually dealing with some sort of unaddressed childhood trauma and have made the decision to not address that trauma and to project it instead.  They become master manipulators, and lifetime victims, and will try to control any scenario to make themselves look like the hero when they really are the problem.  They will compete where they do not compare, tear you down to build themselves up, and become even more delusional as they age.

Women with this disorder come in the form of overbearing mothers, sadistic girlfriends, or malicious wives.  They are covert in their attempt to control and will use their pain or sex as a way to gain trust.  They are very superficial.  Money makes them feel important.  If you have ten dollars and they have eleven, you are beneath them.  I have had a few experiences with narcissistic mothers and their sons.  That is a relationship that is more toxic than any one I have ever seen.  Their son becomes the only man that they can control and manipulate and any woman that interferes with that dynamic becomes the enemy.  They fill their son's head up with so much of what he is not, they then create a monster.  It was the narcissistic mother that created the "No one is good enough for my son" motto. No, your son is just a piece of shit you created.  Imagine being a man who hates his mother, but takes it out on the women in his life.  I was dating a guy and we made plans for me to come over and chill and watch Netflix. He told me that his mother was spending the night. She had the bedroom and he was on the couch and it was not a good night for me to come over.  If they do not like you, they will also help him cheat, introduce him to other women etc.  Anything to hurt you and make you argue with them or leave.  Their simple methods do not change.  If a man is not putting his mother in her place, flee the scene.   Run as fast as you can, it is a lost cause and battle.

 I also believe that women with this disorder secretly hate other women.  Especially if they can see you as a threat.   They are the "super" feminist or the "super" religious, or the "super" helpful friend that wants your place.  Whatever the case, if you are a beautiful woman, intelligent, confident, resilient, and have a little common sense,  they will try to figure out a way to make you less appealing.  Remember, they make all these desperate measures because of how they feel about themselves.   Their self-esteem needs to be resuscitated, but they are going about it the wrong way.  Instead, they feed off of your energy, good love, and good nature.  They need your attention.  Whether it is positive or negative they need something to feed off of like leeches.  If you want to see their true intentions create some boundaries.  If you want to see the extent they will go, ignore them and do not validate their behavior.  They are insecure and need healing and until they are able to face their own mirror, which they rarely do, they will forever live with the perpetual need for validation.

The good thing is, the earth is clearing itself of these unsavory energies, the manipulators, liars, thieves, and anyone who is unable to live in their truth, whatever that truth is, so continue to put up your boundaries. If it doesn't feel good or right, let it go. You do not need to explain anything to anyone. They know who they are, they just hope you don't.

Peace & Love

Lavidus

"People do what they do, based on who they are. Recognize who they are and believe it" LLW

The Joy You Bring

I had to start June off with some poetry because I believe this month will be poetic.  If you do not do anything else, please take care of your heart.  Do not let this world or people make you bitter because they are.  Do not let them make you believe you are not supernatural because you are.  If you were anything else outside of magical, they would not be listening so intently and watching so closely.  They know. So, do not let them steal your joy.

I have not always made the best decisions, but I've learned to.  I may not have always had the best of anything, but nothing is beyond my reach. You know, you have to believe in yourself. You have to go beyond the box that they try to place you in.  The typical is no longer appealing and in order to get what's real, you have to be real yourself.  I had people sending me bad juju, spells, and all kinds of shit.  You know how they do, when they want to change the direction you are going, influence your decisions so that it benefits them.  It gets funny after a while because you're asking for something that you know that you do not deserve, the nerve.  You want to be like someone you're jealous of,  how does that work? The nerve.   You want to backtrack and change you're original thoughts and actions, well, it's too late.  The wheel has turned and you are on the other side, getting ready to receive all that you dished out. Can you handle it?

