Tellin' the story like it is.....

I meet this dude the other day who wanted me to make time for him. I told him that I am a mother first and that my free days are Fridays and Saturdays, Sundays are for my children and of course during the week it's almost impossible to make time for for someone, with the kids, writing, checking out publishing options and just having a few moments to myself. Why this brotha did not understand that I am not sure, which is part of this dilemma I am facing. Do men really need that much attention before they even get to know a sistah? I mean, if I am handling things and is willing to give you a day, isn't that good enough?
Apparently not.
He did not call back once I told him what was up with me as far as dating is concerned. OF course, I am not offended by that because tome, it's easier for me when a man eliminates himself early, than it is for me to eliminate him later, for obvious reasons.
If that is the way things are going to be with men these days and I doubt that it really is, I am going to single for a long time. My time is valuable and I value another persons time as well. I do not understand the urgency in seeing me and not even talking to me on the phone, lets have a conversation first, honey. Let me feel you out, don't you want to know if I am a pretty psycho chic? Or do you think you are just going to be hittin' the skins? I have been out the loop with datin' I mean is that how they are doing it these days?
Well, let me tell it like it is. Any woman that is worth something is not going to give you the time of day with that type of intention. I am not desperate by any means. Even though I have more fun when I am single, I will not compromise when it comes to considering someone for a committed relationship. Like I said, I am a mom first, and my children come with me, so at this point in the game, there is no playin when it comes to the man that is around my children. You have to be an exceptional brotha', because I am an exceptional woman. I am not going to be one of those women who say that good men are hard to find, that is not my story. I have passed up a few simply because I was not ready to go there with that particular man. I have chosen to be a single woman for the last four years, for my personal growth, to become a better woman, mother, wife and whatever else that comes my way. There are not very many like me, I know, I just want my equal in body, mind and spirit.
I will not marry for the sake of saying I am married. I will not commit to you, unless we share the same goals of what we want in a relationship, and gawd knows that a big dick (although weighs heavy) will not be the deciding factor in determining my relationship with you. Come on brotha's keep it real with yourselves, you get as well as you give.

Life is About Choices

Life is about choices, I must've have said that comment over a dozen times over the weekend. I find that people often wonder how they get in certain situations. How they end up with the people in their lives, ya know like that wife or husband? That loser job or boyfriend. Why you loan money to that dumb ass friend that never pays you back. It's all pretty simple, it's because of the choices that we make.
It really isn't science. If we took the time to think maybe things would be different,but where would all the learning we are suppose to gain from making mistakes come from? It is suppose to help us reflect and not do it again, but some of us learn the "hard way", we know it all. Some of us have a tendency to take so much for granted and once we decide to take it seriously, its gone. Either way, it was our choice. There is no blaming anyone when it comes to the decisions we make in our everyday lives. And if we do feel the need to blame, point that middle finger back at yourself because it starts with you!

I am sleepy, ya'll ain't new to this shit!