American Boy

My American boy's, they seem to be getting more and more lame. I just do not understand it. And they seem to wonder why are all these bonafide Africa men are taking their women Well, some of them are well worth the time, love their mother's and know what it means to have a true Queen in their presence.

I took the time to see some of my old "friends" and they are just as fucked up as they were when I left for Atlanta. My American Boys, I am not sure where the disconnect took place, but it is there and is getting wider and wider. Please let me say I am not talking about all of you, just the men, who are have failed to recognize the true meaning of being a strong, loving man. The men who offer me sex, as if I do not get that offer on a daily basis. That man who thinks he has the best stuff, but in my book rates about a 5 on a good night. To that dude who likes to go to hot tubs, but does not realize it makes his small equipment look smaller. Go swimming next time or to the movies. I can go on and on, but the only advice from me is, get therapy, I heard it helps.

I recently met a dude through my brother, (I should have known then that he was lacking a few things), but anyway, I am always open to meet new people. One night I called him in a drunken stumper, (ya' know the drunk dialing thing) and said we should hook up and later apologized because I was under the influence of Patron. He said I was lame for getting at him and then apologizing. Well, first of all, I get at no one. Second, how can you take a drunk woman at face value,I made at least three of those phone calls that night. I think he went away thinking that I wanted to like really hook up. This is the same guy that said he prefers Latina women, so I already know I don't fit the bill. He gets mad respect for knowing what he likes. However, I like tall, confident men and he was all of 5 feet nine, or maybe even eight. Personally, I think he's too insecure for a real woman, no matter what race, he doesn't seem like the type that likes to be called on his bullshit and a real woman would do that. I heard he was paid, if so, then he too needs to invest in some real good therapy.

This brings me to my date tonite with my African King. For some reason, I seem to attract the African man, and from my past experience with a African man, my, my, my he treated me very well, and made me feel like a woman everyday. His intelligence was incomparable , I love to be taught something. He inspired me and believed in me. No matter how crazy my idea was. He is today my true friend. The only thing that broke us up was distance, I cannot do long distance relationships, well, I probably could, I just don't like to. Just like some American men,there are some African men who are off the rickter, I just have never met them or had that experience. And, yes they usually have great bodies and nice equipment that seems to go on like an EverReady battery. Big ups, Kimora!!!

I am completely open to American Boys, in fact they are my favorite, but some of them need to tighten up that game and social skills. A woman likes to be talked to. She likes to be stimulated in the mind, and the body. Please try that.

As I slip into this hot tub and soak tonite, before we hang, I look forward to what the night brings.

Sexuality

Sex allows creation, sex gives body, sex makes bodies, sex sells. Sex a very necessary part of the world. It keeps the cycle of life moving always in the right direction, sometimes in all directions, it makes no mistakes. Whatever the course, it's here to stay.

Take care of yourself and who you have sex with. It is a beautiful act in itself and should not be shared with just anyone. Put your "goodies" on lock. Men included. Love yourself. Some of us just love the act, sometimes the love of the act can kill. Be real, and protect that vital life organ, it's your and God given.

Meanwhile.........

Making love, it's like music. The unorchestrated sound that it creates between two. They form that electrifying connection everytime. It's incomparable,if you have it like that. For a woman like me, I have an insatiable desire to feel that man against my body, his hand roaming my body like an college campus. He feels me. I enjoy it when he knows what makes me tick, moan and scream. We connect the dots, then connect four spots that lets me know our bodies have a true understanding of each other. And so, we began as two, working in mind, body and soul, to create one, and it feels so good. Taking the time to make sure he feels every part of me. Enjoying the squeeze of it all. I know what I have, I can't give it up to everyone who wants a taste. This shit is addictive and is not for the weak. It has to be handled, and handled and handled. So act like you know. If you have never touched the bottom of a hot spot,(cause this well runs deep) or the entry of a G spot, then fella you really not on your job.

Some men are not ready for that woman that lets him know what she wants and what makes her move. Self satisfaction is one thing, but when you please another, you in turn are pleasing yourself. Handle it! Know it! Understand it!.
Keep love alive, make love, not war!!!!

Smooches, to all the lovers out there who are handling their business!

