Keep Going.....

On the road to greatness, on the road to your new beginning, on the road to success, you will come across and face many obstacles.   But let adversity be your guide.  Let it mold you.  Do not resist the changes that are ahead because if you do not go with this magnetic flow, this change that is festering within in, you can not welcome the new you.  Your new chapter will not begin until you are ready to accept and let go.

It is ok to rest and re-evaluate and change what is not working.  But don't you dare stop.  You can revise your plan, change your goals or even make a few mistakes, but do not let that discourage you.  The world needs your voice.  There is no one else like you that do what you do.  There is no one who can do it quite like you, so keep going.   The pain of being a rose with thorns does not stop those buds from blooming into a beautiful red rose.  The transition must take place in order for you to welcome the next stage of your life.

I remember a time when it seemed like everything was going wrong.  I couldn't seem to figure it all out.  I had to stop and realize that it is not my job to figure it all out.  It is not my job to always have it all together.  I don't always have to have all the right answers.  I decided to relax into my being, focus on what I desire, believe that I deserve it and watch it unfold.  I will be the first to say that it is not an easy task to give up the elusive nature of "control".   You must be willing to surrender.   You must be able to look inside yourself and take a moment to really see who you really are.  Who are you?  What is your purpose?  Adversity, obstacles, downfalls are all the things that help you to develop the best you.  You do not learn your greatest lessons by always knowing what to do.  You learn by not knowing and being willing to take a chance to find out.  You are the conductor, the creator, the influencer, the magician, so make it happen.

Peace & Love


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I Choose Me.....

When I hear some women say, "I signed up for this" or  'I knew what I was getting into."  What exactly does that mean?  Is that your way of accepting any kind of treatment in a marriage or relationship because you have grown to know that person?  And since you have been with them for so long, you have learned to accept and condone their bullshit?  Correct me if I am wrong, I am seeking understanding. 

I've seen a lot of women, do a lot of things for the sake of marriage.  For the sake of marriage.  Not for love, not for self-respect, not even for the sake of their children; but for the constitution of marriage.  She will endure a miserable life because the other option would be how she would look to other people if her marriage failed.  Saving face is more important than making the decision to live your best life.

Many women endure horrible marriages because of what it looks like to other people.  They bear and grin it when their husbands have outside children,  concubines, or even when he has shown you the highest level of disrespect> You hold on because that is your husband. That ring and contract say that you have to stay, or does it? Are you happy with your contract?  Are you fulfilled and supported?  Is he fulfilling his end of the contract?  Or since you know him, you know he won't completely fulfill all your needs and that you'll probably never be completely happy, so it's enough to get by.   There is a level of comfort and complacency that develops and becomes the norm.  The real problems get pushed under the rug and the perception of how things are becomes what is real.

Sometimes you have to be strong enough to choose you. Which is what I did once my husband decided to abuse me.  All it took was one hit.  My strength to leave came from the fact that I had seen my mother get abused; for eight years she stayed.  So imagine what I learned about abusive relationships?  Sorry, doesn't mean it will stop, a gift doesn't mean it will stop, money doesn't mean it will stop.  So it was a no-brainer to leave and get my marriage annulled after one hit.  I choose me. And I will continue to, until the day I die.  Not all abuse is physical, words can be deadly, neglect can be deadly,

Choose you just on the strength of wanting to be the best you.  Choose you based on the fact that you deserve the best of everything. Choose you so, your daughters can see you being strong. Choose you so that your sons, know how to treat a woman.  Choose you selfishly, how else can you give to the world?  How else can you become strong and deal with all the battles we must face.  You have to know yourself and give to yourself.  Be kind and gentle with yourself.  We become nothing to ourselves when we give so much to outside things.  We never get to know who we are because the face we show to the world, is not the face we see in the mirror.   Learn to choose you, you will feel so much better being a mom, being a wife, a sister, being husband, being a brother, being a man; but most of all for being completely unapologetically you.





Peace & Love



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