The other night I took the chance and we out to have a quick drink with one of my girls. The evening was nice. We were at a joint that was definitely for the grown folks per say and the ambiance was real nice and smooth like a double shot of Hennesy.
After scoping the scene of those coming in and out, we were soon approached by two men. They were average and definitely not my type, but seemed to be the most social. Notice I said, "the most social". I immediately noticed that they were married men. You know how I feel about some married men and instead of flashing and giving them "the business",I went along with what they were offering; ya' know drinks, food and conversation. I also thought this was my chance to ask a few questions of the married men whom I will refer to as Dick and Harry.
After a few drinks, that alcohol induced looseness started to sink in. Harry asked me if he was cute. OMG! My response was a bit of surprise to him because I said what difference does it make, you're married. He said, I didn't think you noticed. Really? You're wearing a wedding ring, pal, who wouldn't notice. He laughed and said so if I was ugly or handsome it would not matter because I am married. I replied, exactly. Why should I be the one to stroke your ego? I went on to ask why did they choose me and my friend to talk to as opposed to the other women that were in the place. Dick gave the lame excuse that the only available seats were by us. Harry gave a more believable and realistic response. He said that he would rather sit and talk with the most beautiful women in the place, and if he were to screw up tonight it would be with a beautiful woman as opposed to the other options that appeared to be available. Thanks for the compliment Harry, but you're still married. They both explained how they were just there to have a good time and Dick even said, "He had nothing to lose". Nothing to lose, huh? Not even a wife? He explained nothing to lose because he was not doing anything, just having a good time. Yeah, except buying drinks for beautiful women with the hopes of landing one in the sac. How about bringing your wife and buying her drinks? Oh, that may have stopped when you got married, my bad.
I know that I may be hard on married men maybe because they are the kind that come up to me the most. They are also the most social. I guess in their minds they think if this doesn't work out they can always go home and stick it to their wives, while pretending to stick it to the girl at the bar or in the strip club or the office chick or the waitress. Yeah, ok, I get it. No harm in the imagination. Perhaps, there is an innocence in them buying drinks and having a good time, some wives prefer that their husbands get lost from time to time. There is no harm in flirting , right? And besides, with the rate of cheating women rising their wives may have been out "having a good time" too; I can assure you, they had nothing to lose.
Thursday, October 4, 2007
Wednesday, October 3, 2007
Tuesday, October 2, 2007
Karrine Stevens...Hail the Queen!
Shut the F*ck Up!
Why are so many people mad at Karrine. There goes the judgement thing in full force. Why are you so mad? If she were white, she probably would be getting praise from the black men that are trying to stone her to the wall. Why are we so embarrassed by each other. Why do we hold such high regard for others and disdain
for our own.
Look Jackasses! No one has sued her, she must be telling the truth. You have her on your shows to interview her, but then you try to prosecute her as well. Get over yourself you self-righteous bastards! You're just mad that you did not get in on it. Maybe because, she's just not into you...lol.
For all those that choose to judge, try living your life like an open book ASk yourself, are you secure enough in your life to have all your shit exposed and be judged by your peers. You nasty boys! Never mind the thousands of you who are under cover lovers to the other brotha, those of you who cheat on your wives with other men. Oh, Oh what about those that are so insecure with yourself that you can't even maintain a relationship with a woman, yet alone one that would be willing to blow you off!
Get a life, leave the vixen alone. She is doing her thing and doing it well, if I say so myself. If you really want to help someone, help Kim get over Puffy, Diddy PuffWiddy or whatever the cartoon's name is.
Peace & Blow jobs...lol
Why are so many people mad at Karrine. There goes the judgement thing in full force. Why are you so mad? If she were white, she probably would be getting praise from the black men that are trying to stone her to the wall. Why are we so embarrassed by each other. Why do we hold such high regard for others and disdain
for our own.
Look Jackasses! No one has sued her, she must be telling the truth. You have her on your shows to interview her, but then you try to prosecute her as well. Get over yourself you self-righteous bastards! You're just mad that you did not get in on it. Maybe because, she's just not into you...lol.
