Sex change, it means that women are acting like negro's and the men are acting like bitches. What's with the sex change? Woman are paying these men bills and letting them drive your car, what the hell? And the men are at home complaining about having to clean the house and asking for money to buy some shoe's, really? And women stop being these men mother's, you can never fill that void. Haven't you heard what K. Michelle said, "You can't raise a man"." Now if you are choosing to be somebody's cougar/mom/provider, then woman that's on you, don't expect too much from a kept man, they can be worse than a 5 year old child with ADD.
Is it not the role of the man to choose his woman? And be the man, the provider and protector. I guess I am too old fashioned, those days may be long gone. What I am hearing is men complaining about their choice of woman. It's like they gossip worse then we do. Never putting the blame where it belongs. In a relationship someone has to be accountable, someone has to be the grown up.
I sit in the barber shop (A man's gossip arena) and hear these men complain about their baby mama's, (not wives). I hear them say how they are gold diggers, irresponsible, they expect too much, and lazy. It has left the man emotionally unconnected to ever develop a relationship that would be beneficial. I always consider the source when a man complains about the woman that he has had children with. This does not go on without saying that some women play their roles as well when a relationship goes array, but that's not the point. Who do you think she was before she became this person you don't like any more? What was your intention in the first place?
You can not blame this mishap all on your woman, or X. At some point things were great. There was something that led you to this woman. You must take a look at your part in the demise of the relationship. Sometimes a man chooses a woman who will depend on him, make him look good, and does not challenge what he chooses to believe about her. He also chooses a woman based on his level of security. For instance, every man may desire to have a Beyoncé on their arm, but in reality you may not be the confident, secure man that could have a woman like that, you would definitely have to be a Jay Z. Like I was told at the barber shop, some men may be intimidated by a woman with her own, and my response to that was, "Then that's not the man for me."
So when you choose a woman who appears to be on your level and find later that she's not, then you might need to find out what your level really is. You can not possibly get different results doing the same thing each time. Relationships are hard work, and even harder with the wrong person. It's clear science that you attract what you are. That's why it's possible to have different mates at each period of your life. A person could marry a lot of times to figure it out, or a man might date a woman for 10 years, break up and marry "the one" he meet just a year ago. It happens. Some will last through the change, other's will not, sometimes that change means wanting someone else.
WE choose who we decide to love. If it's the right person, it could be a very magical thing. But, if you keep making the same mistakes, and finding yourself in the same kind of relationship, then maybe you should start giving yourself some real love and attention. You can not always blame the person you are choosing. If you think you are unworthy of love, you will continue to choose the person who will continually not give it to you. I could easily say make better choices, but sometimes we are in such a rush to seal the deal or make someone our own that we miss the fact that the woman we are choosing may be a lazy, gold digging, monster of a person and lack any kind of communication skills, and choose her based on the fact that she looks good on your arm. Yes, I get it, but it still is your choice, so why complain?
I love the dynamics of relationships, how they can change you, and be a reflection of who you are and make you a better man or woman. Just make sure you know who's on your arm, be sure of who is representing you, so if she does become the mother of your children, you won't be surprised when all of sudden she turns ratchet! or (be a Rat chick..lol).
So men, put your pants back on, stand up and wait for what you want in your life. That is IF you are truly ready. Lead with more than just your assets. And women, letting the man be the "man" is more appealing than being his mother. At first, he may not know how to be the man, but give him a chance, lead with your heart (and not your mouth), he could turn out to be something more than just someone to lay with.
Peace & Love Ya'll
