Wednesday, June 19, 2019
Do you really have enemies or is the real enemy within?
Is your adversary really someone who dislikes you or is it someone who is just a reflection of your shadow side? What I mean by shadow side is the side that you do not show. The side that may need healing. The side that may lead people to believe that you are not a good person, or that you are weird or even devilish.
Your enemy, if that is truly a real thing, just might be able to show you something about yourself if you look a little closer. A person can become an enemy without even knowing it. There are some situations that have manifested itself into your life because that is the way it has always been. And since you are more interested in being a part of something and not seeing it for what it really is, the cycle continues. If you were to break the cycle you will become an enemy of the enemy. A person can become an enemy if they do things that are against a person's free will, impede them in some way or take something that was not willfully given. However you gain your title, in order to become an enemy, you have to be recognized as one.
From the Montagues and Capulets to the Jones and Williams, born into the enemy cycle. Born into a family and taught to dislike another family for whatever reason. The cycles will continue without ever getting to the core of the matter. Sometimes your enemy will be the first one to see your light. They will envy you based on the fact that they cannot and will not ever be you, so ways are created to dim your light, distract you off your path and make you look like the enemy. Your enemy already knows you, that's why we rarely are deceived by people we don't know.
You have the power to choose how you want to navigate your way through this life. You decide who the people are in your life, so if you decide to keep an enemy around, do it with intent. There is truth in the saying, "Keep your friends close and your enemies closer." An enemy will always reveal things to you that a friend won't. Having an enemy along the way is not all bad, just change your perspective and be willing to see people for who they are and the roles they play and use it to your advantage.
Peace & Love
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Friday, May 31, 2019
On the road to greatness, on the road to your new beginning, on the road to success, you will come across and face many obstacles. But let adversity be your guide. Let it mold you. Do not resist the changes that are ahead because if you do not go with this magnetic flow, this change that is festering within in, you can not welcome the new you. Your new chapter will not begin until you are ready to accept and let go.
It is ok to rest and re-evaluate and change what is not working. But don't you dare stop. You can revise your plan, change your goals or even make a few mistakes, but do not let that discourage you. The world needs your voice. There is no one else like you that do what you do. There is no one who can do it quite like you, so keep going. The pain of being a rose with thorns does not stop those buds from blooming into a beautiful red rose. The transition must take place in order for you to welcome the next stage of your life.
I remember a time when it seemed like everything was going wrong. I couldn't seem to figure it all out. I had to stop and realize that it is not my job to figure it all out. It is not my job to always have it all together. I don't always have to have all the right answers. I decided to relax into my being, focus on what I desire, believe that I deserve it and watch it unfold. I will be the first to say that it is not an easy task to give up the elusive nature of "control". You must be willing to surrender. You must be able to look inside yourself and take a moment to really see who you really are. Who are you? What is your purpose? Adversity, obstacles, downfalls are all the things that help you to develop the best you. You do not learn your greatest lessons by always knowing what to do. You learn by not knowing and being willing to take a chance to find out. You are the conductor, the creator, the influencer, the magician, so make it happen.
Peace & Love
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Sunday, May 19, 2019
When I hear some women say, "I signed up for this" or 'I knew what I was getting into." What exactly does that mean? Is that your way of accepting any kind of treatment in a marriage or relationship because you have grown to know that person? And since you have been with them for so long, you have learned to accept and condone their bullshit? Correct me if I am wrong, I am seeking understanding.
I've seen a lot of women, do a lot of things for the sake of marriage. For the sake of marriage. Not for love, not for self-respect, not even for the sake of their children; but for the constitution of marriage. She will endure a miserable life because the other option would be how she would look to other people if her marriage failed. Saving face is more important than making the decision to live your best life.
Many women endure horrible marriages because of what it looks like to other people. They bear and grin it when their husbands have outside children, concubines, or even when he has shown you the highest level of disrespect> You hold on because that is your husband. That ring and contract say that you have to stay, or does it? Are you happy with your contract? Are you fulfilled and supported? Is he fulfilling his end of the contract? Or since you know him, you know he won't completely fulfill all your needs and that you'll probably never be completely happy, so it's enough to get by. There is a level of comfort and complacency that develops and becomes the norm. The real problems get pushed under the rug and the perception of how things are becomes what is real.
Sometimes you have to be strong enough to choose you. Which is what I did once my husband decided to abuse me. All it took was one hit. My strength to leave came from the fact that I had seen my mother get abused; for eight years she stayed. So imagine what I learned about abusive relationships? Sorry, doesn't mean it will stop, a gift doesn't mean it will stop, money doesn't mean it will stop. So it was a no-brainer to leave and get my marriage annulled after one hit. I choose me. And I will continue to, until the day I die. Not all abuse is physical, words can be deadly, neglect can be deadly,
Choose you just on the strength of wanting to be the best you. Choose you based on the fact that you deserve the best of everything. Choose you so, your daughters can see you being strong. Choose you so that your sons, know how to treat a woman. Choose you selfishly, how else can you give to the world? How else can you become strong and deal with all the battles we must face. You have to know yourself and give to yourself. Be kind and gentle with yourself. We become nothing to ourselves when we give so much to outside things. We never get to know who we are because the face we show to the world, is not the face we see in the mirror. Learn to choose you, you will feel so much better being a mom, being a wife, a sister, being husband, being a brother, being a man; but most of all for being completely unapologetically you.
