The Deception-Lesson Learned!

August 2017 is supposed to be the month and year that you remember forever  It is the month that many things will be revealed and permanently changed forever, and in my life that exact thing has happened.

I found out someone who I considered a "friend" and (I will forever use that term lightly) betrayed me.  I had to really sit back and think how many signs there was that I did not notice.  This person was an obsessed narcissistic asshole that I should have gotten rid of many years ago.  A maniac that found it necessary to control women and when he could not he went to desperate measures to ensure that he all the control.   This time he did not expect the outcome of his unthought out actions.  A classic case of when the ego interferes with logical thought and you realize you have fucked up.

In situations like this (and I suggest you do the same),  I always try to look at my part.  What did I do to attract such a reaction from someone who I blindly thought was a friend.  I was too close to notice.  I saw him in the light with all his imperfections and never in a million years would I have thought that he would turn on me.    Pay attention to the people who are close to you, they may not all have your best interest.  Things and people are being revealed for who and what they are, look at it and pay attention.   If you do not remove unnecessary people from your life, the universe will do it for you.  I had two other people removed from my life in grand fashion, but not as loud this person, but removed just the same.

My lessons:
1. Check who you call a friend, just because you have known them the longest does not mean they are your friend.
2.  Some miserable people are very good at hiding their misery, it's not until they do something fucked up, that you realize how fucked up they are.
3.   Stand up for yourself, Some people might disrespect you because they feel you won't do anything.  Prove them wrong!

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The Reality is: He Married you..But Choose Her

I've been hearing a lot these days about married men who cheat, Not news to me, but there are some who apparently have been under a rock and never heard of such a thing.  The wife usually gets all on social media claiming how the woman he cheated with is a hoe, slut bucket, and numerous other things.  The audience then cheer's for the wife, because how the hell did she get cheated on?  According to social media, you have a perfectly happy family and which you have declared that your husband is King all for us to see and he cheated?  Say it ain't so.

Then boom! You find out not only has he been cheating, but he has financed this miscellaneous chick with a condo, car, and access to the same funds you get.  How dare her to take part of your earnings!  Ok, maybe you spread your legs a little further than she did in order to attain your status as a wife. But she is still getting the best of your husband, with little thought to a family life, bills, or any kind of responsibility that your hubby seems to have forgotten as well.  It's the everlasting party filled with great sex, drinks, and an incredible payment of time and attention that he no longer gives you.

So who's fought is it really when your husband decides to step out?   When a man steps out, it either has something to do with the home or nothing. Maybe he is just an asshole and liked the fact that someone else liked him.  Married men are the easiest of prey, especially if he is not happy or even if he is if he wants something else to dip into, he can; especially if he has the dough.  Those women who are married to men who are sub par that nobody wants but you, no need to worry, you are in no real danger.  It's the husbands with money and power that attracts the most clever of concubines.

These young girls and old brods are making it very easy.  They are apparently hard to say no to. A woman is usually not the one that does all the chasing. More than likely if your husband is cheating he pursued her, just like he probably did you.  He tells her the same lies that he tells you.  He feels her head with all the things that make you look like the enemy and makes her seem like the hero coming to save him from you.  He makes her feel comfortable with laying with your King and he pays for her silence.  So is she really the blame?  

WE all want to feel something with our connections, it's part of the human experience, but at what cost?  I am in no way condoning cheating on anyone's part, but we must be clear about the source of the demise.  Nothing is the same as it was 10 years ago, and in another 10 years, it will be something else.  What I do know is that it is more human to be attracted to several different things, than just one.  Put the blame in its proper place.

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Cougar Crossing...Dating a Younger Man.

One of my greatest loving experiences was with a man that was 10 years younger than I was. He was very confident, loving, attentive and served me like a Queen. Although there were some fundamental differences that would not allow us to have a fruitful long term relationship,  the time that we were together was quite memorable.

Some of the things that I learned from that relationship was that it takes a man to handle a woman, no matter what age they are. There is nothing wrong with showing someone that you love them all the time, however, you must first love yourself, (He was in love with himself and said it often!). Confidence is such a sexy thang!  It’s ok to just listen.  Sometimes, sharing in silence is a wonderful way to show gratitude. Always go with the flow, you never know who may be that “key” that you need. More importantly, Never be afraid to give in to love, you may be surprised.

Because he loved me so much there was no way that we could be friends after my departure. Although he was great in some areas, in other areas the age difference showed. Every now and then he calls, just to say hello. He does not know how much that makes my day. Although I think of him often, I already know what his expectations will be, so I keep the conversation short and sweet.   I am not sure if I loved him as much as I loved what we did. That moment in time will forever be etched in my heart.   

I enjoyed the fact that a younger man was once in my space.  He always had me thinking and wanting more. Spontaneous and full of surprises.  I was always flattered by the attention that he gave me, always expressing his love.  That young man did not know much about love, but he was willing to try.    I appreciated his gentleness, kindness and was grateful for our time. Where did he learn all this from? I don't know, but I do know that there are a few older men who should take a page from his book.

A moment in time as lovers and friends....

LL Walton

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The Power of Our Energy

I have been known to be a sensitive person.  I have always been able to feel empathy for others on a high level and feel the energy of people from first contact.  It's something that I have at times wanted to turn off, but now it's something that I have learned to embrace and understand.  One you tap into who you really are; find the true meaning behind your existence, that's when true living begins. 

We all have the gift of intuition.  I call it the keen emotion.  It is our natural way we connect to the knowledge within.  The brain is so advanced that it gives us warnings or answers to things that we perceive.  It governs our being without us even noticing.  We are all vibrating at certain frequencies, some of us are highly in tuned, others are not. If you have ever had moments of  having a "gut" feeling, a thought, an answer that just comes to you, that is your intuition.

  

When you are a person of positive high vibration it becomes difficult to be around people who are on a low frequency.  If you are not bringing their energy to your level, they're low energy can drain you and bring you to their level.   Often times, after being in the world, I have to withdraw and go inside to nurture my positive being through mediation and silence.   It is always a battle of positive and negative, good and bad, the light and shadow.  The energy does not know the act, just the body that is carrying it.  Everyday we make the decision of who we will be.

  

You have to be careful when sharing certain life events, accomplishments and personal things with people who are not truly interested in your success.  If they are not truly happy for you their negative energy can affect certain aspects of the outcome.  One of the reasons why the internet and social media is so powerful.  You can make a comment and either several people can "like" it and and it makes you feel better or several people can dislike it, and it makes you feel horrible, unworthy, insecure. And unfortunately, the TV carries that same vibrational tendency, the news, world events, cartoons, pull on our emotions to create more of what is out there and sub-consciously dictate who we should be.

When you have plans, you have to keep them to yourself, until it comes to fruition and then you can share.  You may have people who say they are happy for you, but the energy that comes forth is jealousy.   You might be in a relationship with someone who say they are supportive, but the energy that comes forth is resentment and regret. It's in their body language, the language of truth that can not be hidden or changed and that is worth  paying attention to.  I can go on about the different planes of our existence, but I will save that for another post.

The power of those energies can be incredible.  You get enough people with negative emotions, vibing on that negative field and it can create natural catastrophes, sadness, unhappiness, hopelessness and fear.  Just as when you have people gathered together in love it can create an abundance of that love in all areas of your life, move mountains, impact change and make life easier, no matter what is going on around you.  There are forces that feed off negative energies, it's how it survives.  But the real power is within us, through love and unity, not division.  

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