For all those that choose to judge, try living your life like an open book ASk yourself, are you secure enough in your life to have all your shit exposed and be judged by your peers. You nasty boys! Never mind the thousands of you who are under cover lovers to the other brotha, those of you who cheat on your wives with other men. Oh, Oh what about those that are so insecure with yourself that you can't even maintain a relationship with a woman, yet alone one that would be willing to blow you off!
Get a life, leave the vixen alone. She is doing her thing and doing it well, if I say so myself. If you really want to help someone, help Kim get over Puffy, Diddy PuffWiddy or whatever the cartoon's name is.
Peace & Blow jobs...lol
Missing Her
I miss my daughter. She is the light of my life and the reason I am trying so many avenues to make her happy and to secure her future. My daughter means everything to me.
I am a single mom and if you are single mom, you know how it is. It is not a easy job. I moved from California to Atlanta in order to search and find what it is that I truly want in this life. I have always loved writing, but I can only write when I am alone and my thoughts are clear. For the last year or so many things have been misplaced and out of order for me, yet through it all God has never left me.
This is one of the many sacrifices you make now to make things greater later. If you have ever sacrificed anything for someone you love, then you know what I mean. My daughter is the only constant thing in my life, that supplies an endless amount of love and understanding. She understands me more than most adults. I support her and she supports me. We have the most beautiful relationship a mother can have with her daughter. She is my gift from God, for her I'll do anything to ensure her comfort. Though being away from each other and me being the only parent in her life, it must be hard for her as well. No grandma or grandpa, auntie or uncle can take the place of her mommy and I know that. So I thank her for being strong as well. Soon we'll be together again, that day cannot come soon enough.
Now that I am here writing, I have grown in many ways. I have become more confident in my writing and less concerned about people. No longer will I down play my talents or intelligence to make people feel comfortable around me. I am intelligent first, God just happened to make be beautiful, talented, sexy, witty and all the above. I am super-natural...lol. Yes, tooting my own horn is something I have been reluctant to do. Now, I am embracing just being fabulous, eveyday. Just loving who I am as a woman and who I am becoming as a person, it's such a great feeling and wonderful place. I have let my past control my future long enough. God could not have planned my life better, I have lived it just the way he planned and with no regrets. I believe in doing and living how you want to. Life is too short to live by circumstances, or be in a relationship you don't like, work at a job you can't stand, put up with people who don't care about you. Get rid of all that, free yourself!
It's amazing that you think people may know you, but then they give you advice and you find out they do not have a clue as to who you are. People only treat you how you allow them to. People even make up ways you should be based on the time table of their life. People judge, and that is the most dangerous flaw in human nature. Walk a day in my shoe's then tell me how to live. People close to you, put you down, when they have never been up themselves. The enemy is always working, and I must admit it has done a great job on me for most of my life. That chapter is over.
God takes us through things, when greatness is on the horizon. God is always preparing us for the next phase of our lives, either we are prepared or we are not. My life has never been easy. There is nothing simple about me, I am as complicated as they come. I have had so many experiences and I could have given up, but I am still here climbing that mountain to what is my destiny, while learning to embrace what's to come and share my story. Without this path that came with wrong directions, missed signs and ditches, I would not be the woman I am. I had to find my own way. The journey is not over, this is a new beginning again.
Yes, at this moment I miss my baby so much, but I know in the end all of this would have been worth it.
I love you Special Lee.
I am a single mom and if you are single mom, you know how it is. It is not a easy job. I moved from California to Atlanta in order to search and find what it is that I truly want in this life. I have always loved writing, but I can only write when I am alone and my thoughts are clear. For the last year or so many things have been misplaced and out of order for me, yet through it all God has never left me.
This is one of the many sacrifices you make now to make things greater later. If you have ever sacrificed anything for someone you love, then you know what I mean. My daughter is the only constant thing in my life, that supplies an endless amount of love and understanding. She understands me more than most adults. I support her and she supports me. We have the most beautiful relationship a mother can have with her daughter. She is my gift from God, for her I'll do anything to ensure her comfort. Though being away from each other and me being the only parent in her life, it must be hard for her as well. No grandma or grandpa, auntie or uncle can take the place of her mommy and I know that. So I thank her for being strong as well. Soon we'll be together again, that day cannot come soon enough.