Peace & Love
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Monday, April 29, 2019
They say that change is inevitable, so why do so many people resist it? They say that people have the most difficult time changing because of the unknown. Even if that unknown is something that they asked for. How many of you are prepared for something new, but are not prepared to change in order to get it? That's the bridge that connects the successful and the unsuccessful. You have to change in order to gain your reward. Your thoughts determine how you exist.
You have to be able to change and adapt to each new version of you. You can't navigate through life on the same gas you had at 15 or 25 or 35, you are required to change and hopefully upgrade your thoughts. Do you know what happens when you do not change? The universe, life, God sends you events, people, and things to help you change; to help you to see. Life can sometimes rattle your cage; demands you to get out of your box, in order to help you find the best version of yourself. There are some people who appear to never change or at least never change in ways that we can always see, but it does happen. People can change physically, mentally and spiritually. We are not just talking about a change of action, but a change of thought which is the greatest action you can make. Your thought initiates whatever change you want to make. Your thoughts can take you there and prepare you for what is to be.
So don't be afraid of change, take that leap! Don't be afraid to venture into the unknown, there is where you will find your true self. The self you have yet to show the world. A woman can change her mind a million times a day, and each time she does, it will always be the right decision. Choose your destiny, accept what is already your's. Each step you have taken has led you to this moment, the taste of victory is oh so sweet. Savor who you are, know what you are, live the life that you so meticulously designed. Change in order to grasp the full metamorphosis of your amazing, complicated and flawed being.
Love & You
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Tuesday, April 23, 2019
What do you really want? Do you really know what you want? Do you want a better life? A better husband or wife? A better job? Or situation? To be a better woman or man? To fly or stand still? More money or specific destination? What do you really want?
How much time have you taken to find out what you really want? Are you taking just whatever is given, or are you making intentional decisions that will ultimately lead you to your desired destination? What is it? I can not tell you how many times I thought I knew what I wanted only to find out that I wanted something else. The changes can be stifling, but you are the captain of your undecisive ship, so keep it at bay or make a decision. What do you want?
Some people go through life unsure about what they are, so they become the victims of someone else's thoughts. They do what someone else wants them to, they talk like someone else wants them to, and they walk like someone else wants them to. Unable to formulate a thought on their own, so it is given to them. Imagine that. You thoughts can be given to you. SO Think!
What do you really want? Because that is what you can really have. Make sure that the decision is yours, the mistake is your's to make, so make it a good one. Look past judgments and indecision, this time will be yours, just jump and feel where you land. Imagine the greatest you and walk in that vibration, become that is what you already are.
Presently Loving On You
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Thursday, April 4, 2019
What happens when the love is gone and your heart is still left beating. How do you let go of someone that you have already let go? How long before the official break takes place? Do we remain friends or is this really the end? There is no easy way to let someone know that you are no longer in love with them. It's not easy letting go the part of yourself that is no longer serving you. However, the sooner you do it, the better you both will be.
Staying in a relationship that is really already over is a different kind of abuse. You know it's over, but you hang on for reasons that you can not explain or justify. That's when real love transitions to a real lie and the unnatural start to feel natural. Months, years or days ago you would have never settled for such a situation; but, time and complacency has allowed you to relax into someone that is no longer you. Let it go. If you are holding on to someone for beneficial reasons and it has nothing to do with love or the lack of, then you are sealing your fate. Intentions set the tone for your future. Good or bad, you control that future.
Sometimes growth is painful, but stagnation is deadly. Peeling away that old skin, that old way of thinking so the new you can emerge is detrimental. Experience the pain of letting go. There is something that is requiring you to learn this lesson so the new you can recognize what you didn't before. It will be ok. Everything is happening so that you can get to the best you. Don't ignore the opportunity to grow. You will only repeat the lesson.
Learn & Grow
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Friday, March 29, 2019
Have you ever heard the saying, everyone wants to go to heaven, but no one wants to die to get there? Heaven on earth. Stairway to Heaven. Heaven can wait, but can it? What if you can have everything you desire right here on earth. What if you found out that your mind is the magic wand and anything that you could think of, you could have. And here's the catch, all you have to do is have the sincere belief that you deserve it and it is yours.
So, why wait on heaven when you can have it right now. As above, so below, right? Imagine waking up every day living the most amazing life ever. A life that you could only imagine. Imagine it! And the universe will supply. Have you ever walked along the coast and the ocean never seems to end? That is heaven. Holding the hand of your lover, knowing that there is nothing in the world that could break you apart. That is heaven. Making love under the stars, when the moon is your only light. Heaven can watch. It's time to be so filled with love that you will draw in all that you desire. A lot of you folks won't make it to heaven cause you're too busy waiting on it when you should be creating it. You are it. You are the star the shines so bright.
So why wait on heaven, when you can have it right now. Your perception of life determines how you navigate it. Even the darkest of days eventually brings light. Spread your love, share your love and if it's not real love, keep your love. Savor the flowers of life, taste the magic of love. Transform your life into whatever you want it to be. The time is now.
Love & Darkness
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