I have had my share of dating guys who have had peculiar personalities. I am the type of woman who likes to meet people and is very open to the possibility of love and I enjoy dating, however, there are some men you need to be aware of more than others, one being the narcissistic asshole.
1. He is charming- He will smother you with compliments and make you feel incredible. He will give you more than enough attention and confess loving you within a week or two. Then he will try to tear you down and remind you of your flaws and faults. This is done to make you feel that he is superior and you are inferior.
2. It's All About Him- If he has choose you it's because he needs someone to feed into his over rated idea of himself. He is the best at everything. I mean everything, even things he has never tried. He likes insecure, needy women who can cater to his needs and completely serve him, because of course in his mind, he is the King of everything and you were put on this earth for him. The woman who he knows is out of his league is a challenge, but he has convinced himself that she deserves him. Even though they may have nothing in common, he uses other cunning ways to persuade her, like great sex and compulsive lying. He may even pretend that he has accomplished all these great things, yet nothing to show for it. He may even work out a lot, and completely worship his physical accomplishments. He can become very irate and explosive if you do not buy into his superior idea of himself or point out any of his shortcomings. His esteem is very high, but has no merit to support it.
3. Blames Other People- He never takes responsibility for anything. If he doesn't have a job, it's because of someone else. If his family has alienated him, its because THEY have a problem. He has very big plans of things he's going to do, but no follow through because someone else has not allowed him to. He can sometimes have a problem with strong women because depending on the relationship he's had with his mother, she can either be a problem or condone his behavior. They may even be roommates and if so, she baby's him and also caters to his needs. (Let me tell you, I have meet some mothers who more than love their sons, if you know what I mean). He does not have the ability to care for anything. If he says he loves you, he really doesn't, if he hurts your feelings, doesn't matter, your feelings are not his concern. He will turn every situation around and make it about him.
4. Controlling- He has to always be the one in control and controlling your every move becomes his favorite thing. When you decide to leave the relationship he may even stalk you or become abusive to keep you under his wing. He may even try to alienate you from family, making you believe that no one loves you but him. He hates anyone who is more accomplished then he is or anything that appears to be better than he is. He talks down about anyone who has more education, money or anything he knows he does not have. He is a flaw seeker, yet never recognizing his own.
If you have meet anyone who displays this type of personality, please exit the relationship as soon as possible. Even though Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) affects 75% of men, there are some women who can be affected by this kind of personality disorder.
Remember, love is kind, love is gentle, and makes you feel
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