Disclaimer:

I want to make it clear that I do not dislike American men. They are my first love. I prefer a King to be a King where ever he is from. I have learned many things, but I do not know it all.

Thank you to all my folks who questioned what I was saying. I am always open to share my thoughts and listen to your opinions.

Peace & Love

Brotha's from Another Land

Every since I can remember I've always gotten approached from men from other countries. Mainly, Africa. I have yet to understand the fascination. No matter where I go, that African man will always come up to me. Now please understand I have no complaints about it at all. I am just trying to come up with what it is they are attracted to. Since there are so many misconceptions about Black American women and Africans, I must be something different because I have dispelled them all, because of course I am not your average America woman. Is is because my American beauty transcends to both nations? I was once told by an African from Uganda, that American Black women are the most beautiful women he ever saw.

I must tell you the African that I did date was the first to treat me like a Queen, the first to show me a different side of life. The first to help me embrace my natural beauty. (And that did not mean wearing scarves and growing locs.) The first to help me understand the difference between The Nation of Islam and the "real" Muslims. It was a beautiful exchange of knowledge and love. It was that man from the motherland that helped me to embrace my true worth, and every since then I never looked back or accepted anything less.

So lately I have been approached by a Black Cuban (beautiful), a Nigerian and a man from Ghana. I basically treat them as if I wouold any other man that I am either interested in or not. If you come on too strong, then I head for the hills. There would be too much potential for some stalker action. And believe me you, having a stalker is not cool. This particular one is doing well for himself, he said that he became an American, which I doubt, Africans almost never do that. Maybe he was trying to impress me, whatever the case, we will see. They like to show off their women. I can understand why a man would want to be seen with a beautiful woman, most men do, it's a shot to the ego.

I enjoy dating men from Africa, simply because they are usually very intelligent,and although some are possessive, I haven't run across one that I had any real problems with. I am going to ask him the next time I see him what the attraction is. Right now, there are not that many American men sayiing anything I want to hear, so why not explore other avenues to happiness.

The Good Ole' Holiday Season

I would take some time to comment on the Tiger Woods situation, but when a babysitter can gross up to $55 million just for being married, (I mean just for who she married, my bad!) I am pretty much speechless.

Anywho.

The holiday season brings about spending time with friends and loved ones. I have a lot of love one's and a few friends. I am dating and again and having fun when I can. I am not quite ready to live that married life yet, but it is inevitable that it will come and I will go into full wifey mode, but until then, I am just doing me. I am finding that people are sometimes full of surprises and others tend to be quite disappointing. Both are quite entertaining nonetheless. I enjoy people, and even more so enjoy the company of men. I find them fascinating, (well,some of them) and I just enjoy hearing, seeing, feeling what they are about. But as the season comes about, who do I spend the holiday with? Am I ready to invite someone over to meet the Fam? And do I want to meet theirs? I don't know about all that.

I do know that I love the holidays. I love sharing love, the giving and receiving and it is topped off the next month with my birthday celebration, which I might add will bring about another dilemma. I like seeing my nieces and nephews open their gifts from me. My daughter just wants money and a few DS games, my little one, is still getting the most joy from her milk for now.

I am excited about the upcoming year. Although I have been through some major changes in my life, I believe that my best days have yet to come. "Progress through transformation." That's what I am calling 2009. There are some changes that have taken a long time, but those changes have set the pace for the next round of changes, and I am ready, willing and able. I look forward to ending this year and bringing in the new year. I thank God for all his blessings.

So back to my boys. I like them, I enjoy them, but I am not sure who I will be spending my holiday with. Let's see let's weight the odds. Contestant #1, Nice,educated, well-paid, intelligent, but likes to talk about himself all the time. He wants a woman who will just listen. Maybe a little too uptight for my holiday glee. Contestant #2 Tall dark and handsome (like I like them), complete workaholic, does not really celebrate holidays, maybe hard to get together, got his "mind on his money",and I mean all the time. A little too judgemental (probably from his religious upbringing), cool to be around, got nice handles...lol. I am not sure if he will want to do anything more than just sit at home, which is cool too. Who know's maybe a new jack will come into the picture before that holiday gets here. I am not tempted either way right now. I am definitely going to be with my two girls, Imani & Miki, they are bringing me the most joy, they make me laugh. They make me enjoy being their mother. Maybe I will just choose to be with my girls. Moments with your children can never be replaced, and I enjoy them so much.

As the holiday season comes around, just be thankful. Something you should be all year. Celebrate not just with gifts, but will signs of love and affection. Appreciate those in your life. Whether for a moment or a lifetime, everyone serves a purpose.

Life's Rollercoaster Ride

I am sitting here thinking how much I always tend to neglect writing on my blog. I have more than one now and the new one is getting all the attention. I try to give this one some time, but I get so distracted with everyday life so much that I just forget. The other reason is sometimes I can't write what's on my mind because it's so damn personal. I want to share things, but not all.
I am going through a transition in my life. There are so many things up in the air and Iam just waiting for some of those things to land. I am kind of in limbo. Not really here nor there, just in the midst. If you have ever been there, it can be strange place to be. A place where you have no control of how things will fall, you just know that they will and how ever they fall it will effect you one way or the other.
Life....
It has a funny way of letting you know that as humans we can only control so much. It's just like making a decision, would you have made that same decision if you knew what the outcome would be? Some days are harder that others, Iam human, Iam a woman and I experience some if not all of the strife that goes with being a single-mom, dating,and trying to make it all work out. Somebody old me that I won't ever be financially where I want to until I get married. There are not that
many people who are doing it alone and making it. Maybe there isn't, but that does not justify a reason to get married. What about love? I would not marry to be financially secure, nor if I was financially secure would I marry. That's just me.

I do not believe that there is one person you are suppose to be with forever. That is a choice. That's why marriage is so hard and people cheat. It is natural for a human to want another human or several. When you do decide to make that commitment understand what it means. A lot of people do not. There is a difference between right now and forever.

So I am going to try and write onthis blog more often, maybe in the mornings as opposed to the night. I don't know.