I recently had a conversation with a man who wasn't sure if he should let his "situation" go. I called it a long term relationship. His situation was he was with a woman with four children, none of them are his. He wants to have children and she is done having children. They both are feeling the strain of the relationship because he is taking care of four children that are not his and wants to be a father. She has told him she would understand if he wanted to go on to another relationship that would provide him children. Instead of being honest and having a honest conversation, he wants to cheat on her instead. Once he cheats and she finds out, guess what? The relationship will still be over. Her suggesting that he can leave, was too easy. He wanted to hurt her first, so he could validate her leaving him and relieve himself of the guilt of leaving her with four kids. An honest conversation would eliminate all of that. How do you co-exist in a relationship with someone you can't be honest with? Sometimes people hold on to you just to prevent you from being happy with someone else. My point is, do not ever waste time in a situation that you know you should leave. Honor that gut feeling, it's never wrong.
Starting over is not easy. I have lost count of the many times I had to start over. The numerous of times I lost things and started from nothing. It seemed bleak at first, but once you look at it as an opportunity, then the ideas start to flow, the gates began to open and life becomes what you imagined. Starting over is a great opportunity to do what you didn't do. It is a chance to put into practice what you learned from the last mistake. Let the change take place and grow from the lesson. We are all here to experience life and share that experience. There are no perfect methods to existing, so seize the day! Become like water and flow.
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