The Angry Mama's Boy!

Before you read, if you are turned off by curse words, turn off my blog, it's not for you.

Have you ever had a man that loved and hated his mother?  Loved her because that's what you are supposed to do, but hated her because his father wasn't around.  She'll ridicule him to make him feel less of a man unless he is doing something for her.  God forbid if he gets a woman and she has no man.  She will make him her makeshift husband.  She will make it a point to discredit his woman and interfere in the relationship.  This mother is only a problem if the son allows her to be.  It is not your job to go to battle with her, because if you do, you might lose him.  If he does not stand up for you to her, especially when she's wrong, then you are just a body in a relationship.

I dated a man who made it a point to deceive any woman that he came across.  It took me some time to see clearly.  Love has a way of making people appear greater than they really are.  Our perception gets cloudy by our desire to have someone.  There are no grey areas with my love, so once the decision is made that we are a couple then that is how I proceed.  He, on the other hand, had no idea about relationships or how to relate to women. (Now, women, if you ever run across a man who has no respect, no love and despises his mother, run as fast as you can because that is what you'll be getting.)  Hindsight is 20/20.

Men with mother issues, often take their frustration out on every woman that he comes across.  He'll be over-critical, complain all the damn time, point out your flaws, and is often abusive.  It's not you he's mad at, it's his mother and missing father. He'll make all kinds of excuses to justify his immature actions, but unless he's able to confront his own issues, pain or his mother, nothing will change.  He'll go through life justifying his limiting beliefs and recruit others to collaborate on his misery.  Who needs that?

If your man has a habit of fucking up, don't make it a habit of accepting it.   You are not his mother.  Take a look at yourself and realize that you can definitely do better.  If he is willing and makes a serious effort to be in a loving relationship, you determine if he's worth it. Be clear about what you want from a man or woman.  Write it down, visualize it, because you can have it.  Never stay in a relationship where the down times outweigh the happy times. Don't lose yourself to the point where your dreams die, you lack ambition or your self-esteem gets crushed, that is not what you are here for.  Unless a man is able to acknowledge you as the amazing creator that you are, keep it movin'!



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