Take it all in stride, people.  Some people will never know who they are, especially if they're too focused on you. Some people will never get beyond what they have been told and that is their place.  Ignorance is bliss and it will always be.  I feel a little different today, my body is lit up with the anticipation of what's to come.  Do not let anybody interfere with what is rightfully yours.  Remain focused on the goal.  Make noise and change the narrative for whoever can read and feel the need for change. Do not seek understanding or validation from people who cannot look in their own mirror.  Who are you that I should know anyway?

Bring joy wherever you go, sing a song, and light up the room upon entrance.  Conjure up the fire within and let the wind guide the way.  There will be bumps, stops, and maybe some bruises but you get back up and do it all again until you get where and what you want.  You'll never get anywhere on the backs of another.  You will never get anywhere, being like everyone else.  This time period calls upon your ability to stand out and not blend in.  Are you blending in? 

I would like to address all my warriors who are standing ten toes down for themselves and those they love.  If you have a strong family of people standing with you, go all the way, leave everyone else behind, and don't look back.

Peace & Love

Lavidus

Hey Friend...

Hey, Friend, what took you so long?
Was it the water that divides? Then divide again and walkthrough

Was it the time it took, the time is now,  so come through

Because I love it when you do what you do, 

Sapiosexual, So my brains you'll have to get to

Hey Friend, what took you so long?

I've been playing with the idea of you and me

Out there flying high with no parachute

Landing in drylands, no water or truth

Hey Friend, where have you been?

I am out here fighting dragons and now I am one

Took the scenic route and it was not all fun

Came back again to win and now I can't lose

Now it's your turn, so make your move

Hey friend, what took you so long?

Last week you wanted to play

This week you have nothing to say

I know she wanted me to be her friend just so you could be happy again

Hey friend, Where have you been?

I took a trip to the sky, turned left and I was in Dubai

Soaking up the sun and sand because everywhere I go is homeland

Hey friend, don't take too much longer

We were bonded many lives ago, so now together we're stronger

We have all the keys, cause we made them

Now stick that key in and turn that lock, magic will be made and I'll be giving you all that I've got.

Lavidus

"This is the point where I allow you to do the right thing, but not tonight."  Denzel Washington-The Equalizer II

Do You.

Photo Credit: "See the Snow"  by LLW

If you like it, I love it. Do you. 

I am not sure if people realize what “do you” means. It’s an expression to do what's best for you, to do what works for you, and anything with “You” in it, do it.   I admire people who can be authentic, stand alone and go against the grain and still come out on top.  It always leads to bigger and better things.   The right people always seem to show up.  It's just that you have to be aware when the wrong ones sometimes get there first.  They'll come around smiling and grinning like they have all the genius ideas when they could not formulate an original thought, even if you gave it to them. 

Know yourself, so you won’t have to manufacture other people's ideas and thoughts, find your own. Know yourself, so you won't have to emulate the character of someone you do not even know. The lost are really lost, so be careful who you follow.  I hear people saying the same thing in a hundred different ways and the person that says it the hundredth time, appears to have all the credibility when all they really have is popularity. I’ve also learned that it’s not what you are saying, it's who’s saying it. Pay attention, it's easier to accept the truth from someone you like or admire, even when they're telling a lie. 

I am very hopeful for the future. These old paradigms, ways of thinking, and popularity contests are going to be far in the past.  They will be in no one’s memory.  Will that be you?  It will not be a time in history when someone says,   "I remember when Dr. Joe got five thousand likes on his tweet, it was so amazing!  Or  "I remember when Ms. CanDo had over a million followers, that was so profound." No. No one is going to be saying that. No one is going to be thinking that.  So maybe you should think about what you want your legacy to be?  What difference will you make in this world?  Someone asked me, what is my purpose? My purpose today is to enlighten you to your own power.  I’ll reveal more of what my purpose is as I go along.  If I am not saying anything that encourages you, or if you do not resonate with anything that I am saying, do not listen, do not follow me. I will not be offended because I want you to go wherever you are feeling empowered.  

