Life Happens......Then You Live Again

It's been two or maybe even three months since I wrote on my blog. Life has pulled me in so many directions, that I felt like my head was spinning, and it's been a great evolution.  I am always changing, growing, and open to learning and soaking up all of life's experiences.  That is a great part of makes me, me.  Change has always been my friend. I may kick, holler and scream when it comes, but ultimately when it wins, I win.

If you ever get to the point where you are not learning new things about yourself, then you should try and seek those things.  I guess if at one point we were monkeys, we have already come along way, but believe me there is more.  This new way of thinking has allowed me to embrace things that are not like me, to accept people as they are.  It has never been my desire to change anyone, but to have more understanding of why they are like they are.  If I don't understand, I just give it a blank stare and keep on moving.  It becomes like a thought you had when you walked into a room, and once in that room you forgot why you were there in the first place.  After a while that thought might reconvene, but if it doesn't, you move on to the next thing, until it comes again.   That's how I feel about things I don't understand, it only becomes important if I can remember.

During this process, there are some fears that I let go.  For instance, I will never apply for another job again. (Unless it is one that is fulfilling, provides a service to community and allows me to give to a cause).  I left a government job that paid more than I've ever made in my life, so I took the leap and abandoned it. I am smart enough to know that wealth is not accumulated by working for someone else.  And I am intelligent enough to know that loving what I do will provide more than wealth, so I will completely invest in myself.  Another change will be, speaking up when people are wrong.  I used to just make mental notes when people act like idiots, addressing it creates the greatest silence or noise, no one wants to be exposed as an idiot, even when they know they have been. 

Another thing I've learned is certain people, not everyone, but certain people like you more if you appear to be doing worse than they are, dumber than they are, or need them for something.  I've been blessed to have never felt those things toward anyone, but I do recognize who they are, and let me tell you, they are fun to watch. Exude confidence, and a love for self and they will disappear.  I call them the one-up people.  They are never comfortable in their skin and always feel they have to do or be one step ahead, when in reality, it's their mind that will forever keep them behind, no matter what they do.

I am working on two writing projects, sort of; writing and creating is like having children, and I have neglected my love right in the 7th month of development. I feel like I should be fined or something. SHAME and PLEASE DONT DATE ME-VOL II.http://www.amazon.com/Please-Dont-Date-Me-Reasons/dp/143276151X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1365096279&sr=8-1&keywords=Please+dont+date+me 

I am also creating my video blog, it was suggested that I be seen. Another fear I must address because like most writer's I prefer the background, living through my words, but hey, here's to change.

Stay tuned for more blogging and especially my new video blog.  You will be able to send me your questions, regarding sex, relationships and whatever else fits your fancy at conversationpeace2013@gmail.com .  It is my intention to provide you my insight and experience on how to improve communications peacefully and honestly in your relationships.

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Happy New Year!

Here we are again with a new year, designed for us to mentally want new things. That new man, that new body, that new diet or work out plan, that new job or whatever the "new" is that you want, the fact that the new year is here makes it more likely that you will pursue those things. Well, atleast for a little while. It is such a natural thing to change, or to want change. Some people embrace it others hate it. It can be painful or smooth. Sometimes you may not know the outcome of our change but whether you like it or not, change is something that is inevitable. It happens and I guarantee you that the same time next year it will happen again. I love change. I am always open to embrace the changes that take place just by living a natural day to day life. I do not wait until the new year to change, or to make a plan, the time is now! I celebrate my birthday this month, which is always great. It is the first month of the year and I turn a year older and that to me creates a natural unplanned change that just happens to take place on my birthday. I love birthdays, especially mine. If you are blessed enough to see your birthday each year, that to me is a wonderful thing, you are still alive! Another day to implement change, to love, to make someone happy, to serve one another, because as you know it is not always about you. Living a selfish life should be against the law. It's not very productive and you are nothing without someone. Someone created you, someone gave birth to you and if you are lucky someone loves you. With all that being said, I would like to wish you all a Happy New Year! Whatever your wish or desire is for the new year, stay focused and make it happen! Test yourself, love yourself and give more. Peace Within, L

5 Steps to Moving on After A Break-Up

There is nothing more exciting than the feeling of being in love. But when things are not working out and the most viable solution is to break up,then the road to recovery can be long. Whether you have been in a long term relationship or a short term one; the fact is the relationship has went south and you need an immediate recover plan. Please remember it is not the end of the world, in fact, the universe is probably waiting to bring you the man or woman that will truly be good for you. I guess the term is true love, or maybe even soul mate; I don't know, but there is someone for everyone. Whatever stage of life you are going through, every love interest serves a purpose and with love timing is everything.

STEP 1. Come to terms with the fact that the relationship is over. There is no real reason to start or maintain an immediate friendship with an X, unless the relationship was more of a friendship in the first place. If that is the case, then the transition to a break up will be smoother.

