OMG! "The Bi's and The Married's"

Ok I have been on a serious vacation. I mean after my vacation I had to take a vacation to catch up on the sleep that was lost during my original vacation and my goodness, I am finally getting back on track. On my massive road trip there were several topics that came up and I have to express my opinion and the opinion of others. The names will be left out to protect the guilty. (lol)

1st Topic....Brother's who are gay but still like women. I call them bi-sexual, other's call them greedy. I say whatever to each it's own, just don't bring your desire to have men my way. I am sure that I have dated a few men who are on the borderline. They are usually attracted to beautiful women or trashy slummers ( whores/prostitutes, ya know the difference between the paid and the unpaid), either way they seem to date an extension of themselves or what they would like to be or the complete opposite, an insecure large woman. I guess I could respect men that go both ways if they are just honest with themselves and others. You would be amazed how far you will get with the truth. But when you marry, have children and hurt the woman who thought she had a King, when in fact she had a gladiator with a vagina is a bit too much. Enough said.

2nd Topic....Bi-sexual women. Ummmmm they are loved by everyone, the most open about their being unless they have not come to terms with it. They could rule the world, if emotionally they did not feel they had to choose. Many do choose to be with men, those that choose to be with a woman are considered a lesbian. I have been approached by women, a little uncomfortable at first because of the aggressiveness, however, I have learned to appreciate the flattery. No, I am not going to tell you the story about the lesbian who turned me out, or how she ate my jazzy so good that I had to have her and now have a whole new appreciation for lesbians. I am not going to tell you that story because it never happened.

3rd Topic.....Married men, why are they so available? I am confused. I am not sure if it is the economy or what, but I ran into more married men that were on vacation without the wifey than I care to mention. Those that just wanted to get their swag on or see if they still "had it". Had what? You had it when you married your wife, now whatever it is you think you had you need to be giving it to her on a regular basis. Maybe it's my look that gives these married men the confidence to approach, but then again, marriage may breed confidence, there is nothing to lose when you have a wife at home. Although entertaining, married men who try to hit on women are a complete turn-off. I get the flirting and stuff, but exchanging phone numbers, getting all close invading my space will get you chin checked! Married men are like the plague to me, stay away! I wonder what their wives are doing....lol

There were a few other topics that came to life, but maybe at another blog session.

Peace & Love Ya'll....Muuuaahhhhh

Inter "Dating" Racial

I really hesitated on writing about inter-racial (And I put that dash there on purpose) dating. Ya'now the black man dating the white woman. It seems to be a problem for some black women. I understand the beef if you are a black woman who is experiencing a drought in the black man dating pool, but if you are a black womnan who is dating enjoying the selection that life has to offer, then you are not affected at all.

Please do not misunderstand me, I know that there are some who want to keep the culture pure and I understand that, but is anyone really pure? I believe love comes in all shapes, sizes and colors. If a black man chooses a white woman that does not bother me at all. That's just one man who knows what he wants and it is not the "Queen of the Earth"...I get that, but I just gotta' laugh. But, I am not mad at all.

I have been pursued by a lot of different races of men. I enjoy being desired by many cultures, that means there is universal love of what "attraction and beauty" is when it comes to the black woman. So when the black man is choosing a white woman, it moves me none. Good Luck, More better to ya", you like it, I love it, you get my drift (my drift, lol, that's old school...lol.) I want people to be happy, to give genuine love and receive it in return. So black man when I walk by and you're with your white woman, hold your head up high, hold her hand, proclaim your love, I am going to love you regardless, so be proud. I am waiting on my Justin Timberlake right now! j/k

As the earth spins and I am on my eternal search for my true King, I will continue to hold my head high and wait on the King. Continue to be the Queen I am and to respect, love and admire what I know to truly indeed be "the man".

One Love Ya'll

Super Powers...My need to Save the World.....

Sometimes I wish I had super powers. Not just one power, but many. I would do so much for so many people, and myself included. I would give myself this incredible body and shape, oh wait, I already have that!...lol 

Seriously, I would save the world from all the fighting that's going on. I would rescue and put an end to all child prostitution in this country and abroad. I would give every child a chance to be whatever it is they want to be.  I would restore families that are broken.   I would rescue Haiti and give them control of how their country is ran, for some reason I feel that there are a lot more effort involved in keeping this country a poor country.  I would bring home the soilders that have been away from their families for way too long. I would empower the people that really deserve to lead other's instead of the R & B, Rap and Rock artisits that we so heavily glorify. I would hold athletes accountable for their actions, and father's accountable for their children.