Now that I am here writing, I have grown in many ways. I have become more confident in my writing and less concerned about people. No longer will I down play my talents or intelligence to make people feel comfortable around me. I am intelligent first, God just happened to make be beautiful, talented, sexy, witty and all the above. I am super-natural...lol. Yes, tooting my own horn is something I have been reluctant to do. Now, I am embracing just being fabulous, eveyday. Just loving who I am as a woman and who I am becoming as a person, it's such a great feeling and wonderful place. I have let my past control my future long enough. God could not have planned my life better, I have lived it just the way he planned and with no regrets. I believe in doing and living how you want to. Life is too short to live by circumstances, or be in a relationship you don't like, work at a job you can't stand, put up with people who don't care about you. Get rid of all that, free yourself!
It's amazing that you think people may know you, but then they give you advice and you find out they do not have a clue as to who you are. People only treat you how you allow them to. People even make up ways you should be based on the time table of their life. People judge, and that is the most dangerous flaw in human nature. Walk a day in my shoe's then tell me how to live. People close to you, put you down, when they have never been up themselves. The enemy is always working, and I must admit it has done a great job on me for most of my life. That chapter is over.
God takes us through things, when greatness is on the horizon. God is always preparing us for the next phase of our lives, either we are prepared or we are not. My life has never been easy. There is nothing simple about me, I am as complicated as they come. I have had so many experiences and I could have given up, but I am still here climbing that mountain to what is my destiny, while learning to embrace what's to come and share my story. Without this path that came with wrong directions, missed signs and ditches, I would not be the woman I am. I had to find my own way. The journey is not over, this is a new beginning again.
Yes, at this moment I miss my baby so much, but I know in the end all of this would have been worth it.
I love you Special Lee.
Monday, October 1, 2007
Disclaimer...hehehe
I want to clarify my comment on maried men being like shitty carpets, though funny, it may seem a little harsh. I was talking about those married men who cheat, lie and steal. Those married men that approach me with the, "I am not happy at home" line (#6 on the Please Don't Date Me blog) are annoying and ridiculous. You know who you are.
When you come my way, you may want to keep going because I am going to tell you the business!
When you come my way, you may want to keep going because I am going to tell you the business!
Sunday, September 30, 2007
The Grown & Sexy House Party! (ATL)
Yes, it was one of those weekends that my cousin was going to get me house no matter what. I obliged because it was an house party in a nice neighborhood, with supposedly nice people. I was not in the mood for a club or sport's bar, neither one of them would have the type of atmosphere to accommodate the mood I was in. So, we get dressed and off we go.
We arrive and the crowd was just beginning to fill the outdoor area. It gets you with 2 tables of home cooked food; the aroma introduces itself first. It was the making of friends and family celebrating the birthday of someone who was very special based on the volume of the crowd. Once you pass the 2 tables you enter into an area filled with a bar, stools, dominoe table (my favorite) and a pool tables that lays in the back. There were loads of conversing taking place. People busy filling themselves with the feel good juice that would take the mood into the night. The music was low-key, Frankie Beverly and his crew. You could tell this was a mature crowd. Except for one thing.
I smiled as I walked in and scooped the place. I sat at the bar and realized that there were a lot of couples, I noticed because I could feel the heat from their eyes and they clutched their husbands of boyfriends like a purse. I thought, here we go again. A bunch of insecure women thinking that I have ill intentions. As the now famous lyrics of Keyshia Cole, "I don't want your man". Married men to me are like shitty carpets. I am not attracted to them in the least way. Instead of clinging to the possibility to a negative night occurring I thought I would have fun despite the thick plate of judgement soup that was stinking up the air.
I sat beside the birthday girl. I knew it was here. She was the only one that smiles and gave me pleasant eye contact. She asked, I told. Just the basic, who are you? Who are you with? What's your name? And have a good time, and I did.
We went back to Slick Rick and RUN DMC, all the way to Amy Winehouse and Jay Z. We partied. I shot one game of pool and lost, played some dominoes and won. My cousin was the toast of the party, he kept everyone laughing and having a good time. A few drinks later and I started to check out the single men, or the men that appeared to be single, meaning they did not have a woman on their shoulder, and I was disappointed and happy. They were the kind of dudes that you hangout with or go shopping. Ya' know what I mean? I was glad because I had such a good time that it didn't even matter. We partied until the break of dawn.
