It's Just My Advice

I often hear of women who are having problems with their men, or problems with their relationship.  Those things are bound to happen when two people are trying to come to a common ground in each other's lives.  Having a disagreement is not always a bad thing. You get a chance to see where the other person is coming from, that is if you are communicating in a way that allows each person to really say what they feel.  But we can't always blame our unhappiness on the man.  As women, we have to be responsible for who we choose as well.

So here's my Advice:

1. You can't expect a man to grow up if you keep acting like his mother.  Naturally, women cater to the nurturing role, sometimes while stripping the man of his manhood.  If he needs a mother, let him go to her. You are not her competition.

2.  He's only an asshole because you've accepted his asshole behavior.  Why should he change?  If you want to be with him, then you change and accept it.

3.  Men are very easy to please.  Their level of complication is limited.  If he is extremely complicated, or never satisfied, then maybe there are other issues that need to be addressed.  It is not your problem to fix.

4.  There are plenty of single men and all the good men are not married.  Unfortunately, some of the married ones are hanging out like they are single. Don't fall for it. If they are unhappy, leave the situation.

5.  Don't change yourself to fit his mold.  He has to love you just as you are. Period!

6.  Everything that feels good is not good.  Give that euphoric feeling that comes in the beginning when love is new, some time.  Time reveals the truth of how someone really feels and their intentions.

7.  If you just want a sexual relationship, then don't get emotionally involved.  Set the standards from the start and stick to it.

8.  Never give a man more credit than he deserves.  You are creating a fantasy and setting yourself up for disappointment.  See him for who he is, then decide.

9.  Men are always drawn to different things, don't change to be someone else to get a man like your friend did. What works for them, may not work for you.  And it may all seem rosy on the outside, but  I am sure your friend is not sharing all the dirt that goes on on the inside.

10. Forget about a timeline. The, "I need to get married at this time", or "I need to have a baby at this time" or anything that limits your freedom to enjoy where you are in life. We are all born at different times for a reason; one reason may be to travel different paths of life.

11.  Don't expect to find prince charming while you are still dealing with frogs.  Be clear, be open, and be single.  There is nothing wrong with enjoying the freedom of being single and taking your time to choose.

12.  Ladies, it's ok to cater to your man.  A real one will appreciate your trust and your willingness to please him.  Make him feel like he is in control and he deserves all this love because we all know who really is. ;)

If you want some personal advice or need further clarification, book a session with me and let's talk about it. 

       Always know and believe You can have anything you want, aim high and believe it!

Peace & Love

Lavidus

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