In my dislike and amusement for people who are self-centered and selfish, I often think how the hell they got that way. There are people who truly believe that all they have obtained in life they have done on their own. I believe that it may have felt as if you were on your own, but there were places, people, forces of nature working in your favor to assist you in your journey. If all you've done was solely for the purpose of you, why would you have the need to show it and be validated for it by other people? Everyone needs help, assistance, or some kind of giving catalyst that may make them feel better and go farther than before.
You had help getting here, someone carried you for seven to nine months and then someone helped you take your first earthly breath. And for those of you who were born 5 and 6 months early, you just could not wait to get here to be of help to those you may come across. You may even serve a greater purpose than most who were allowed to savor those additional 4-5 months. It's all quite magical and perfectly in sync with nature, God, the spirit and the true of essence of being. But not everyone knows or have the capacity to think beyond what they see, what they are told or what they are taught.
When I speak in terms of helping I am not speaking about those people who do things for their own self gratification. I am speaking in terms of those who do things for others not only because there is a need, but because they are moved to do so. Those are the people that are truly blessed, per say. The ones that have an idea that it is not all about them, but us. I have been helping people for as long as I can remember, but it was not with the thought that I am helping, it was with the intention of making someone feel better than before, to share what I have or to give them hope that all is not lost. It does not always have to be a tangible item or monetary thing. A conversation, a kind word, a hello, a compliment, a touch on the shoulder, a thank you or the holding of a hand, because you never know what a person is going through.
I remember once when my mother had taken me school shopping and I had a friend who did not have much. I gave her some of my new clothes, she took them out of jealousy, but I gave them out of kindness. When people feel that they have to take it is because they also feel that they are not worthy of having. Or they can not get, and do not want you to have. But the blessing is in giving not taking. The taker must always in turn become the giver. In other terms, paying it forward. Beware of takers who do the opposite. the people that will suck you dry, without nothing to offer in return. The opportunist, the bottom-feeders they often find those who are willing to give sincerely and take advantage of their kindness, but also can serve the purpose to awaken the giver.
Giving without expectation, helping out of sincerity and not notoriety. The reward is helping someone not only when they ask, (most people who really need help do not ask) but giving when they least expect it, or when it moves you to do so. Not everyone is so in tuned with the human spirit that they can feel a need from another person without them even saying it. It's really a simple thing, we are put on earth to serve and help each other, anyone who thinks they are alone in this vast world must be made to feel that they are not. So the next time you feel the need, don't be afraid to ask someone, How can I help you?
Peace & Love, L