I want you to be a success, whatever success is to you.  I am actually looking forward to when I am sitting on the beach of a lawn, writing my autobiography while my assistant sends out my bleets. Bleets that you can only receive if you have my app. Membership will not be for the miscellaneous.  People always say enjoy the present, enjoy right now, tomorrow is not promised and you’re right. But, my mind wanders, my imagination is vivid and I can not help the happiness I feel when I travel to the future. Let your mind create the earth you want, the power is in you. Allow yourself the freedom of being exceptional and unique.  Do not assimilate to something that does not fully represent you.  Use your innate power to be, whatever it is you want to be. You do not need anyone's permission.  Just be patient with yourself and let your “Fearless Freak Flag Fly” (c). 

Peace & Love 

Lavidus 

You Choose...

I find it quite interesting when people get into relationships and then wonder how they got into these relationships.  It's like, you choose a duck and now you are mad because the duck is quacking. Who's fault is that?  Is it theirs, because it has always been their nature to be a duck, to have duck ways, or was it the duck in you that resonated with that duck? I'm just saying, let's put the blame where it belongs because we all have to be made accountable for what we choose.

Let's not be discouraged by circumstances and do not let anyone make you feel bad about where you've been or where you are in life.  Every stage in life is temporary, grow from it, learn from it, and keep going. Stay focused, because you are already who you want to be.  I guarantee when you get to wherever you think you maybe want to go, they'll still be lookin' from where they're still at.   Do not let anyone tell you how to feel or how to respond to this world or how to show up in it.  We are all in this world, but some of us are out of this world.  We are having all these experiences, trying to manage our thoughts and stay focused on the prize, whatever that prize is.   You choose.  Do not let anyone tell you what to do.  You choose.  There shouldn’t be anyone thinking about you more than you think about yourself.  I do not mean that in a selfish way.  We are all taught to always think of others. I get it, but who got you more than you?  When you can have you, work on you, understand you, and forgive yourself for all the shit you didn't know, recognize all the pieces and try to put it all together the best way you can, that's all you.   Even on an airplane, they tell you to give the oxygen to yourself first.  Heal yourself. So we can heal this hurt nation. Her feelings have been hurt and we all know what happens when a woman is scorned.  She tears up cities and brings down nations. Destruction has to take place. The land needs to be plowed and turned over for these new seeds to be planted. Save your own life first! Heal yourself first! It's a continuous process, growth never stops, and you’re supposed to be getting better at this. Are you?

When you elevate your mind, you don’t talk about the same subjects you talked about five years ago.   You can barely be around the same people. I know I can’t. I am a foreigner. I had to reprogram and re-educate myself. I have the curiosity of a child, soaking up all this new information, so I am not even the person I was five years ago. I had to let go of all this pain that I was harboring and I choose to forgive and move on and let it all go.  The old me had to go, and I had to get to know myself all over again, and I love her. Are you willing to do the hard work alone, or do you need a pat on the back or congratulations in order for you to keep going?  Maybe you need permission to state your claim. Or maybe you feel your transformation needs a team effort?  I don’t know, You choose. 

I do know this, you have a unique path that's all yours, so don't give up on it.  Don't give up on your story.  You need to be here to tell it.  We all need each other right now in the right way.   Don’t let your heart go astray. Be accountable. Be responsible for your decisions, every single one of them.  What are you learning about yourself right now? Are you being brave? Are you being courageous?  Are you an active participant in the course your life is taking? Are you the Captain or a sailor?  Are you The Queen or are you a princess? You choose. 

Peace and Love

Lavidus

  

It's A Party!

                            

                                            "The Sun"  By LLW

"Usually when people look down on certain qualities in you, it's because they themselves are conditioned to see those things as bad, and the deeper the conditioning is, the more forcefully they will try to shut it down or shame it in you."  

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Enjoy Your Day!👄😂😂

Lavidus

"The future is bright for those who can look into the sun." LLW