I don't want yo'' man...cuz I got it like that

Yeah, yeah we know the lyrics, the famous Keyshia Cole and Missy ,and yes, my fav Lil' Kim told it exactly how it is. I do not want your man. Especially if he's married, your current boyfriend or x, is an asshole, no personality and looks like he belongs on America's Most Wanted...not for me. You can have the champ. I prefer men who are single, educated, with a modest bank account, tall, with a nice workable package, if you know what I mean.

I am again addressing this subject because, it seems because I am single, sexy and just as fabulous as I can be, some people seem to think that I may want what they got. Never have I had that urge for anything that someone's has, unless it's a Kathy Van Zealand bag, that I adsolutely love, then you may have some problems, other than that, there is not a possession in the world that I can not have. A man is the least of my worries. I am an Royal Queen, so I want a King that meets me equally in mind, body and soul. None of that half stepping when it comes to who I choose to marry. Considering that the men who are married are mostly miserable, you can keep that burden, I'll pass.

It's just funny, when I show up at events that have a majority of married couples, their women assume that I want whats lawfully their's. Let me assure you, even though married men stay in my face, read my previous blog on what I really think of them. They are like the plague, and I stay away. And for you to assume that I want your man, would also mean that you do not know the kind of woman I am. Which is understandable, for some who do not know that Iam real cool and laid back, a conversationist to some (that's after I throw back a few). You have never heard me being or wanting anyone's man. Even though sometimes, I under play how beautiful Iam so that other women can feel confortable around me, just kidding. I am just a real woman, who just happens to be attractive. But that is the first thing people see,an attactive, single woman. And yes, I am happy, being married is work and I am not sure if I am ready to invest that kind of hours to get the job done. Not just yet. The right King, will pull it out of me, but even he would have to wait until I am ready.

So ladies please be comforted, I am not the one you should be watchin'. Maybe it's your man who you do not trust around me, again, understandable, handle that! If you are insecure in your marraige, then you need to work it out, I am not the problem. And whatever the problem is, it existed long before me anyway. Love who you love, cause I do, and it ain't yo' man!

Learn something..then share it

Has there even been a time that you thought you knew all you could about a certain person, subject or thing? Then all of sudden you learn something else and is somewhat surprised by that new revelation? I am sure we have all come across it at some point in our lives, but how many times have you surprised yourself?

Have you ever spent time learning and found out something about yourself?

I believe life comes full circle. It repeats itself. Sort of like fashion. In order for growth to take place you have to plant a different seed than the one that has been given to you. Become what you need someone to be for you. Give to those who need direction, spend time with those who just need a little conversation, you'll be amazed at what you learn. That's why I like talking with older people. Especially those who have aged with wisdom. Not everyone does that. There are people who just live and never grow and who think they cannot possibly learn anything else. Considering that we do not use all of our brain, there is always enough space to learn something from anybody. Don't ever think you know everything, there is always someone who knows more than you, and another one who knows more than him. Just share your information. To think that you can get through this life alone is just another crazy thought. We need each other. As a family, as a community, as a race. We all need each other.

One of the reason's I prefer hanging with people who are intelligent is because they have a higher understanding of what experience has taught them, as opposed to what their formal education has. I have spent time talking with people with no formal education, but their intelligence level was higher than those with a PhD. Those people are quite engaging to me. It's one thing to take information from a book and learn it, then repeat it, but it's another thing to have your education make you look at who you are as a person. When you are being taught something and it changes you as a whole, it helps you gain perspective about self. Not only are you being educated, but your intellect is being peaked. Some of us learn just to repeat what they have learned without any real understanding of how it affects them as a whole. Being an expert on common sense is the greatest degree you can have.

I love words, I love reading and hearing profound things. I also enjoy listening to someone who thinks they know-it-all. They are the most animated and entertaining. They are so educated that they don't realize how silly they look going on endlessly about nothing. Amusing enough, it's the people who are are supposedly less educated or intelligent that notices the empty banter. When you have a true hunger for learning, and not just for what you are interested in, it brightens your life. It becomes fulfilling and it makes you want to share. Learn a little about everything. Other cultures, other races, other subjects in general,that's when the brain thrives. It can never be feed enough positive new and interesting things.

The mind is a powerful tool, tuned and untuned by the universe, what you place in thought can come to life. Free your mind. Live truthfully, love unconditionally and give always.

Peace & Love