Upon entering my bed and reminisce about my previous partying years, I was proud of how far I had come. It no longer was about the bass flirting with the cutest dude in the club. Last night was about getting together to celebrate our grown hood along with another year of life. I celebrated with people who were happy in their lives and glad that they could participate in this event. I used to wonder how it would be when I got older. I know now that being grown and sexy is such a wonderful place.
We arrive and the crowd was just beginning to fill the outdoor area. It gets you with 2 tables of home cooked food; the aroma introduces itself first. It was the making of friends and family celebrating the birthday of someone who was very special based on the volume of the crowd. Once you pass the 2 tables you enter into an area filled with a bar, stools, dominoe table (my favorite) and a pool tables that lays in the back. There were loads of conversing taking place. People busy filling themselves with the feel good juice that would take the mood into the night. The music was low-key, Frankie Beverly and his crew. You could tell this was a mature crowd. Except for one thing.
I smiled as I walked in and scooped the place. I sat at the bar and realized that there were a lot of couples, I noticed because I could feel the heat from their eyes and they clutched their husbands of boyfriends like a purse. I thought, here we go again. A bunch of insecure women thinking that I have ill intentions. As the now famous lyrics of Keyshia Cole, "I don't want your man". Married men to me are like shitty carpets. I am not attracted to them in the least way. Instead of clinging to the possibility to a negative night occurring I thought I would have fun despite the thick plate of judgement soup that was stinking up the air.
I sat beside the birthday girl. I knew it was here. She was the only one that smiles and gave me pleasant eye contact. She asked, I told. Just the basic, who are you? Who are you with? What's your name? And have a good time, and I did.
We went back to Slick Rick and RUN DMC, all the way to Amy Winehouse and Jay Z. We partied. I shot one game of pool and lost, played some dominoes and won. My cousin was the toast of the party, he kept everyone laughing and having a good time. A few drinks later and I started to check out the single men, or the men that appeared to be single, meaning they did not have a woman on their shoulder, and I was disappointed and happy. They were the kind of dudes that you hangout with or go shopping. Ya' know what I mean? I was glad because I had such a good time that it didn't even matter. We partied until the break of dawn.
Upon entering my bed and reminisce about my previous partying years, I was proud of how far I had come. It no longer was about the bass flirting with the cutest dude in the club. Last night was about getting together to celebrate our grown hood along with another year of life. I celebrated with people who were happy in their lives and glad that they could participate in this event. I used to wonder how it would be when I got older. I know now that being grown and sexy is such a wonderful place.
Thursday, September 27, 2007
To Marry for security or Real Love?
Boy oh Boy. I have pondered this thought for many years. I have been engaged twice and I often think was I marrying for security or real love? Maybe neither since I am still a bonafide single. But most women I assure you marry for security.
Women want to know that they will be taken care of. I guess then if you really love someone will that equal a happier life in the long run and that too will provide a certain level of security as well, right? Not according to the high percentage of women who are cheating, and mind you, with no guilt.
Well, there are other women who are married and secure and still getting their needs met by an old lover, who is broke, or that thug love who we just can't let go. Or that boy who always moves you in the right places, but doesn't fit that family M.O. I mean what is really important?
I am not really sure, but I am glad that I am waiting to really find out what really is the most important thing for me in making that committment that can only assure changes. Cheating is really not a good look for either party.
Women want to know that they will be taken care of. I guess then if you really love someone will that equal a happier life in the long run and that too will provide a certain level of security as well, right? Not according to the high percentage of women who are cheating, and mind you, with no guilt.
Well, there are other women who are married and secure and still getting their needs met by an old lover, who is broke, or that thug love who we just can't let go. Or that boy who always moves you in the right places, but doesn't fit that family M.O. I mean what is really important?
I am not really sure, but I am glad that I am waiting to really find out what really is the most important thing for me in making that committment that can only assure changes. Cheating is really not a good look for either party.
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