There comes a time in your life when you think that you have seen and heard and seen everything and then something else comes along that just is mind boddling.
I was seeing this dude from a familiar territory. The familiarity is what made me feel comfortable with this man. He was not what I would be normally attracted to. But he had a nice personality and we had a few things in common.
A few months into the relationship and then the true colors start to show. I usually can spot a dude when he is not on the up and up, but my guards were down because we come from the same place, big mistake. I ignored the signs that coming from anyone else I would have booked going 90. Everything was small, no get back and not driving in the same lane as me. So there had to be conflicts. But the ringer was when he told me that I could not come over because his mother was spending the night. Then it hit me and it hit me hard. This man had expressed to me earlier that he was a mama's boy and that to me sometimes is all good, that is if the mother has a man in her life. When they do not, they can either fuck up the son emotionally or just let him be a man. NOTE: A woman can never raise a man, he has to get that or find that from somewhere else. This man had an unusual relationship with his mother. They argued like husband and wife. If I cooked, then she cooked, if I brought things over, then she would get something for him as well. I would have rather been in competition with another woman, but his mother? There is no winning that battle and me considering all the other shit that I had let pass, he was definitely not worth the battle. So I let that go. Hind sight is 20/20 there were things that were said that I just did not pay attention to. Like how his mother cursed out his baby mama, how she would not mind him calling one of his chicks a bitch or whatever. Mom was just a bit too wifey for me. That made him look real spineless and I don't do spineless.
When I departed I told him how I felt and that he would never have a woman in his life with the way their relationship is, NEVER! And I am sure that is fine with him. The overall potential for a woman cheating on him is very high, considering he is not the lover type, he prefers blow jobs over sex, and I am sure you can figure out why. There were a lot of insecurity issues that in the long run, I would have been playing myself short in a major way. So back to what I know. What I know is good and true.
THE LESSON: Not everyone deserves a shot at the title, no matter what the connection. Men who know how to be men need only apply, and please leave your mother at home.
So to that man that had me for a minute, Good Luck on life.
