Phenomenal Woman

Phenomenal Woman

BY MAYA ANGELOU

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.

I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size   

But when I start to tell them,

They think I’m telling lies.

I say,

It’s in the reach of my arms,

The span of my hips,   

The stride of my step,   

The curl of my lips.   

I’m a woman

Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman,   

That’s me.

I walk into a room

Just as cool as you please,   

And to a man,

The fellows stand or

Fall down on their knees.   

Then they swarm around me,

A hive of honey bees.   

I say,

It’s the fire in my eyes,   

And the flash of my teeth,   

The swing in my waist,   

And the joy in my feet.   

I’m a woman

Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman,

That’s me.

Men themselves have wondered   

What they see in me.

They try so much

But they can’t touch

My inner mystery.

When I try to show them,   

They say they still can’t see.   

I say,

It’s in the arch of my back,   

The sun of my smile,

The ride of my breasts,

The grace of my style.

I’m a woman

Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman,

That’s me.

Now you understand

Just why my head’s not bowed.   

I don’t shout or jump about

Or have to talk real loud.   

When you see me passing,

It ought to make you proud.

I say,

It’s in the click of my heels,   

The bend of my hair,   

the palm of my hand,   

The need for my care.   

’Cause I’m a woman

Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman,

That’s me.

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Maya Angelou, “Phenomenal Woman” from And Still I Rise. Copyright © 1978 by Maya Angelou. Used by permission of Random House, an imprint and division of Penguin Random House LLC. All rights reserved.

Why Your Husband Prefers Her

Your husband prefers her for several reasons, but I'll just share a few. This is not a post to glorify men who cheat on their loving committed wives. Noo, this is a perspective that is often overlooked.  Just a short trip down an untraveled road.  People get into relationships and marriages without even being on the same page.  One might see it as a matter of convenience or a lapse in sound judgment and the other just might be deeply in love.  One may see it as an opportunity and an easy cover-up and the other may see it as a come-up.  You really never know until shit starts to go south.  But just in case you are wondering, I'll share with you a few reasons why I believe your hubby may prefer her.

Number One. Things just are not the same.  You got married for whatever reasons, and it had nothing to do with love, but you wanted to do what's right.   Or maybe it had more to do with timing than love. You felt like it was time and anyone would do.  Anyone that would say yes, will be considered the one.  Anyone that you could convince that what you both were feeling is really love.  The plan worked, you got married and you find out that you don't even know the person you married and it was downhill from there.  The only way out is into another person.  This person may help ease the reality of your chosen existence, so you get addicted to the feeling of that reality so much so that you can't let go.

Number Two. It's Easier.  They don't argue, and she doesn't ask for anything, so he gives her all he got.  Every time they are together it is a great time of conversation.  She never complains, and only gives her opinion if asked.  All she does is listen.  All she does is everything you used to, all the time. You used to hang on to every word he said, then you started to complain.  Then he was never enough.  Then he couldn't do anything right.  Then he found solace on her breast.  Then he found his peace.  Then he can't hear you anymore.  Then he mentally moves on.

Number Three. He prefers her because she allows him to be himself.  She is not looking to judge him and accepts all of him.  He doesn't have to prove or be anything other than what he is.  Every time he showed you a little bit of himself, you cut him down for the last time, so he never went there again.   He wanted to share his innermost feelings, but you had no interest.  You couldn't let go of his past mistakes so you intentionally made his future miserable.  Now you are mad because he choose her. Angry because his peace doesn't include you.  In dismay because you have crushed his feelings so much that he no longer cares about yours. 

Number four. He might just be in love.  The heart wants what it wants and sometimes there is no denying who that is.  He thought you were the one and he did all the right things, but the heart does not lie.  He thought you were the better choice and fit the profile of life, but the strife you caused made his heart turn sour. Those are just a few reasons why your husband may prefer her.  Everyone's situation is different, take what resonates.   I believe love conquers all and any relationship can be saved if both parties believe that it's worth it.

Peace & Love

Lavidus

I didn't Know What Love Was

I didn't know what love was until you walked into my life

A lover, a friend, made me forget that old life

You opened me up to new galaxies, took me on so many trips

I can never return back to who I was, you my love are a gift

I didn't know what love was until you accepted me through and through

Touched me in places with no hands, baby it had to be you

Carved a place in my heart so deep that we both fell in

Gave new meaning to love, an embrace that will never end

I didn't know what love was until you saw me at my worst

Lifted me up and carried me on your back, until I could stand alone

Never judged, just loved me until I found my own

I didn't know what love was until you showed me the way

Day or night, strong or weak you are here to stay

I tried to be brave and not need you at all

But you made it Ok, for me to fall

I didn't know what love was until you loved me anyway

Stood up for this love and without any delay

You become all I ever wanted so my heart can rest today

Knowing that you have me in every single way

I didn't know what love was until you told me and then showed me

So tonight, I will lay close to you, so I can hear your heartbeat

Knowing that we purposely choose each other as we sleep

I didn't know what love was until I saw it in your eyes

Each moment has led to this kiss and you between my thighs

I didn’t know what love was and now that I do, my heart is yours and I’ll be forever be true.

Lavidus