There are not too many people who have marriages that I look up to, admire or want to emulate. I am not sure if that is a sad thing to say or if that's just the way it is. I love the idea of marriage, I love what it can be between two people who truly love and care for each other unselfishly. It can be an amazing and wonderful experience. For others, who do not get married for the right reasons, there will always be reasons to leave it all alone and move on. There is no working it out or trying, everything just fizzles. And for some, there is the motion of just staying for matters of convenience i.e kids, money, mortgage etc. I honor and respect the union of marriage too much and now that I am getting to know myself more and more each day, I am glad that I have waited. I am glad that I have become the woman that I am. Looking back it has not been the easiest of roads, I have learned to appreciate the struggle. My life experience is something that I can tell my daughters about and pass on to anyone who is willing to listen.
I am not confessing perfection, I am professing experience. There is no greater teacher than life. Either you are able to roll with it and make the most of the gift that God has given you, or you give up and just take whatever as it comes. Never making the adjustment to the circumstances. There is one thing that I know about myself is that I never compromise my beliefs for the comfort of others. What I think and believe about myself is way more important that what you may think about me. I love me, I can't help it.
So if you are married I hope that even on your worse day with this person you can look that person in the eye and say that you love them anyway, that is love. I hope that you compromise with joy and embrace what the two of you may have, because you love and appreciate them that much. Comfortable with the fact that you have nothing to prove, because your essence speaks for itself. And if you are not married, use this time to get to know who you are, and what makes you unique. Think about what you can bring to the person who may make you want to make "that move". Love is a wonderful and complicated thing and even if and when it doesn't lead to marriage everyone should get the chance to experience it at it's ultimate level, it all starts with the love of yourself.
Smoochez All...Who's Lovin' U?
2 comments:
So True, so real. I appreciate your perspective on the matter as today's relationships can lack the genuine article. Everyone wants and no one want to serve.
Your response seems to scream out to something. What? Not sure. I say, Love deserves to be cherished.
Keep on Ma~
Wow, perfectly written. How are you doing girlie?
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