There are a million other things I would do with my powers, fight crime on all levels, I would bring Michael back and tell him that I love him, I don't think he heard that enough, from the people that really mattered.. I would have lunch with Ellen and Oprah, just because, sit with Sade and ask her, "How does it feel to be back"? I would give everyone not just a job, but a career, something that they would love. Give everyone back the house, car, family they lost due to the greed of those who still have all their assets. I want to thank the writer's and animator's at Pixar for making my life easier, not everyone can appreciate the messages in your art.

I know that's a bit much and now that I think about it we all have the power to change all things.  I have the power to make a change in somebody, even if its just one person a day. This world seems like it's losing it's morals, getting swallowed up by sex and spit out by injustice. We need to hurry back to being humans, and remember why we are here in the first place.   We need to learn again how to care and take care of each other.

I am working on being super.....Signing Off Super Woman!

Love is in the Air....

Love is every where. Whether it is a love of a person or thing. It exists, it is a living thing. It is the most wanted emotion there is around. Everyone longs to feel love, long to belong and be needed or wanted. But if I have said it once, I have said it a thousand times, no one and I mean no one can love you until you love yourself. When you love yourself, you are living in the truth. The truth of your ugliness and the truth of your beauty. Love accepts it all and you must too.

The spring time is approaching and it is one of my favorite seasons. It is a season that brings fresh new beginings. It removes the old and brings in the new and I love it. It's almost like the new year, that is what the change of seasons are to me, a chance to bring about something new and different. To begin again.

WTF?

I mean really? Are u serious? Can u please stop? No, really stop! You are looking pretty damn ridiculous! You are no longer attractive, that was just too sick. I think 24 sessions of therapy are in order......lol!!

Renamed: Mama's Boy...and then some

There comes a time in your life when you think that you have seen and heard and seen everything and then something else comes along that just is mind boddling.

I was seeing this dude from a familiar territory. The familiarity is what made me feel comfortable with this man. He was not what I would be normally attracted to. But he had a nice personality and we had a few things in common.

A few months into the relationship and then the true colors start to show. I usually can spot a dude when he is not on the up and up, but my guards were down because we come from the same place, big mistake. I ignored the signs that coming from anyone else I would have booked going 90. Everything was small, no get back and not driving in the same lane as me. So there had to be conflicts. But the ringer was when he told me that I could not come over because his mother was spending the night. Then it hit me and it hit me hard. This man had expressed to me earlier that he was a mama's boy and that to me sometimes is all good, that is if the mother has a man in her life. When they do not, they can either fuck up the son emotionally or just let him be a man. NOTE: A woman can never raise a man, he has to get that or find that from somewhere else. This man had an unusual relationship with his mother. They argued like husband and wife. If I cooked, then she cooked, if I brought things over, then she would get something for him as well. I would have rather been in competition with another woman, but his mother? There is no winning that battle and me considering all the other shit that I had let pass, he was definitely not worth the battle. So I let that go. Hind sight is 20/20 there were things that were said that I just did not pay attention to. Like how his mother cursed out his baby mama, how she would not mind him calling one of his chicks a bitch or whatever. Mom was just a bit too wifey for me. That made him look real spineless and I don't do spineless.

When I departed I told him how I felt and that he would never have a woman in his life with the way their relationship is, NEVER! And I am sure that is fine with him. The overall potential for a woman cheating on him is very high, considering he is not the lover type, he prefers blow jobs over sex, and I am sure you can figure out why. There were a lot of insecurity issues that in the long run, I would have been playing myself short in a major way. So back to what I know. What I know is good and true.

THE LESSON: Not everyone deserves a shot at the title, no matter what the connection. Men who know how to be men need only apply, and please leave your mother at home.

So to that man that had me for a minute, Good Luck on life.

Back on Track

Sometimes on the journey through life, we fall off the road we have in mind for ourselves. Sometimes there are things and people that do not help us get to where we are going, but they are placed in our lives as either a distraction, a reminder or just something to get us back to where we were going in the first place.

I am a known procrastinator and I have a very short attention span. I am not sure why, I guess I need constant stimulation either mentally or physically. I need the energy in my brain to always be challenged to do better, to do more and to keep trying. Every now and then I need a push in the right direction. A push to remind me who I am and what I am here for. I often give people a standin my life who surely donot deserve to be there, thats the kindness in me. I am learning to be more selective in my selection. There is nothing wrong with choosing. We make decisions everyday, but how many are conscious decisions that we think about before making the final decision. Not many.

Today, as the 1st of February approaches us I am going to pay more attention to the decisions I make. Pay more attention to the people I let in my life and let it be ok for me to be just me. I enjoy the company of people from different walks of life. I am able to converse with the most elegant and get down with the dirty, but my true life path longs to be with those who share a common love of life, love and giving. People who know the true meaning of life and those who try to bring meaning to their lives. No bitterness, no hatred, no sadness. Just spread love. Be what you need in your life to someone.

{{Peace Ya'll}}