STEP 2. Remember what life was like before you meet this person. What interest did you have? Haven't seen your friends in a while? Get out and get active. There is no reason to sit around and sulk forever. Shed a few tears, but then move on.

STEP 3. Fallng in or out of love requires the same kind of energy. You have to be positive and remain hopeful. What you welcome into your life, often initiates in the brain. Do not spend too much energy thinking about the past, its done.

STEP 4. Out with the old in with the new. Get a make over, change your diet, create a new and improved you. Make sure that if you ever cross the path of your X, you want to look like a million bucks!

STEP 5. Start dating, even if you dont want to. There is nothing more gratifying than hearing compliments or simply being appreciated by someone other then that significant other. If you don't feel like that kind of entetainment, then just get out. Take a moment to appreciate all that you may have missed while in the relationship. Start by admiring and adoring yourself. "I am beautiful". "I am worthy to be loved". "I rock!". Sometimes an ending is really a chance at a new beginning.

L.L. Walton

I hate it when I can't write. It is the pit of dispair. When I am distracted by everyday life and it pulls in a reality that drains me of all creative activity; I have to pull back and get on track and do what I truly love. I think it has been about 5 months or so, maybe longer, I don't know, but last night as I was taking a long hot bath, I promised myself that I would get on track; do what I am doing right now. I do not have a story line, or character to share, just this moment of moving in a new yet familiar direction. I am a writer. There have been so many beautiful things that have happened in my life. I won a significant amount of money in the lotto, I loved into a new home, I am making more money than I've ever made in my life, yet, there is still more to come. This wonderful change has pulled me away from what I do, testing me to see if I really love you. Will I leave you for monetary gain or just simply fade into the monotony of the american dream? Of course not. I am back to regain your trust and for you to allow me to shine like a new gold tooth. I love it when a plan unfolds in a more perfect manner than anticipated. The universe always knows best. Although, when going through transitions, experiencing growth, or when changes occur unexpectedly, the road can be bumpy. It can feel like you are actually shedding skin to the new you and it can be painful. But once the sun shines again, you know it will be better than the last time. When the energy of a new moon is out just to gain your favour. You know that the time is near. I can feel it,so I embrace it, for it is you that has been training me, preparing me for what's to come. I've learned to enjoy wherever I am in life, every moment, every tear, every trial,every victory, it all gets welcomed and embraced. I am very thankful and grateful for my life. So as I gather my thoughts, and prepare my vibe. Be prepared to receive some of the most reviting, funny and educational post. I plan to be more open and share with things that are important , without losing touch with my favorite topics "Relationships and Men". This is my life on paper. L

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I am never dating black men again!

"I am never dating black men again!", were the words that screamed from the mouth of Angela Stratton. Power attorney for the Stratton, Jones & Marr. Yes, Angela had managed to make partner before she turned 30 and now owns a third of the thriving firm. She was born out of poverty and managed to navigate her way through life by making mistakes and having no regrets. Being intelligent, financially secure and beautiful has some how been a blessing and a curse. But Ray Lovette had played her for the last time. Seeing, dating, loving Mr. Ray Lovette was something that made her very happy. She was in love with him and like some of the things we love, want and think we need, it is sometimes not good for us. It was their history that kept her there mentally, but is was his dick that kept her there physically. It was love on the battlefield. Ray appeared to be all that any woman would want. He was appealing, one minute in the same room and you are drawn to his green eyes and baritone voice. His confidence swallows the air in the room, and only through him could you breathe. He was also an attorney, not yet partnered, but fierce in his own right. He was her main squeeze. There were other lovers, but none so compelling than him. He was the one that she allowed to break her heart over and over again, like a bad addiction. Throughout her life she has had many lover's, changed a few boys to men and as far as men go, they have never been an issue. Her motto: "Got 99 problems but a dick ain't one." She has always been the tried and true chick. She never holds grudges from past loves, but never goes back either. In her mind, there is no need to recycle the past. Traveling was her favorite pastime, and taking up lovers in Italy, Rome or Fiji has been the hobby. You might refer to her as a vixen or maybe even a bitch, but that is expected when a woman knows her power and Angela wore it on her sleeve and wasn't afraid to let you know about it. It was the day of the Attorney's Appreciation Night, she spent the whole day preparing for this event. It was like prom night for attorney's. She had been escorted by Ray for the last three years and was looking forward to seeing him tonight. They would usually talk briefly the morning of the event and see each other when the limo picked her up, but today it was already noon and she had not heard from him. She went on with her day, getting ready, manicures, pedicures, eyebrows, bikini waxing and whatever else that needed maintenance. Her dress was Gucci, a sleek black gown with a drop back. It allowed to room for body error's. It was starting to get late, the ball began at 8 pm and it was now 9, then 10 and no call limo or Ray. Being the woman that Angela is she called her driver and she attended the event without Ray. Everyone was there, everyone looked beautiful, but as she walked through the crowd saying hello's and engaging in small talk, she looked on the balcony and there he was, and he wasn't alone. (Stay tuned for how this story unfolds!)