Love & Happiness........

There are not too many people who have marriages that I look up to, admire or want to emulate. I am not sure if that is a sad thing to say or if that's just the way it is. I love the idea of marriage, I love what it can be between two people who truly love and care for each other unselfishly. It can be an amazing and wonderful experience. For others, who do not get married for the right reasons, there will always be reasons to leave it all alone and move on. There is no working it out or trying, everything just fizzles. And for some, there is the motion of just staying for matters of convenience i.e kids, money, mortgage etc. I honor and respect the union of marriage too much and now that I am getting to know myself more and more each day, I am glad that I have waited. I am glad that I have become the woman that I am. Looking back it has not been the easiest of roads, I have learned to appreciate the struggle. My life experience is something that I can tell my daughters about and pass on to anyone who is willing to listen.

I am not confessing perfection, I am professing experience. There is no greater teacher than life. Either you are able to roll with it and make the most of the gift that God has given you, or you give up and just take whatever as it comes. Never making the adjustment to the circumstances. There is one thing that I know about myself is that I never compromise my beliefs for the comfort of others. What I think and believe about myself is way more important that what you may think about me. I love me, I can't help it.

So if you are married I hope that even on your worse day with this person you can look that person in the eye and say that you love them anyway, that is love. I hope that you compromise with joy and embrace what the two of you may have, because you love and appreciate them that much. Comfortable with the fact that you have nothing to prove, because your essence speaks for itself. And if you are not married, use this time to get to know who you are, and what makes you unique. Think about what you can bring to the person who may make you want to make "that move". Love is a wonderful and complicated thing and even if and when it doesn't lead to marriage everyone should get the chance to experience it at it's ultimate level, it all starts with the love of yourself.


Smoochez All...Who's Lovin' U?

Ummm...so yeah..

I have simply been MIA. I know, I know. I am trying to stay consistent with the bloggering and stuff, but my life is filled with so many things that are happening, the last thing that I have real time to do is go to sleep. And when I do finally go to sleep I am knocked out for realz. There is a change that is taking place in my life and I can not even tell you how excited and happy I am. Learning about self and appreciating life is in itself a great gift that God has given to everyone who lives and breathes. Some of us find it and unfortunately some of us do not.

I have found that you are not serving someone, helping someone or living your life as an example for those who could probably use your experience to make a change, then you are just existing. Everyday should be a day to do something different. Try yourself out, learn your purpose, then live it. It is amazing when you find out who you truly are. And whether you like yourself or not, it is you, inside and out. There is no hiding from what lies within, and if changes need to be made, then make them.

I am a different kind woman, person, friend, daughter and there have been some life experiences that could have left me a bitter woman if I choose to be. But when you find that God takes you through things to help build up who you are , then you can accept the trials and valleys with little understanding. No matter what hurts, or who have hurt you, you can can rise above it all, because when there is a purpose you must fulfill there are certain things that need to happen before it all can take place. You can not tell anyone about anything that you have not been through yourself. That is how you use your life experiences. It is also how you accept what you cannot change and grow from it. That is what I am experiencing now. I am writing a book, but this book not only comes from my imagination, it also has some personal experiences, things that I would not have been able to write about unless I experienced them.

When you come from a different thread, and the people around you may think that you are depressed or sad because your life does not mirror theirs, it is because God has a different purpose for you. He has choose to use in a different way. It takes a willing and strong person to step back and let it happen. With all that I have been through, with all that I have experienced, there is not a person on the planet that I would trade lives with. My gifts, my life is too unique and is a one of a kind design. I guess what I trying to say is, be you. Do you, and appreciate who you are. Living in falsehood will only bring you misery and confusion. Comparing yourself to others will only allow you to slowly kill the life that God has intended for you. Go out and find yourself, then embrace and love it til' no end.

Peace.......